1 Accepting

Accepting people is a stance that indicates an understanding that other people may see things differently. Sometimes, being willing to accommodate different perspectives can deepen knowledge or consolidate a current position. So, being accepting can be a position of power. Those who persist with this attitude may encourage others to adopt it as well. Such flexibility and the insights that arise from it can be of great value to any organization.


You can maintain or increase your level of acceptance by loosening the reins a little. That means you could try to become more comfortable with being uncomfortable at work. People who need to control situations are usually trying to feel more comfortable. Typically, they want to be sure that activities are being done to an appropriate standard which minimizes the risk of setbacks or failure. However, as someone with a strong sense of accepting, you probably already know that many events and situations are beyond your control. And, those who attempt to dominate something that is uncontrollable can quickly find they are experiencing higher levels of stress.

As you strengthen your level of acceptance, you could try to assess situations more thoroughly before attempting to influence them. Maybe you could offer advice only when asked. Maybe you could allow a team of qualified staff to do their jobs without unnecessary interference. As you develop your acceptance of what you cannot or need not control, you may feel uncertain but you will also likely feel a lightness as some burdens are lifted from your shoulders. It will probably help you to focus more precisely on what is important and to be more effective in making decisions and taking action.

Expecting a lot from colleagues and managers is a recipe for trouble. Are you allocating too much power outside of yourself and outsourcing your success? Some people will exceed your expectations, but others will disappoint you if you keep putting them on a pedestal. To increase your acceptance, try lowering your expectations. You’ll probably find yourself being triggered less. Sometimes, finding common ground with colleagues can be as simple as sharing a joke. You don’t need to have a deep connection to accept people. Find something less significant on which you both agree. Even the smallest hint of common ground can build the foundation for positive future interactions.

As a bonus, watch your networking skills increase if you follow these suggestions. It is possibly time to reduce the inclination to judge yourself. Judgment of others is often a result of our own personal criticisms. If you stop putting pressure on yourself to do things the “right” way at work, you’ll also stop putting pressure on others so that there is a good chance that office tensions can decrease. Not judging yourself or others is a crucial step to boost acceptance.

2 Alert

Alert people are wide awake and focused on details and changes. Often they are searching for or expecting something. Typically, their senses are fully activated. Alert professionals often gain an advantage with this stance by discovering opportunities or avoiding troubles. An alert staff member is an invaluable asset to their manager.


At the most superficial level, consuming caffeine in the office is a great way to get a boost of energy but beware of dehydration, which can make it difficult to concentrate and sometimes causes people to become drowsy or sluggish. It’s best to drink plenty of water to avoid these unpleasant side effects. Drinking cold water can also help you feel more refreshed and awake, so add some ice to your bottle.

There are other things that can drain your energy in a less obvious way, such as negative thoughts. So, it’s important to focus on maintaining a positive mental attitude, particularly by keeping your mind on achieving success. Positive affirmations can help to keep you motivated and focused while you work. For instance, silently telling yourself, “I can complete this task within 1 hour”, will help you to keep your energy at a higher level than if you were saying to yourself “I feel tired so how can I complete all these tasks before closing time?” Try it. You’ll probably be surprised how much it helps.

Warmer rooms tend to make people feel drowsier because, when our bodies regulate our temperature, we sweat. The more your body works to cool you down, the more of an effort your body has to make, which can ultimately lead to fatigue. Ignore this if you already work in a cool office environment, if you use a fan, or if you open a window to let in a cool breeze to wake you up when you’re falling asleep at your desk.

Have you ever tried interval training for your brain? This means working on something intensely for 45 minutes, then immediately reducing the pace for 15 minutes. Put this into practice with one of your tasks for the day and see what difference it makes to how much longer you can stay alert. As a bonus, it’s a brilliant way to reduce feeling overwhelmed by complex or tedious tasks, as well.

Getting up early helps you to get organized, to think strategically, and to create plans. Additionally, many early risers report being more creative and alert in the mornings. The time between 5 A.M. and 6 A.M., when most people aren’t awake, provides a terrific opportunity to get ahead. And it’s also likely that you will encounter fewer distractions from your colleagues if you are the first to arrive at the office.

3 Amenable

Typically, someone who is amenable makes their point in a balanced and dignified way. This approach, which is open-minded and, usually relaxed in tone, often reduces friction in any social or professional situation. When staff and managers listen to all sides, the resulting decisions usually help organizations to move forward and to bring individuals into a position in which productive behaviors are developed and maintained.


One of the best ways to maintain or enhance this stance is to start listening more closely. Some successful people are more open and amenable to feedback because they understand that good decisions arise from considering differing views and being open to opposing arguments. This approach helps them to see the world objectively.

A powerful active listening technique is to silently summarize what someone is saying. You could make a mental note of each point they make. That will strengthen your memory, too. So, listen openly without judgment in order to absorb your colleagues’ thoughts. Later, after careful consideration, you can decide what to accept and what to reject. Quickly rushing to block information on the basis of questioning the intention behind it rarely helps anyone. Maintaining an amenable disposition can lead to better decisions, better results, and can strengthen your position and that of your organization.

Ask yourself what you value more, the truth, or your own beliefs? If you value your own beliefs more, you’re likely to want to strongly defend them. So, why would you listen to anyone else? To have a chance at truly hearing other colleague’s thoughts, you have to value the truth more than your own opinion, and you have to enter that interaction with a measure of humility that allows you to accept something new.

You need to understand that your opinion may not be the final answer. It’s just a snapshot of where your mind is at this moment. Your opinion is not something you have to constantly defend. When you operate on the basis that everyone’s opinions can change, it gives you room to re-articulate your own beliefs in your efforts to discover the truth.

Don’t downplay your passions or insights. It is important to stay open-minded and to encourage other colleagues to loosen up, as well. Next time someone asks you what you think about a troublesome issue, try saying, “This is what I think about the situation right now.”

The higher you boost this trait, the higher your status will rise in your workplace. You’ll tend to make friends and supporters more easily and you will be likely seen as being trustworthy, honest, modest, and cooperative. These aspects will serve you and your career well.

4 Troubled

If someone is upset about something, it is usually obvious to those with whom they come into contact. Sometimes, the signs are subtle. Sometimes, they are obvious. Usually, at some stage, a person who is troubled or angry will express themselves in an emotionally searing way that will leave the smell of smoke in the air.

Co-workers may try to calm emotions, typically by focusing on rational issues like facts or data. This can help to ease the cause of concern so that a sense of balance can be restored and the focus on achieving organizational objectives can be reestablished.


Throughout a career, feeling troubled is an emotion people confront and they need to learn how to manage it in order to become more successful. Typically, their main task is to disrupt the automatic thought pattern that’s been triggered, whether rightly or wrongly.

If you need to do this, you could immediately focus on possible solutions rather than the problem. It’s easy and almost comforting to dwell on what seems to be making you troubled or angry, but that isn’t necessarily going to pay off in the long run.

Ruminating can be damaging because it takes time and mental energy away from problem-solving, leaving that person stuck with negativity. Working on solutions can give you the chance to quickly gain the strength needed to move on to a better, more productive situation.

This emotion can come from many different sources. Maybe, you were promised a raise or an important project, and it did not happen. Maybe you did not live up to a manager’s expectations and they decided to focus on someone else. Maybe, you were being micromanaged and criticized too much and your reactions were too negative.

When these bad situations arise and you can’t resist the urge to express your troubled feelings, try doing it in writing. Whether you scribble your heartfelt opinion onto a piece of paper or hammer out something on your computer like an essay or term paper, you’ll feel much better after your demons have been exorcised.

Under no circumstances send this document to anyone else. Read it again when you’re calmer, then delete it for good. At this time, you can also ask yourself, “How would (insert the name of a person you look up to) handle this situation?” You may not be comfortable with the answer you give yourself.

 Some people, who are feeling troubled after they leave work, change their clothes as soon as they get home. This simple action may help you to change your state of mind.

Remember that attempting to or succeeding in managing your negative emotions is an impressive personal achievement of which you should be proud. Give yourself some self-love to acknowledge the fact that you’re gradually learning to get a handle on it. Is it time for a treat?

5 Animated

When someone expresses themselves firmly, it suggests they are certain about what is happening. When that expression is brimming with energy and enthusiasm, their message often indicates that their level of certainty is so strong that they feel it is essential that others accept their point of view. Whether their position is true or not, their work colleagues will likely experience the combined impact of a strong intellect and a powerful emotional punch.


To maintain this energy, you could continue to focus on lively, engaging interactions. This will attract colleagues and clients through the power of your charisma. Get them interested and accepting of your ideas and mission. Typically that will open the door to persuasion, helping you to more easily induce them to do things you want them to do.

So keep expressing yourself openly and with enthusiasm because strong, sincere emotions, boosted by sound knowledge, will encourage people to agree with you and to follow your lead. Your charisma may move colleagues to finish a project ahead of time or induce clients to buy something extra.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is going directionless into important workplace discussions. You would never start driving in your car unless you knew your destination, so why would you enter a serious conversation without a specific goal in mind? Like any good athlete, you should practice, prepare, and execute to win.

It is important to realize that you don’t want to win a conversation, but you do want to be awarded a raise of your salary or an acknowledgement of your achievements.

Before these important interactions occur, ensure that your excitement and energy will be well directed. Know your audience and understand your topic. Being certain about your purpose provides confidence, boosts influence, and allows you to be more animated in a natural and contagious way.

People love to follow someone who seems to understand the right direction to achieve common goals.

6 Displeased

Someone who can’t do something or can’t get what they want is highly likely to be disgruntled or unsettled. Being displeased clearly suggests that their plans or expectations have been disrupted. Possibly someone has said or done something that is against their wishes or has harmed them in some way. Friction in an office workplace is very common, so it may be time for them to do something about it or, possibly, to leave it behind and open their mind to the broader benefits they are experiencing.


Have you ever found that you were going about your business and feeling pretty good, when suddenly a tiny, unimportant situation comes across your path and trips you up? Maybe a colleague forgets to say thank you, disagrees with your project direction, or asks what your thoughts are on their latest email which only arrived in your inbox 5 seconds before. Being displeased at work only makes life harder than it needs to be. There are better ways to manage this emotion.

The first thing someone who is experiencing displeasure could do to change this feeling is to explain what’s happening to them. “I’m displeased right now because …” is a good sentence to complete. Articulating the issue instantly shifts the mind from emotional expression to rational thinking.

For some people, the explanation itself may be all that’s needed, because it creates a mental break from the relentless grip of negativity. If you try this approach, you may find, after consideration, that your explanation is not very significant. For some, it may even seem silly. Some people make a joke about it; it may be a joke they tell themselves. For most people, it is not psychologically possible to experience radically different feelings at the same time. Further, if you can find a single grain of insight into your role in the current situation, it may begin to unravel any displeasure or annoyance you may be feeling.

You could always try resisting the urge to complain. That’s easier said than done, and such an approach goes against the popular belief that you should get things off your chest. However, complaining can sometimes magnify a difficult situation as you draw attention to the issue and make it more important than it needs to be. It takes some practice to avoid complaining, but you’ll find that whining is a mindless habit, something people do without thinking. When you make the effort to stop, you will almost always feel better. Being more in control of yourself is a wonderful feeling and it becomes addictive. Remember the old saying, “Never complain. Never explain.”

7 Anxious

When a person is feeling nervous, they may be concerned about something that is outside their control: a far from unusual situation in professional settings. It’s an unpleasant emotion to experience and one that is usually tied to some expectation about the future. Will this happen or will that happen? Possibly, the answer is unknown. Sometimes, it is the suspense that is more troubling than any actual outcome.


For many people, anxiety is seen as an enemy, holding them back from focusing on taking the action necessary to complete tasks in the office. But anxiety can be used to your advantage, if you approach it the right way. This unpleasant feeling often causes a rise of adrenaline in the body, which can help give you the drive you need to work through your to-do list. Research suggests that even moderate levels of anxiety can be used to boost productivity and improve performance.

If you use anxiety energy to sort tasks on the basis of their priority, you may find that, paradoxically, your level of worry may be reduced. Then, if you tackle the most important, time-sensitive tasks first, you may also find that you are able to categorize the issue that is causing your anxiety more realistically.

Remember, if the most demanding task is overwhelmingly large, break it down into small parts that are easy to deal with. That’s how Henry Ford worked out how to build complex cars by using simple repeated processes. The tasks of lesser priority on your list can be shifted to tomorrow or later and, you may find you have reached a place where anxiety is fading and your productivity is increasing. Your professional life will soon be completely back on track, boosted by your clever positive approach to a feeling that other people perceive to be bad.

Now, imagine that your top priority task makes you anxious because you need assistance from a colleague who is always unpleasant. Perhaps you’ve been mulling over an idea for weeks and now you need to present it to a meeting or a manager. You’re nervous they won’t think it’s appropriate or worthwhile. If you put off handling the source of your worry, it will gradually grow until it becomes insurmountable. People are sometimes worn out by a specific anxiety, leaving them struggling to complete other priority tasks.

So, it is often a good idea to simply go for it. Ignore your concerns and fully complete the task that has you worried. Don’t try to convince yourself that it will go perfectly. Just believe you can cope successfully, whatever the result. You’ll probably feel like you are floating on air once it is done.

Then, seeing a friendly face around your office often helps ease your nerves and helps you to relax. It makes a huge difference when you know you have a colleague from whom you can seek information or insights. Maybe you can have lunch together, and chat about things that have nothing to do with work. Even if you are slow to make friends, connecting with a colleague can ease anxiety. It will also strengthen collaboration and teamwork skills, which makes work easier. You may discover that they have been anxious about something, too.

8 Apprehensive

Apprehension is often associated with feeling indecisive and, possibly, somewhat powerless. People who feel that way usually have concerns or doubts that may be real or exaggerated. In any case, their self-confidence is almost always being undermined. Of course, their apprehension may be well placed and could be a wise warning that something needs to be approached with care to avoid it turning out badly.


Everyone feels apprehensive from time to time. It’s completely normal. What would you tell a loved one or trusted friend if they were feeling uneasy or anxious about something that hasn’t yet happened? You would likely be kind and offer support. When you feel apprehensive, you could always try to use compassionate words with yourself. Self-compassion can help prevent feeling isolated at work and increase your insight and ability to support people around you. Caring about yourself often quells that gnawing inner critic and motivates you to face your fears and retake control.

Once you are back in charge, you could shift your focus to something less distressing. Consider scheduling something to enjoy after an event you may be apprehensive about. So, for example, if you are anxious about an upcoming work presentation, you could plan to do something nice for yourself straight after, like seeing a friend for lunch to debrief or buying something delicious from your favorite coffee shop.

Sometimes, all you need to do is to focus on something other than your anxious thoughts. You can always come back to them and work through them. It is perfectly sensible to take the time to distract yourself with something else. Going for a walk around the office or chatting for a few moments to a colleague are healthy ways to divert your focus so that any sense of apprehension decreases.

Some people use their imagination to induce feelings of well-being and safety. Sitting at their desk, they think of a person, place or thing that brings them joy or comfort, and picture it in as much detail as possible. If it’s the ocean, for instance, they smell the salt water, they feel the warmth of the sand beneath their toes, they see the sun glittering off the rippling surface. Then, they take five, slow, deep breaths, and imagine themselves exhaling their apprehension. Some studies indicate that people’s bodies can respond in the same way from seeing or envisioning an activity as they would from performing it themselves.

While you’re at your desk, remember that the right type of music often creates a relaxed disposition. When happy memories are associated with what you hear, you may be drawn away from your apprehension because, typically, our mind cannot focus on two different things at once. So, if the work you are doing allows this, put on your headphone or AirPods, select the right channel, and get yourself off the apprehensive station. You’ve got this!

9 Assertive

Assertive people typically like to express themselves strongly and definitively. Often, they are certain they understand a situation or that they can do so with sufficient information and attention. There usually appears to be a level of confidence in their stance that is impressive and persuasive. Are they likely to take the initiative to achieve a corporate objective? Probably, the answer is “yes.” Their sense of power may lift their chances of success and those of their organization.


To maintain or strengthen your assertiveness, many people work hard to understand and respect the opinions of colleagues and customers. Because assertive people almost always feel confident about their opinions and beliefs, they don’t feel it’s necessary or even relevant to insult or degrade someone else’s opinions. They use this confidence-building foundation to assert their point of view with even more power than before. This is how truly assertive people move from being role-models to leaders.

The next time someone criticizes you, do not instantly return fire. Prepare your responses by acknowledging something you agree with and calmly and rationally assert your position. That will allow you to stay in control of your emotions and diffuse an otherwise unpleasant situation. There is more to assertiveness than just arguing. It is the key to persuasion, which opens the door to increased professional power.

While self-confidence is an important aspect of assertiveness, it’s crucial that you ensure that it doesn’t develop into a puffed-up sense of self-importance. Your rights, thoughts, feelings, needs, and desires are just as important as everyone else’s, but not necessarily more so.

Confidently voicing what you want can require finesse, otherwise it can become an obstacle to success. Nice people may say that they have self-confidence and that they value other people, but, deep down, they may be wary. There is nothing surprising there because tough conversations can be unnerving. Who knows what’s going to happen at work tomorrow? Who knows how a manager will respond? Uncertainty can lead to a situation in which people avoid saying what they want to say. Unfortunately, the only way to overcome fear is with courage. Stepping forward honestly when your mind tells you to hold back is the definition of courage. And in this case, raising your assertiveness requires courage, too.  

10 Attentive

People who are intensely aware and focused usually strengthen their position and that of their organization. They often gather lots of information, noticing things that are new and things that create patterns or indicate trends. They listen to and watch people closely, whether they are work colleagues or clients. Co-workers who perceive their level of attention will be impressed with their discipline and the valuable insights they are able to offer.


Maybe being attentive is one of your great skills. You may watch people closely and listen carefully to everything they say. As you silently summarize what you learn, you strengthen your innate talent and add to your professional power.

But, for some, the type of attentiveness that needs a boost occurs when it touches on concentration. We’ve all been there: sitting at your desk with an urgent deadline and a wandering mind. Despite your best efforts, nothing seems to be progressing. Everything is slightly blurred. Some people lift their level of attention and concentration by training their brain to become more focused on a task with the help of a timer or phone alarm. This approach involves deciding what task you want to complete, setting your timer for 20 minutes or so, and strictly concentrating on the task. When the alarm rings, they take a short break of five minutes or do something different for that time. Then, they reset the clock and start again. Being attentive and concentrating are probably two sides of the same coin.

Some people think they are good at multitasking. But it seems obvious that, if you want to boost your productivity, the best option is to focus on completing one task at a time. Research shows that multitasking, even if you’re good at it, can typically reduce productivity by as much as 40%. That means doing one task at a time can deliver almost double the results of that of a multitasking competitor. This is a significant advantage to keep in mind if you’re someone who replies to text messages the moment they arrive. Even a few seconds spent reading the text and writing a reply is still a task that distracts you from reaching your objective.

Some studies indicate that people’s attention spans and memory capacity are lower in multitasking participants compared with those who stick to one task. So to increase your attentiveness, keep your eyes on the prize and block as many distractions as possible.

It is broadly understood that drinking coffee, or other caffeinated beverages, positively impacts your ability to focus. But there is another crucial aspect about coffee that influences attention levels. If you consume too much, you may find yourself feeling slightly tense or even anxious. So, on those drowsy afternoons in the office, it is sometimes wise to have a smaller cup of slightly weaker coffee so you can maintain your attention without becoming jumpy.

In today’s fast-paced, competitive work environment, attentiveness plays a crucial role in achieving success. It is the key factor for you to complete your work on time and achieve high quality results.

11 Authoritative

Authoritative people are usually sure they know what they are doing, possibly because they are experienced and knowledgeable. If that’s true, they are probably valued within their organization. They will be taken seriously and, when their motivations are made clear, they will expect their managers and work colleagues to respect and even admire them. They may be right. The odds are likely to be in their favor.


To maintain or increase your authoritativeness, it would be wise to ensure you are aligned with your manager on workplace issues ahead of time. By getting in sync, you’ll be able to act and speak with more certainty, knowing that you won’t later learn that your boss had an entirely different approach to an issue than you did.

Of course, a person with an authoritative stance rarely responds defensively, even when provoked. To do so would immediately indicate that they are less confident. An authoritative person maintains their strength by facing up to difficult or awkward conversations. They say what they think in a straightforward, unambiguous manner and leave it at that. Similarly, they typically directly address problems and tasks at work, each time increasing their authoritativeness.

Typically, being an authoritative speaker helps people at work in a number of ways. They are often more persuasive, and more confident in one-on-one interactions and in larger settings like meetings. Those with strong communication skills are often picked for promotion or special recognition. However, it is rare to see people being trained to be authoritative. You can enhance your credibility by being prepared with facts and sound conclusions. It is also useful to speak clearly and directly while avoiding undermining words like “but,” “however,” and “no.”

The result will usually be a more relaxed and confident conversation, presentation, or speech. Some great sports heroes are perfectly calm before a big match, probably because they know that mental strain leads to physical tension which drains them of the energy they need to win.

Not only should you sound authoritative, but it is also usually helpful if you appear to be totally on your game. People tend to trust those who keep their posture open and who breathe in deep relaxed rhythms. They develop more confidence in someone whose smiles are genuine and who doesn’t close off others by crossing their arms.

Being more authoritative can help you become more powerful at work. You will still be you, but a more compelling and influential version of yourself.

12 Aware 

People who are highly aware sometimes express themselves clearly. It often seems that they understand situations very well. Maybe they want to say or do something that will help, but they may not feel that the time to intervene has arrived. Organizations benefit when staff are aware because such people are often ahead of events and have already imagined how to deal with those situations. Such people can keep corporate plans and objectives on track.


Seeking feedback from colleagues or supervisors is a great way to increase this trait, but you also have to be willing to listen to what they say. So, don’t bring an overly large ego to work.

Feedback doesn’t always have to be formal. Listen to your colleagues outside of meetings. Ask them for their opinions on your traits and seek to correct any limitations. Elite athletes continually ask for feedback from coaches, but staff are often reluctant to seek insights about their work performance. To stay effective in this ever-changing world, you should keep your awareness high to maximize personal and organizational success.

Always watch for nervous or agitated behavior in others and keep an eye on people who seem to be operating outside the norm. The ability to detect inconsistencies or distress in co-workers can allow you to anticipate situations, giving you an opportunity to respond in the most effective way possible.

You will have noticed that most people seem to spend their time looking down at some kind of digital display and not paying attention to things around them. Even when they are outside, they are often staring at their cell phone and not looking at where they are walking.

Of course, it may not be appropriate to simply stop working on your current task but is helpful to take a moment or two to observe what is happening in your office. Doing this every so often helps to keep your spatial and situational awareness sharp. You will see people interacting while others move quickly to and fro. Some will be lingering on a phone call while others will be crouched behind their computer screens oblivious to the rest of the world. You will see people who could help you in some way and those who can’t. Someone may have given a presentation to their team so they may have good advice when your turn arrives. Another may have received a poor job appraisal so you could learn how to avoid the pitfall they experienced.

You could strengthen your relationship with your manager by closely observing and listening. It’s likely you will see and hear everything you need to know to become more proactive and supportive of them and your organization as a whole. Also, you will see how the up-and-coming movers and shakers are operating. You may also notice something that may predict where they are likely to take a wrong turn.

Perhaps the single most important quality that differentiates a solid career from a highly successful one is the ability to be aware. Of course, there is nothing more powerful in the workplace than that special version of awareness which focuses particularly on opportunities.

13 Perturbed

When a person feels perturbed it is likely that something is troubling them deep down. Maybe they are spoiling for a fight or hoping to avoid one. In professional situations, it is very unlikely that any situation will go beyond a verbal altercation, at worst. Despite their mood, professionals carefully control their emotions. Their messages, whether written or spoken, are normally attuned to ensure that they focus on achieving positive outcomes.


Lower the impact of this mood by taking some time to form more friendly relationships with fellow team members. Take advantage of office social events; use a work messaging app more often; or engage more strongly with team projects or meetings. Listening to others can take the focus from yourself for a while, breaking the emotional loop you’re possibly stuck in. A neighborly, friendly workplace will help you feel more supported and relaxed so you can work effectively with any negative situations that arise.

At certain times, refusing to react to a situation or event is not a weakness, but a strength. This is when strong self-discipline can save us. Sometimes, our own poorly considered reactions result in making us more upset or perturbed. Of course, most of us try to filter our thoughts so we don’t say negative, naive, or hurtful things. This filter normally keeps us cool, calm, and in control. However, when something agitates us, our resolve can be shaken and our filter fails. That’s why remaining silent can help us avoid engaging in pointless discussions, arguments, or gossip.

Stopping yourself from speaking also helps you to develop a deeper, more subtle opinion about a person, a situation, or an event. When people vent about the things that bother them, they tend to exaggerate, which can further increase their irritation.

Similarly, there are times when you will benefit if you are patient. Just sit it out and wait for any trouble to pass. Probably, it will not take long. We are subject to endless social change, and to meet each moment with agitation is not only draining but also unproductive. In this, the workplace is a classic example.

Why is that? In some high-pressure jobs, a small issue can cause big trouble because plans and protocols are disrupted or derailed. In extreme, such events can spill over to a lack of trust, to increased confusion, and a loss of control. That’s the reason that self-control can become so important and helpful. Being more patient and accepting the inevitability of change, both for the good and for the bad, is crucial for long-term survival and eventual success. Being patient may be uncomfortable at first but, with practice, you will become stronger and you will gather the benefits.

14 Bothered

It is perfectly normal for someone to feel perturbed about something, no matter how they express themselves publicly. But, they should be gentle with themselves. Any difficulties they perceive, or experience will probably pass quite quickly. If those troubles persist, the person feeling bothered might try talking to someone about their concerns. They need to seek out someone who is both sympathetic and wise.


Wise people decide to stop feeling bothered during the working day. They work out techniques which improve their time at the office and, in turn, they can share their knowledge with colleagues who may, at times, feel the same. Someone who is bothered may silently or publicly rehash their problems without trying to understand or solve them. That trap can make them and their colleagues feel dispirited or even angry.

Contrary to popular belief, it usually does not help to vent about problems that are bothering you. In fact, some psychological studies indicate that venting can lead to increased hostility. Rather, when you notice your mood rising towards a state you would define as being “bothered,” you could do some slow, deep breathing to calm your feelings and find some mental relief. You could distract yourself even for a short time by focusing on something which does not bother you at all. You can even consider whether you will feel bothered about a troublesome issue in a week, a month, or a year. That may help you keep any bad feelings in perspective.

It is important that we all realize that we cannot fully control other people. They are going to do and say stupid, incorrect things. It is almost impossible to force them to change. The only person we can truly control is ourselves. You can decide how much you’re going to let a colleague’s, client’s, or manager’s behavior impact you. But, if you feel bothered by something, it is likely that emotion will have no impact on anyone other than yourself. And, its usual manifestation will be frustration.

If you are already feeling bothered by something, it can be helpful to give yourself extra time to complete tasks in case something unexpected appears which will further increase your stress. Adding just another ten or fifteen minutes to a deadline may give you the chance to avoid even more pressure, particularly if it is caused by the fact that you are rushing to finish your work.

It is very common for someone who has made a mistake to feel bothered. The mistake may have caused your workload to increase for a couple of hours. Alternatively, it may have been made months and even years ago and, for some reason, you have not been able to let it go. One of the best ways to move forward in a positive way is to forgive yourself even if you were only partly to blame. You’re not perfect. Nobody is. Most of us are trying to do the best we can with the knowledge and skills we have.

Of course, an excellent way to handle mistakes is to learn from them. Recognize what you can do better in the future. Reflecting on our previous decisions helps us to improve our professional skills and to grow personally. So accept your behavior, accept what has happened, and accept yourself so you can move on with your life without feeling bothered about something that cannot be changed.

There is nothing more refreshing and uplifting than no longer feeling bothered. A new day opens and greater happiness beckons.

15 Candid

When someone is candid, it often indicates that they are self-confident and have a high level of integrity. Candid people don’t rely on dropping hints. They don’t talk around topics in the hope that people will understand what their message means. When someone openly says what they think or feel, they appear to be strong and self-assured. Further, their attitude hints that they are safe or protected in some way. It is their self-confidence that is probably doing the work. It’s a good workplace that accepts and encourages this level of openness.


One way to support or increase your open and honest approach at work is to reframe statements. Rather than saying “You make me frustrated”, you could say “I am feeling frustrated.” That changes the message from “You need to change” to “How can we work together differently?” Always focus on the issue rather than the person. This one simple change avoids making others feel taken by surprise and signals your intent to help by coming alongside them as equals.

If you are consistent with this approach, you may discover many work colleagues seeking your candid insights and advice. They will rely on you providing what few others are willing to offer: an honest opinion free of biased judgment. That is the stuff of an increasingly influential leader.

By joining your colleagues at lunch or dinner, you may come to know them more deeply. That can make it easier to increase this trait. Of course, you can write an email to somebody sitting in the next cubicle, but it may be a mistake to allow technology to replace face-to-face interactions. It might seem old-fashioned but imagine how the subtle power of talking to someone directly can give you the extra insight that could lift the quality of your work and enhance your career. Being candid with workplace friends can have a profound influence on performance.

16 Careful

Careful people are wary. They tread lightly, probably to minimize the chance of making mistakes or to avoid falling into any unforeseen traps. People who are careful are more likely to prepare for trouble because they have thought through various possibilities, and they want to be ready for any unpleasant surprises. Often, they have a plan, and they proceed slowly and methodically, particularly if they are facing new circumstances or situations. Careful professionals are usually very valuable to any organization.


As you work, you may feel the impulse to multitask so that you can use your time efficiently and complete all your duties as needed. It’s important to note that multitasking often results in what is sometimes called “task-switching:” moving from one task to another and working briefly on each.

Most likely, you can immediately see the potential to lose focus and to make mistakes. One of the best ways to avoid this issue is to concentrate on one task and to be as detail oriented as possible. If you are writing some sort of document, you should ensure you reread and review everything before you submit your work or move on to another task. Taking the time to ensure that your work is free of errors and inaccuracies can make a significant difference in your quality of your product, which helps you and your organization.

It’s tempting to promise the world to your manager, colleagues, and clients, especially when you’re honest and hardworking and believe that you can do what is required. But, taking that angle creates a self-inflicted pressure that can easily backfire. Imagine you promise to do something fast but slightly miss the deadline. You’ll likely think you still did a good job because you delivered quickly. But often the result can be that you appear to be less credible because you fell short. It is a pity that your words may seem less trustworthy, when, in fact, you may have done the same quality work in the same amount of time with great results. Could you have simply set up realistic expectations at the beginning to avoid such problems?

To increase your level of care, it is best to be careful about the results you can deliver. That will allow you to create expectations that you can surpass more easily.

How long has it been since you took the effort to learn a new skill, or to reach out to your networking contacts? If you can’t remember, you may have become a little complacent. It is usually an error to rest on your laurels assuming that nothing will ever change. This can be a career killer.

Everyone has seen enough disruption, especially technological, to realize that change is inevitable. To increase your level of care, make continuous growth and development a priority so you’ll be ready for whatever comes your way.

17 Following Closely

When someone follows a situation very closely, it means that it is dominating their thoughts and, possibly, their actions, as well. No matter whether they feel good or bad about it, they likely sense they are involved with it, either directly or as a keen observer. Following something closely can be very useful and instructive because the person who does so deepens their knowledge and experience, sometimes while taking no risk at all.


A great way to increase this trait at work is to speak up more often. Volunteering to help is an excellent way to show everyone that you are committed and that you want to be involved. If you see something your organization is doing inefficiently and you have an idea that would improve the situation, volunteer that information, even if it is not part of your normal duties. If you see a colleague struggling, volunteer to help if you have some relevant expertise. When the organization sends out employee surveys, make sure to complete them to the best of your ability. As you assess the issues raised in the survey, you’ll find yourself gaining a deeper insight into your organization’s interests and concerns. You’ll be able to track those themes through all of your workplace interactions and experiences.

Some studies show that only a few people are truly committed to their organization, which increases the value of staff who consistently closely follow their organization’s progress. It does you no harm to be noticed by managers and executives because, typically, they are paying close attention to progress, as well.

It is sometimes useful to allow yourself the time to reflect on your ultimate goals. Why? Because you will sharpen your overall focus and find yourself following closely only the important aspects of your office culture and career. You’ll stop wasting energy on trying to follow everything and everyone at work.

Consider, for example, social media. Those platforms are designed to capture and hold your attention. They prey on your fear of missing out, enticing you with manufactured conflicts, and creating drama and tension. They focus on increasing viewer engagement to earn more money and to hold you in endless scrolling. Following office politics too closely can have a similar, unproductive result.

Very few people have time to reflect on their ultimate goals every day. But setting aside time once a week or once a month can lead to improved outcomes. Don’t be surprised if your goals sometimes shift over time. It’s part of the process. Motivation is just a feeling like happiness or sadness. It can vanish as fast as it arrives. Willpower, on the other hand, is like a motor, and shouldn’t be confused with motivation. Willpower allows you to drive through those moments at work when your mind can’t focus on anything closely.

While willpower is very much a mental state, there are physical aspects to it as well. One study found that subjects had little to no willpower when glucose levels were low. Next time you find yourself in a situation where your willpower feels weak, try eating a piece of fruit to give yourself a sugar boost. You’ll find it much easier to follow those important things closely again.

18 Cautious

Wanting to avoid mistakes and pitfalls is a sensible approach, no matter how someone expresses themselves publicly. Often, professional people who act this way have thought about different possible outcomes, have discussed the issue with their manager, and have rated the likely results from bad to best. Only then do they make a decision and take action. This approach becomes more important if they are starting a new job or taking on a new, unknown task. But, caution can be taken too far. In some cases, it can create a rigid adherence to standard behaviors and protocols. Sometimes, it leads to missed opportunities and a lethargic, uncreative approach to even ordinary tasks.


Often, workplace mistakes arise from a lack of understanding, which then creates a cautious approach to performing a task. Possibly staff were too nervous to ask for help, or their manager thought the staff understood how to complete a procedure. If you don’t know how to do something with complete confidence, it is essential that you take the risk to confirm with your manager, and other staff, if necessary, that your approach is correct. Use the energy of your caution to review your work before you declare your current work officially completed and move on to your next project.

Many people overestimate the probability of something going wrong, which can undermine all the good work they have done. That raises doubts in the mind of a manager and may make them inclined to give important work to staff who are not cramped by caution. That’s a downward spiral that you may experience as your confidence falls.

Chronic cautiousness is a mental habit that can be broken. Most of the time, preparing for the worst doesn’t pan out. There is an old saying that goes something like: “Worry is the interest you pay on a debt you may not owe.” It is vital to understand that someone who avoids risks is also likely to miss out on the chance of personal growth and professional success. So, stepping outside your safety zone is absolutely critical.

How can you reduce excessive caution? You may begin by taking small risks like offering your point of view in a meeting then gradually working your way up to bigger challenges. By doing this and seeing positive results, your confidence will rise and your caution will fall. You will be training your brain to develop more courage, instead of your brain driving you on its latest flight of fancy. Every time you are willing to take a risk, the result might just lead you to your next big opportunity!

19 Centered

Deep down, someone who is feeling centered is self-assured and, to some extent, inwardly composed. That doesn’t mean they always appear to be calm on the surface but, possibly, they believe that they understand the situation and that they are feeling comfortable and in control. It is a good position to be in, particularly because it is easier to direct their professional efforts effectively. So, remaining centered will almost always benefit the person who feels that way.


Remember that supporting and increasing this characteristic isn’t an end in itself, but rather a tool to help you navigate what professional life throws at you. Centering yourself is a lifelong pursuit that gets easier over time. So, today, focus on your values because they sit at the heart of your innate talent. When you carefully relate your work to your values and to those of your organization, you can identify what is meaningful to you as a professional.

Of course, being centered doesn’t mean that things will always go your way but it does indicate you have something deeply valuable in your knowledge, faith, or experience that provides a firm anchor on which you can rely. Understand exactly what those values are and you can move forward with growing confidence built on certainty.

Like it or not, moods can be highly contagious and, when surrounded at work by depressive colleagues, it’s going to rub off. You can try to raise their spirits, but if that fails, you should actively look for ways to avoid them. This will help to keep you centered.

It may be wise to prepare backup solutions in the important areas of your career so you remain composed when dealing with emergencies. It is common for people faced with unanswerable challenges to lose their cool. However, you will be a far more effective leader when you understand your internal state, and why you react the way you do.

If you are aware of your own strengths and weaknesses, you have the power to boost your strengths and reduce your weaknesses. Some psychologists believe that we return to childhood behaviors when faced with an emotional threat, such as when something we value is challenged. Some children shut down and close people off, while others throw tantrums. We might feel stress over money because we value money. We might feel stressed over a big presentation to our manager because we care about what they think. Knowing this, successful people realize their stress is a spotlight on something they want to protect. They then work on solving the problem with pinpoint accuracy, allowing their centered focus to dominate more easily.

20 Certain

People who focus on understanding facts often feel they are in control. People who are certain often have clear evidence leading to inevitable conclusions which, in turn, make their stance convincing, at least to themselves. The impact of such a position can be seen in almost every situation that occurs in a workplace. Some professional people temper their certainty by watching and listening to others with great care and precision because they know that circumstances change, sometimes in dramatic and unexpected ways. However, people who are certain often believe they are directly over their target.


To uphold or heighten your certainty, think about how often we communicate every day. We make phone calls, attend meetings, write emails, give presentations, text our colleagues, and talk to clients. Seemingly, we spend most of our working day communicating with the people around us. Good communication skills are essential, and those messages with a foundation of certainty usually have the greatest impact. By employing excellent active listening skills, and a high level of concentration, your certainty will rise.

To enhance your confidence in your knowledge, it is important to avoid the distractions of irrelevant “noise” from people or situations that are not particularly important. Also, it is best not to be caught planning your response while receiving messages from someone else. Wait until you are certain about the incoming communication, then create your own messages based on the confidence you have developed. These are highly valuable steps forward toward being a more successful professional.

It’s easy to distract ourselves with social media, emails, google searches, and text messages. That way, we don’t have to deal with doubt. But, don’t do it. Rather than seek out a lazy dopamine hit, take a moment to identify the issue that underpins your doubt. You’ll soon realise this slight change in behaviour is a major investment in staying certain while others lose their way.

It is always useful to remember the old computing saying: Garbage in. Garbage out. What thoughts do you allow to circulate in your mind? Are negative, uncertain ideas sneaking in and hijacking your positive, confident thoughts? Critically assess your situation so that your perspective is more balanced and certain.

Workplace pressure is real, particularly when people feel intimidated or when they doubt themselves. It is easy to get rattled and to diminish our contributions and confidence in our communications. Don’t reduce your status by saying, “Does that make sense?” or “This may be a bad idea but …” These signal uncertainty and indicate that the statement is less worthy of consideration. Instead, confirm that your audience is following you more closely by using more confident questions like, “What are your thoughts?”

To gain the benefit of greater certainty, shift your perspective and add a little bit of practice. Begin with one idea you’d like to work on and try it over the next week. If you can practice this concept in your personal life, too, you will help things to move more clearly in your direction.

21 Committed

Someone who is committed is set on a particular path and is prepared to stay the course. Usually, they feel very sure about something, which, in turn, lifts their confidence and courage. When a professional’s commitment aligns with their workplace’s corporate values, a powerful momentum is created that can drive their organization toward achieving its objectives. So, someone who is committed is a highly valuable asset.


For many people, commitment to their job ebbs and flows. We all have off days where we feel we could have done more and, sometimes we have days when we wonder if we are working for the “right” organization. Remember that commitment is a habit that can be built over time.

To strengthen your focus on your work, you could create some simple barriers. If you’re constantly checking your phone, put it in a drawer out of sight and set a time to bring it out. Messages, social media updates, and weather reports can easily wait for an hour or so while you get on with the important work you are paid to do.

We all know how paralyzing it can be to start a big project or tackle a crazily complex to-do list. To support and lift your commitment, it is best not to overwhelm yourself at the start. Give yourself three to five important issues that need to be completed in a day and focus only on those. That is a sensible and achievable level of commitment. If you get them done quickly, you can always add a few more, but, if you keep your workload manageable, you will be unlikely to lose your focus and determination. In fact, your commitment will probably grow as will your confidence.

When successful people set a goal, they often anticipate potential challenges and plan tactical responses. In this way, they are much more likely to maintain their commitment to their goal. Let’s say they have decided to get fit. If it is raining heavily on the day they plan to jog, they will go to the gym instead to lift weights. In doing so, their goal commitment and likely success is always higher. Consider incorporating this approach into your important daily work and overall career goals.

Developing a productive career in any industry starts with your mindset. Faulty assumptions are like strong headwinds interrupting your commitment and blowing you off course. In order to truly go all out and make exceptional progress, you must make the deep personal decision to hold nothing back. This kind of raw, unrestrained dedication is powerful. Once you are all in, your mind decides that there are no more choices to be made. You focus on your target and work to achieve it.

But what if the choice you’ve made is no longer as attractive as you imagined it would be? Or, as Cypher said in the Matrix movie “Why oh why didn’t I take the blue pill?” That’s why, when you make a choice, weigh it heavily, commit to it once you are sure, and never look back.

22 Seeing Things Your Way

When someone states their point of view in clear, unambiguous language, those who hear it are likely to agree or disagree. Whichever way they react, they may also feel that the person who makes such a statement may be a little too sure of themselves. Of course, that reaction could be completely wrong, but taking a strong position often causes people to push back, even if they agree. However, when someone has made up their mind and has the evidence to support their stance, they are in a strong position and the others are more likely to agree with them in time.


A great way to break the habit of only seeing things from your own perspective is to start thinking about and complimenting your work colleagues. Your reactions should be sincere.

It can be helpful if you identify someone else’s opinion or point of view and offer your support. The fact that it mimics your position is secondary. When someone offers an approach to an issue, for example, through a formal presentation to your team, you should praise them. Say that you don’t agree with everything but that they have given you reason to reconsider and, potentially, moderate your position. Even if, in the end, your stance barely changes, at least those with whom you work will have seen that you are open to other ideas and that you are willing to acknowledge that. This will reduce any potential friction. Then, you can continue with your strong, thoughtful approach to issues while reducing the opportunities of those who would question or try to refute your position.

All humans are a little self centered and egocentric. How can we not be? We only truly know our own experience. Can it taint professional relationships? Sure, but self-awareness is key to maintaining a point of reference that is meaningful.

If you feel you need to lower this trait even more, you could pay attention to the tone of your colleague’s or manager’s voice and whether their answers to you are curt. These are telltale indications that they are on the brink of walking away. As telling as these emotions are, don’t forget to also pay attention to their body language. For example, if their arms are crossed, if they are leaning backward, or if they are avoiding eye contact, they are not huge fans of the conversation, nor of you, for that matter. It could be that you see things your way a little too strongly, and that it’s time, as mentioned earlier, to offer a sincere compliment, which will give them some space to breathe.

Remember that, if you enjoy being treated correctly, which we all do, then treat others the same way. That’s the rule. Be aware of your actions and of other people’s reactions. If you want to be treated with respect, then act in a way that will induce that response. If another person’s selfishness annoys you, there will probably be plenty who would agree with your reaction. Make sure you don’t do anything that upsets or annoys others and you are likely to be on the right path.

23 Concentrating

When someone is concentrating, they are strongly focused on someone or something. Their intentions may be good or bad, but the power of concentration is beyond doubt. Some people hone their skills in this ability and achieve exceptional results, but those who are weak in this area almost always struggle to get what they want. A strong professional knows how to concentrate their thoughts and activities and reap the benefits.


If you want to maintain or increase your concentration at work, invest in noise-cancelling headphones. Earplugs will also do the job, but there’s an additional benefit to wearing headphones. It delivers the message to those around you that you do not want to be distracted or disturbed. Co-workers will automatically give you more personal space and will interrupt you only if necessary.

It’s natural that people need to talk to each other, particularly in an open plan office, but all that superficial babble can become tiresome and it is off-putting if you want to be productive. One way to block out distracting sounds is to listen to nature ambiance. Avoid music with lyrics and voice-only podcasts. Choose only aural input that will support your main goal.

If you find yourself with a long list of boring tasks that need to be finished, you could try adjusting your stimulation level. When work is tedious, you are less likely to apply the proper level of concentration necessary to do a great job. So, set a timer and see how quickly you can complete a single task. Turn this task into a game by trying to beat your fastest time while maintaining the quality of your work. The more excited you can get, the more easily you can concentrate on it.

Maybe you could also create a distraction to-do list. Think of all the unimportant things that might distract you from your work during the day, such as checking the weather app, or viewing social media posts. They can negatively affect your focus and make concentrating on your job more challenging. Every time you feel the itch to check one of these things, record your impulse on a piece of paper. When you’re done with your important work, then you can decide if your list is worth your while attending to. We are always surrounded by situations and colleagues at work that affect our ability to concentrate. By consciously keeping ourselves away from these distractions, we can stay more focused, which actually reduces stress and creates better outcomes. It’s well worth putting in the effort.

24 Concerned

People become concerned when they believe that something is going wrong. The cause could be an issue they can control or one that is beyond their reach. Sometimes, even their own mix of emotions and mood shifts makes them feel anxious or upset. Being concerned is usually predicated on the assumption that the worst outcome is likely to occur. It is not unusual for people who feel this way to try to avoid the issue that concerns them or to try to deny that it even exists. A classic diversion is to change the subject when it comes up in discussions. However, there are ways to deal with the issue of concern without being too concerned about it.


When people feel concerned, those who have learned to control this feeling sometimes create an imaginary scenario. They imagine they are attending a job interview. Before they step into the room, they deliberately force themself to relax by telling themself that they are comfortable and calm “no matter the outcome.”

Whenever you feel concerned, even to a small extent, you could apply this technique to reduce anxiety and improve your performance. Try to hold onto the feeling that the outcome of any situation will do very little to affect your state of mind. Keep saying to yourself over and over again throughout your workday that you are moving ahead “no matter the outcome.”

There is little room to cheat at this. If you just think these thoughts but deep down you truly feel concerned, you probably won’t get much out of it. However, if those detached thoughts guide you to a place of equilibrium, then you will probably notice some remarkable results. Try it. The only thing you have to lose is your concerns.

Worrying arises from a desire to be in control. For example, we often want to control our environment, but the more we try, the more concerned we feel. It’s a vicious cycle: concern leads to trying to control, which usually ultimately fails, leading to increased concern. This vortex will drain your mental strength when you need to be at your best.

To reduce this trait, if the concerning situation is within your control, tackle the problem. If it’s out of your control, focus on changing your emotional state by using the “no matter what the result” approach mentioned earlier.

You could also choose a set time and place specifically for being concerned about everything at work. It should be the same every day, for example from 6:00 to 6:30 P.M. Make sure it’s not too late and doesn’t make you anxious just before bedtime. During this period, you’re allowed to worry about whatever’s on your mind. The rest of the day, however, is a worry-free zone. If a concern does pop into your head, write it down for your next scheduled worry time.

Some people take this a step further and dedicate a time each day just to think about the solutions to the concerns they have. This is extremely useful and only the highly driven will opt to push themselves so far to reduce this trait.

25 Confident

Confident people usually feel mentally strong. Often, they are focused on something they believe will be of assistance to them or on something they deeply understand. Typically, confidence is based on prior personal experience or from a perception of having the measure of a person or situation, whether or not all the details are known. It is not unusual for someone’s confidence to be more influential than calm, rational reasoning.


Sometimes, holding onto or lifting your confidence can rest on how others perceive you. Their reactions and responses can provide the high platform on which you stand. So, check how you appear to them.

Wearing a comfortable, well-put-together outfit can actually increase confidence. Famously, a woman dominated everyone around her by wearing a $5000 red overcoat. Very impressive.

However, if fashion isn’t your thing, or you wear the same company uniform every day, don’t forget your body language. Good posture and strong hand gestures not only convey confidence, but they also help to build it in your own mind. So, stand tall or sit up straight with your head held high.

Another useful support for professional confidence is to be informed. It’s much easier to speak with authority when you know what you’re talking about. Keep your finger on the pulse of industry trends, research, and developments through social media, certifications, and conversations with senior management. It doesn’t hurt to keep up with the latest buzz words and to be able to quote what an industry leader recently said. Your confidence will rise as you become the go-to person for all the latest information, concerns and insights.

With each task your work on, think of ways you can knock the ball out of the park. Can you suggest new ideas, new clients, or new products? Can you suggest a procedure that is easier, more streamlined, or more dependable? Can you deliver a report to your manager faster? You’ll feel better about yourself if you go the extra mile, and you’ll get good feedback from others when you do so. If you use your confidence to help all your colleagues, you will almost certainly rise in their estimation, and that will help the progress of your career, as well.

When someone experiences success at work, their colleagues may consider following their lead. However, your career trajectory will always be uniquely based on your own combination of training, knowledge, abilities, and persistence. Of course, someone who is confident will consider new career directions, if the opportunity arises. But, if they are dedicated to their organization’s objectives and mission, they are likely to continue to experience the drive that their confidence provides. As President Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Do what you can with what you have where you are.”

Confidence can wax and wane, so have a strong sense of how you currently feel. If you have clearly defined personal and professional goals, your high levels of confidence can be maintained or enhanced, impressing your colleagues, your manager, and, possibly, even yourself.

26 Considerate

No matter how someone expresses themselves, it seems they want to be mindful of other people. Some show their considerate side by being polite and empathetic. That’s a big positive when thinking about team building and focusing on organizational goals. Sometimes, a person’s openness and respect are manifested when they don’t react negatively to things they disagree with. Either way, their co-workers probably respect them quite deeply.


To increase this trait, always be focused on the importance of your colleagues’ time. See to it that you are punctual in arriving at work and at meetings. And, if you are delayed, be sure to let people know, so that you don’t keep them waiting. By respecting other people’s time, you show that you value them as much as yourself. Plus, they may feel more inclined to return the favor in the future.

If you are working in an open plan office or a shared worksite, focus on other people’s need to feel comfortable in that space. Just because you don’t care about leaving dirty cutlery in the office kitchen or trailing cables across the office floor, that doesn’t mean that your colleagues will feel similarly. The same goes for excessively loud talking or other noise. Being considerate, as you are, is a great asset and should be nurtured.

Judging other people negatively is easy, especially when you know nothing about their backgrounds and life stories. It shows a lack of empathy when people assume things about colleagues that may not be relevant.

To become more considerate, you could focus on qualities and traits that you share, such as the fact that you both work for the same organization, that you both have a family to care for, or that you are both dealing with rising food prices. Chances are, you’ll quickly realize that you walk in very similar shoes.

To further improve your considerate nature, you could apologize when you need to and not otherwise. Some people are so insecure or afraid of offending that they apologize for being alive. You would also know that, pretty soon, their apologies lose all meaning. But it’s a different matter completely when a sincere apology is necessary. When you suspect or know you’ve made a mistake, apologizing immediately is a crucial part of being considerate.

Also, don’t forget that smiling has a huge effect on people. They will naturally mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. When you smile at people, they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result. This is more powerful than you may realize, so try it at your workplace today.

27 Critical 

It is possible that when a person is feeling a little negative, they may want to make their position clear. If so, it won’t take long for their work colleagues to notice. Even if none of them had any role in causing that person’s distant disdain, they are likely to react in one of two ways: attack or retreat. When someone is unpleasantly critical, their emotional expression lingers in the minds of those they interact with, as well as with those who happen to observe them. Put simply, people will treat a critical colleague with caution. The critic needs to be aware that expressing negative or even contemptuous thoughts may make them feel good in the short term, but the satisfaction gained is unlikely to last long. Then, the consequences will have to be dealt with … by the critic.


Do you recognize that cold and detached attitude that makes it hard to connect with people? It easier for all of us to see it in others than in ourselves. And, it’s a habit that some people fall into, but it doesn’t serve them well professionally.

The good news is that dropping any hint of an aloof, disdainful, or critical stance and becoming more approachable is within everyone’s control. All it takes is making a few simple shifts in your behavior. Getting comfortable with small talk is a key step to shifting away from this attitude. Small talk is like a social lubricant; it helps conversations flow more easily and allows social interactions to become more positive.

For some, this change can spark anxiety. The good news is that small talk gets easier with practice. Try it right away by smiling more often, making eye contact, and listening carefully and sensitively to your colleagues and manager. Show an interest in what people say, and ask follow-up questions or comment (positively, if possible) on their point of view. People love to talk about themselves, so give them the opportunity! This approach allows you to take the focus away from yourself and, eventually, your career will thank you.

Some neuroscientists say that our brains are inherently social and are wired to connect with others. We have mirror neurons that allow us to empathize with others and understand their emotions. However, in an emotionally distant or critical state, this neural mirroring may not function optimally, leading to a breakdown in empathy, which promotes a sense of isolation and disconnection.

Understanding the science behind this phenomenon highlights the importance of feeling less distant, disdainful, or critical. It’s not just about productivity and efficiency, but about fostering a neurologically healthy space where you can connect with your work and colleagues.

Being a double-edged sword, technology is sometimes a great barrier to hide behind, increasing the social distance between people. Messages and emails don’t allow you to relay all the aspects of your character to your colleagues. You can reduce a distant and critical attitude by finding ways to connect with your managers or colleagues where they can actually see you and interact with you face-to-face.

If you are working remotely, all your meetings should have your video switched on. If you are mainly working in your office, make time to check in with each regular status meeting, even if it is very brief. Keep your manager informed of what you’re busy with, communicate when deadlines can’t be met, and show what you’ve achieved.

If you’re feeling disconnected and critical of your colleagues, then they may well be feeling the same way, so it’s probably time to do something about it. Showing up to work each day, being productive, and engaged is much easier when you have a close relationship with your colleagues.

28 Convinced 

Someone who is convinced believes they understand enough about a situation to allow them to say what they truly feel. That position is often based on a solid, rational process that has been followed to arrive at a strong conclusion. When both logic and emotions are in lock step, it may be very difficult to shift that person’s position unless they are provided with a substantial amount of strong evidence. Being fully convinced creates a foundation that can be a powerful driver in any workplace.


If you want any part of your professional life to change, be it a pay rise, or a new role in your organization, you must have a sense of certainty. And, certainty assumes faith. If you are sure you can do something, you have faith that your certainty is true. 

You can increase this stance by seeking out new references, such as experiences that you have acknowledged and accepted, or evidence you can prove. For example, if you have seen many work projects end in failure, you’ll have a reference that many projects don’t often succeed. And, if you have new, relevant facts from a reputable source, you will have evidence you can prove. To strengthen your level of conviction, find stronger references and more recent, relevant evidence.

Certainty profoundly shapes our behavior. The more certain we are, regardless of how correct it may be, the greater influence it has on what we do in our careers. Some psychologists have shown that people who are convinced are more likely to express their opinions, to try to persuade others to adopt their views, to better withstand attacks on their own beliefs, and to be more inclined to challenge opponents. It is no surprise that most leaders have this trait in abundance.

Asking for feedback is a great way to increase your sense of being convinced. Professionals sometimes feel inadequate at work due to a lack of other people’s opinions. When you don’t know how well you’re meeting expectations, it can be challenging to feel sure of your abilities. Therefore, if you are confident enough, it can help if you ask your manager for feedback on your performance. Making relevant changes to improve your results can leave you with enough knowledge to keep you convinced of your situation over an extended period.

The next time you feel unhappy or stuck, you may be convinced that you are on the wrong path. When something excites you or brings you a sense of fulfilment or purpose, you may be convinced that it is right for you and you should explore it further.

In choosing this second option, you are convincing yourself. When you connect with the leader who exists inside you, your emotional self-awareness can lead you to greater power, bringing your fullest, most authentic personal characteristics into play.

29 Disturbed

It is possible that someone feeling upset or troubled may find it difficult to deal with some situations. In fact, they may delay or avoid interacting with other people to dodge any potential trouble. People who are feeling cranky sometimes disrupt the smooth flow of meetings and other standard workplace processes. Some colleagues may take up that same mood and will accept such behaviors, but, most likely, that will not enhance the efficient operations of an office.


Distractions and disruptions occur everywhere all the time in the workplace and they can lead to increased anxiety and, sometimes, anger.

While a positive mindset will always help, it is smart for a professional to expect to be interrupted. Halfway through a project, they may be drawn away to deal with some crisis. A carefully developed business plan may be abandoned because new priorities have suddenly arisen. This type of disruption can easily cause deep displeasure and even resentment. It is important to recognize the inevitability of such situations and to face them calmly and professionally.

At a more personal level, some disruptions can reduce productivity by up to 96%. Still, it is important to retain your professional equilibrium.

The next time your normal progress is disturbed, you can reduce your irritation or annoyance by recording your most recent train of thought and noting what you plan to do next. When your feelings return to something close to normal, you should reread your notes. Typically, your rational mind will quickly regather its momentum and your sense of being disturbed, or even angry, will begin to fade.  

To be fair, not every person who interrupts your progress has the self-awareness that they are causing trouble. Their intent could be to be to add a new dynamic element to a situation by offering a different perspective or an additional piece of information. They may even view events like meetings as a free venue in which they can steer the conversation to a place they believe it should be. Sometimes, they have taken an action which they may have thought was correct, but which you believe is wrong. When these events occur, pay close attention to your emotions. They may be hindering your ability to understand and to help remedy the situation.

Develop a standard comment you can use that allows the person who has caused you to feel disturbed to know that they have crossed the line. That will typically increase your readiness to address them in a calm, confident, and professional manner. When you have finished, remember to be patient. Dealing with such people is frustrating but remember that they usually are pretty sure they are saying and doing things the right way, and changing their mind will inevitably take time.

So, whether you feel disturbed by a massive change or by something smaller like being interrupted, it is vital to reduce any negative emotional response and return to your normal, balanced professional approach to your work.

Remember that some feelings of frustration may be caused by the difficulty in refocusing on what you are supposed to be doing. Don’t force it. Allow yourself a little time to de-stress. so you can start afresh when you get your thoughts properly aligned.

30 Definite

People who feel definite usually see some facts or situations as being important, while others do not. Having a clear mind is a great advantage in a professional setting. It leads to being able to provide clear messages, verbally or in writing, and it shows a confidence that is highly prized when it comes to achieving organizational objectives. That doesn’t necessarily mean that definite people are certain about everything. However, being definite often makes co-workers pay close attention and they may be more willing to follow the lead that is offered.


To be sure of moving forward professionally, your specific aim should be backed up with a strong desire to achieve it. A set of definite messages must be supported by a clear purpose. This may be set from your own values or in combination with your organization’s objectives or mission statement. Once you know what is required, the information you provide to staff and supervisors should align to that result.

It is often helpful to reconfirm your and your organization’s objectives regularly so that your definite statements are backed by a solid foundation. Soon enough, your goals will align with what you say and write, and they will be as definite as they are persuasive.

To become more definite, slow down and tune into what you are doing so you can identify relevant details. Operating on autopilot in the workplace isn’t going to do you any favors, so avoid multitasking and distractions.

Make sure the quality of your insight or information is your first priority. Take the time to review everything before marking it complete. Look at it critically and ask yourself if there’s anything you might have missed or any aspect that could be improved.

Everyone at your organization probably works and prepares in different ways, so develop a system that suits you. This may include creating “to do” lists or setting electronic reminders. Task-tracking and project management programs can also be an asset for ensuring you are managing your time wisely. Then, use your system faithfully to ensure your understanding of what is definite will hold steady for the longest time.

31 Deliberate

Being deliberate means working steadily and methodically toward a specific situation or outcome. In striving to achieve that result, some people may or may not be satisfied with their progress. However, taking a deliberate approach is often the most efficient and effective path to an acceptable conclusion. A side benefit of being deliberate is the development of more skills and knowledge.


Being deliberate involves a clear understanding of your purpose or intention. It is vital that your sense of purpose is very strong. Without that, your deliberate attitude and behavior will soon fade.

So, your willpower is central in boosting this skill. At the heart of willpower is self-discipline. By deciding to reach particular goals and by avoiding issues and behaviors that will hinder progress toward those goals, you will be showing how deliberate you are. One technique that helps to maintain or boost deliberate behaviors involves measuring your activities. Are they helping or harming your progress? You should promote those that help and suppress those that harm. Every time you do this, your progress toward achieving your goals will likely increase.

To boost your purposeful skills at work, pause before you start your next task and decide exactly what you’re going to do. Devise a clear intention rather than drifting along with whatever seems to be happening at the moment. Know what you plan to do and why you want to do it. Don’t rush towards a conclusion without considering all the evidence. And, never, allow yourself to be distracted.

Keep focused on what needs to be done and see it through. Every time you do this, your skills and insight will be enhanced. That will tend to lift you up, and your organization will reap the benefits of your rising power.

32 Depressed

Sometimes, people become unhappy, and they sense that the world is not a particularly nice place. In that type of situation, some individuals can see no way out of their despondency. Even if they don’t feel very bad, it is important for them to realize that there is barely a more easily transmissible emotion than melancholy and it will soon touch everyone who comes in contact with it. If someone is feeling low, it is probably time to do something to remedy the situation and to help return them to a better mental state where they can be a productive and positive contributor in their workplace.


To overcome a difficult situation, some people stand up, stretch, relax their shoulders, and breathe. When they do that, they shift their focus from their feelings to their behaviors. And, with luck, they shake off at least a little of the physical manifestations of feeling low.

Anyone feeling bad at their workplace, should immediately reach out to a trusted colleague, or their manager. It is best not to elaborate on why they are feeling low, just that they are feeling that way. By connecting with others, the sense of loneliness and lethargy may start to break down. And, at this time, any step forward is probably a good thing.

Acknowledging your feelings, good or bad, will help you to accept and understand that your emotions are not your fault and that you are not letting down your organization. Many people have experienced low mental states whether they were working as a high-level executive or as a new, junior recruit. The wise among them make their situation clear and they take positive action to help themselves so that they can move through difficult times, and, in the end, regain control of their emotions and of their life. So, there is always a way forward for all of us. We just have to take it.

It can be difficult to decide whether you are discontented with your working environment or with the tasks you perform. It’s important to identify if either are the cause of your emotional state. You could ask yourself, “What is it about this job is depressing?” If it’s the people around you, or the office atmosphere, you can work to build better boundaries to have a firmer balance between work and personal life.

You could try to improve your state of mind by planning a period of time off so you have something to look forward to. Moving toward a vacation can help to improve your mood, particularly if workplace stress and your responsibilities are a problem.

Feeling like there’s little room for advancement in a job can also contribute to feeling low. Research suggests that increasing job satisfaction can improve the way people feel so, if this is an issue, it may be time to talk to your manager and discuss areas whether you can improve your sense of fulfilment.

It is incredibly important to practice more self-care. If you’re working while feeling depressed, it takes a lot of energy to think about how to look after yourself. Self-care includes considering different therapy options. Don’t just skip past this issue if you are nervous about it. It can help tremendously.

Also, you could try to include new experiences in your life like working out, hiking, and listening to your favorite music. Exercise, in particular, boosts endorphins, which can help lift your mood. This is the same brain chemical that many types of antidepressants help stimulate. Add sunshine to the mix for a natural mood enhancer.

Nothing is more important than your mental health. It should take precedence over everything else. You deserve to find joy and satisfaction in your career. If your job is making you feel disconnected and hopeless, it might signal that something more serious is occurring. Taking steps to address your mental health will positively impact every area of your life, from your professional duties to your relationships. Take your first positive step today.

life, from your work life to your relationships. Take your first step today.

33 Determined

A person who is determined will feel strong when their willpower is well-directed. Their desire could be to avoid irrelevant issues or to reach particular personal or organizational goals. Sometimes, determined people want immediate action. They take the initiative on some issues because they know that has a chance of opening new paths to success. At times, their strong resolve is slightly obscured from view because they are willing to delay their gratification to achieve the ultimate results they seek.


Many successful people are great at delaying gratification. So, it may be a good idea to increase your willpower to ensure you reach your goal. Suppose you met your monthly sales quota early. You could congratulate yourself with a restaurant dinner. On the other hand, you’ll feel a greater sense of satisfaction if you celebrate a really significant milestone like smashing your sales quota over a full year, which leads to your goal of being offered a pay rise. You could channel your willpower and revel in far stronger gratification on that big day.

Many successful people are also strong at withstanding temptation. Self-discipline is the foundation of determination. It’s the ability to control your thoughts, emotions, and actions, even when faced with distractions and temptations. To become even more determined, practice self-discipline every day. Start with small things like waking up early or avoiding unhealthy foods. By building your self-discipline muscle, you’ll be better equipped to handle the challenges and increased expectations that come with getting that raise.

It is possible to raise you level of determination by continuing to be inspired by role models. There are millions of successful people who are incredibly famous. But there’s also the family who owns a restaurant on main street, the young construction worker running his own contracting company, and the dedicated single mom who will never give up. If they can do it, so can you. Surrounding yourself with motivational quotes, books, or podcasts is also a great idea to keep your determination levels high.

Further, you could visualize your goals by creating a vision board with images that inspire you. This doesn’t have to be a board on your wall. Place these inspiring photos in a place you see every single day like the wallpaper on your computer or phone. Understand that you are trying to jump start your brain’s dopamine pleasure pathways to fuel extra performance. Tweak the vision of what you’re trying to create so that it continues to be exciting and perfectly suited to your circumstance.

You could also talk to your loved ones about what you hope to achieve at work. They can help to keep you accountable. If you trust your colleagues, you can speak to them, as well.

Physical activity will help boost your energy, your focus, and, in turn, your motivation. When you accomplish your fitness goals, it will encourage you to do the same in your career.

Of course, it is important that you recognize that determination is temporary. This might seem counter intuitive but, once you accept that it’s a fleeting feeling, you’ll put less pressure on yourself to be determined all of the time. This insight will give you the space to lean on other healthy habits to get you through your workday.

34 Dignified

Someone who appears to be serious, formal, and conventional often makes people respect them. A dignified person often listens closely to others and carefully considers their opinions. They also act with discretion and with good judgment. This is an excellent stance to present to everyone at every level in an organization and even more so for customers and clients.


It is better to be a person of action than merely being a person of words. The world needs more doers. Try to under-promise and over-deliver more at work then see the lasting impression you create on everyone. Smile often, too. Everyone likes the sight of a genuine smile. Yes, including your manager. Think about how you feel when a complete stranger looks you in the eyes and smiles. Suddenly they don’t seem like a stranger anymore, do they?

People can easily forget what you say or what you do, but they won’t forget the way you made them feel. So don’t hesitate to go the extra mile in making your colleagues feel good about themselves. They are likely to deeply appreciate your gesture. Before long the entire office will respect you even more.

Someone who is dignified will do whatever they can to avoid workplace rumors and will refuse the temptation to put others down. Engaging in gossip constantly puts you in the company of insecure people and that approach will not help you in the long run.

Keep your dignity rising by taming your anger because it can cost you more than you may hope.

A dignified person is never late for work, and the thought of them harassing anyone is utterly impossible. They rarely ask for time off and they try to meet deadlines. Moreover, they never complain.

A dignified person wants their manager to be their ally so they never annoy them. They maintain their pride by making decisions that are within their area of responsibility.

Collaborate and cooperate if you are dignified, but don’t let yourself be used inappropriately. If your colleagues try to dump their work on you while they bask in the glory, you will know that you are losing your status because a dignified person stands up for themselves.

You will know you are dignified if you can look yourself in the mirror and believe you’ve acted in good conscience to the best of your ability. At the end of each workday, you’ll have a sense of accomplishment that, over time, creates a powerful self-confidence that can overwhelm all challenges.

35 Direct

When people are being direct, they are usually dealing with issues unambiguously and they may have a specific goal in mind. If so, that gives them the best chance to reach the outcome that they seek such as wanting to understand a workplace issue or deciding on a method of proceeding with a plan of action. A direct, no-nonsense approach partly involves accepting any emotional reactions, no matter how strong or weak they may be, while keeping rationally focused on achieving the objective that has been defined.


To be successful in the workplace, you must tap into the most direct version of yourself. Be clear in your tone, language, opinions, ideas, and decisions. To raise this aspect of your talents even higher, next time you give feedback to a colleague or client, talk about facts rather than emotions. Facts are objective, while emotions are subjective. When you refer to facts, you remove your personal feeling from the conversation, and instead, provide hard evidence that explains why they should accept your position or proposition. In doing so, you are showing them more consideration because you are not trying to bulldoze them with your emotionally driven opinion.

Not everyone uses this direct approach; most get emotional. So it is likely that you will notice your performance at work increase faster than others.

Being direct in the workplace isn’t only about getting your point across. It’s also about establishing your role within the organization and showing that you’re a colleague who deserves the respect of those around you.

Many people speak less loudly because they believe that speaking up sounds like they are bossy, pushy, or disrespectful. Being direct does not have to be any of those things. Look at it from the angle of valuing your own thoughts, feelings, and voice, as well as those of your colleagues. You can be a kind person while communicating directly.

Your goal is to create the best outcome for yourself, in cooperation with others in your workplace. Saying something like, “I disagree with that because (insert facts here)” is direct and honest, and it opens up further conversation to move toward resolution. However, saying, “That proposal is stupid. Trust me, you have no idea,” is much too aggressive. It shuts down conversations and harms relationships.

Being able to admit to colleagues or a manager that you got something wrong is an advantageous skill that many people don’t possess. It shows humility and confidence. Ultimately, you’re proving that while you may have made a mistake, you’re willing to directly own it and make things better. This proves you’re capable of growth and improvement and is guaranteed to gain you respect from most people.

Be patient with yourself as you make these changes. You may stumble through difficult conversations or lose your nerve at the last moment. That’s okay. Keep going. Creating a direct communication style is a great skill to have in your armory.

36 Disconcerted

People who are disconcerted usually feel surprised or disturbed by something or someone. Maybe, a train of thought or an expectation has been disrupted. Being disconcerted usually affects a person’s ability to think clearly and may disturb their capacity to solve problems or to achieve their professional goals. For some people, being disconcerted is a minor issue and they override it without much concern. For others, the emotion is upsetting and can take some time to ignore.


Leaders are only human. Without a lot of effort, they’re just as likely as anyone else to become upset, distracted, or even angry when things go wrong. The difference is that leaders try harder than most others to maintain composure. They’ve likely learned from experience how important it is to be careful about what they say. You may find it useful to do the same, particularly if you are surprised by an event or feel uncertain about someone’s behavior. As the old saying goes: Speak when you’re disconcerted and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret. Your emotions are temporary. Anger can change to relief. Sadness can change to joy. So, your feelings will change but the facts won’t.

Make your decisions based on how things really are, whether they should be that way or not. Winners operate in the real world, not in the idealized world that exists in an individual mind. So, you should rapidly drop the feeling of being disconcerted. It exists because you got something wrong. Observe, listen, collect data, and then make decisions based on your findings. And, the first thing you should do is to work out how to never be disconcerted again.

Remember to be kind to yourself. No matter your age, occupation, or industry, at some stage, you will find yourself facing uncertainty regarding your work, your position, and, yes, even the direction of your entire career. It could be a scary time and you may well feel uncomfortable. To reduce this feeling of being disconcerted, focus on what you can control. Despite your best efforts, things won’t always go as planned. The first step is to remember that unexpected events happen. When you decide that you can’t accept uncertainty, you amplify your negative feelings, and end up at war with yourself, resisting and arguing everything that blindsides you.

Accept that you can’t fully control everything and start focusing on what you can influence. There are probably actions you can take right now that will empower you. Identify them and stop being a victim. Look for the opportunity in your difficulty.

Some neuroscientists at Yale University found that uncertainty can be healthy for your brain because you learn more in situations that are uncertain. In a predictable setting, your brain can become lazy. But, when situations change, it works harder. Entering an unfamiliar situation that causes you to feel disconcerted actually enhances the tendency for your brain to absorb additional information. This study showed the importance of exploring outside your comfort zone in order to achieve a growth mindset and build resilience for career success.

So take a few chances, accept the disconcerted feelings that come with it, and power past those colleagues who avoid workplace uncertainty. They think they are safe in their cocoon, but they are actually trapped in a virtual prison where growth moves in perpetual slow motion. 

37 Unsettled

Some people believe they deserve something. Usually, for them, that “something” is almost always out of reach. They want to be part of what is going on, but, for some reason, they weren’t invited to the party. There are many reasons people may feel uneasy or uncomfortable about a situation at work. They may or may not be openly expressing their sense of loss, but it is possible they are feeling something negative that could be perceived as a setback. Of course, as time passes, they may find that their sense of being unsettled was a useful warning of some trouble that needs to be addressed.


People who feel unsettled at work sometimes take the opportunity to plan their schedule, sometimes, days or weeks in advance. That way, they can see the tasks they want and need to complete. A well-structured plan usually introduces a level of certainty and eases the sense of feeling unsettled, no matter its cause. The plan helps them to feel more powerfully in control of their work and their sense of direction.

If you try this technique, or something similar, you may also find that new ideas come to mind about how to deal with tasks and how to avoid pitfalls. Your rational mind may help you create ways to avoid feeling unsettled in the future. Thinking through issues and planning a way to manage them can modify your behavior towards more productive action which, in turn, can subdue a jittery unpleasant emotion like feeling unsettled. Your rational mind is always there, ready to help you to settle in.

Many people experience their greatest happiness, clarity, and success in life when they take actions that are aligned with their values rather than their moods. Some call this skill “psychological flexibility.” Those with this skill are usually better at regulating their emotions and dealing with unsettling setbacks. So when you are faced with a disturbing situation at work, ask yourself what you can do to align your actions with what’s most important to you. That will create direction and purpose, whereas one minute ago you potentially didn’t have either. You’ll suddenly find you have strength even during difficult circumstances.

Developing this skill doesn’t mean that you won’t feel emotional discomfort; it is part of the human experience, but you will have that question ready to help you rise out of your unsettled state. Of course, you still may be feeling troubled to a certain extent. For example, imagine you need to calm down after a meeting that has left you feeling a little uneasy. Do something different like making a cup of chamomile tea. This daisy-like flower is synonymous with calmness, making it among the most well-known stress-soothing brews.

Are you feeling a little aimless and tired after sitting all day at your computer? Maybe you need a burst of energy to get you through the afternoon, but you’ve already had enough coffee. Brew some sort of herbal tea with ginger in it. This spicy herb helps to raise cognitive function, enhances our working memory, and increases our ability to pay attention. It also increases blood circulation and helps to balance your blood sugar levels, both of which help to keep our energy high. Cheers to that!

38 Disoriented

A disoriented person will probably be feeling uncomfortable or, maybe, somewhat bewildered. To them, the road ahead may appear to be uneven or they may sense that they lack a firm footing. It may be helpful for them to go back to what they know and believe. In other words, to find some solid ground. As a professional, they would do well to consider their own experience and knowledge because they know they can trust them both. That may help them to understand and react appropriately to their situation, and to move on from a dizzying, unpleasant situation.


Whether someone is in a situation that is perceived as good or bad, there are always positives they can build on. One of the most troubling moments can arise when a plan falls apart or there are too many choices. It is enough to make anyone dizzy and confused.

Successful people know how to take such a negative situation and put a positive light on it. Even in failure, you will find many opportunities for professional and personal growth. Failure is very rarely a 100% disaster. It just means that an important target was missed. Overall results vary, so for every time that you’ve tried, inevitably some things went well. So, feeling disoriented, even slightly, means that things are not 100% under your control.

You are likely to move forward and regain your balance when you focus on things that you know, things that you can reasonably well assume, and things that should be happening. Once you settle on each of those concepts, the dizzy feeling will fade as you focus on things that are stable. Check them off, one at a time, and know that disorientation will soon be replaced by certainty. Better times are coming.

If you’re like most people, when you see someone who is confused and disoriented, your natural reaction is to try to help them. Think about what happens when a major change is announced in an organization. Staff often become disoriented then they start talking to each other, saying things like “Did you hear about …?” and “What does that mean for us?” The uncertain time causes an increase in social interactions. Colleagues start sharing their knowledge and experience. What could be more valuable in today’s workplace, where the flow of information is crucial, and we often feel isolated and alone?

So, when you are feeling disoriented, reach out to those colleagues you trust, and their natural reaction will likely be to help you and share their knowledge. Sometimes, at work, we hide our confusion. But remember that being more open about your feelings is a courageous act that tends to make others look up to you.

For example, if you said, “Sorry, I don’t fully understand. Can you please explain more?” and you spoke with good eye contact and posture, chances are the respect for you will increase. It is also likely that there are colleagues around you who will feel relieved, saying silently to themselves, “Phew! I’m not the only one disoriented. I’m glad someone had the courage to ask for clarification.”

It can make you appear to be a leader if you have the courage to show your state of mind. Colleagues and managers will know you speak the truth. They may sense they can trust you more. Someone who doesn’t have the strength to speak up will often try to give a false impression of nonchalant competence. But that can easily send the wrong messages to managers and executives.

So embrace your feelings and use them to fuel a positive outcome for yourself. Being disoriented makes you think and learn new insights. It improves your social skills and, if you are brave, people may look up to you. What a useful emotion disorientation can be.

53 Fearful

People are usually fearful because they are concerned about something that may be harmful in some way. That is not a nice place to be, particularly if it involves their workplace. Fear sometimes surges through their body like electricity but, it usually recedes and even vanishes just as quickly. In time, troublesome issues are resolved somehow, and fear fades as normalcy returns. That is a time everyone greets with a great sense of relief.


To lower fear at work, people often engage their five senses. Doing so allows the mind to swing away from our limbic system, the emotional part of our brain, back into our neocortex, our rational side. This allows us to take control of ourselves and to calm our body’s reactions. From that perspective, our nervous system operates on the basis that we are actually safe rather than being in some sort of danger.

If you ever feel fearful, immediately look around and name something you can see like someone else’s computer screen or their desk. Next, focus on your body and name something you can feel like the keys of your keyboard under your fingers or the chair you are sitting on. Then, listen to the sounds you can define like someone talking or a phone ringing. You should name these things clearly in your mind or even out loud. Now, breathe in through your nose and define what you can smell. Take a mouthful of a drink and say the name of the taste. Then, take another deep breath and, with luck, that surge of fear will have dissipated at least a little. Next, go through the procedure once more so you reattach to the real world and detach from the fear that could be causing you more harm than the thing you fear. As President Franklin Delano Roosevelt once said: “… the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

Sometimes people surrender their long-term happiness for more immediate gratification. They take the quick fix to immediately feel better. But, if they reduce the intensity of their fears on a much deeper level, they can fortify their confidence by making sacrifices now. They can bravely make decisions based on long-term goals and suffer any short-term discomforts. Finding the discipline to do so is likely to bring greater happiness and less fear in the long-term, and unsurprisingly, a higher likelihood of achieving desired goals.

It is easy to fall into the trap of wondering what others may think of you when you are fearful, but it’s important to remember that other people’s perceptions mean little as you pursue your dreams. If you ever experience this, combat it by strengthening your support system. Friends, family, and mentors who you can turn to for help and comfort in tough times can significantly reduce fear and boost your resilience. With encouragement, feedback, and guidance, they can help you navigate challenges and emerge all the stronger.

54 Feeling Strong

When someone is certain about where they stand, people may admire them, even if they don’t openly express their feelings. That doesn’t mean that the strong one is perfect, but some of their work colleagues may be attracted by their sturdy stance. This is a highly valuable attribute, particularly in a corporate setting, so it should never be wasted.


Do you want to maintain or increase your mental toughness? Throw yourself in the deep end this week at work. Like many attributes, mental strength can’t be mastered without practice. At some point, you might have to do something new, unfamiliar, or scary, and that’s a good thing.

Start small or, if you are really feeling brave, start slightly bigger. It doesn’t matter which way you go. You could grab a coffee with a colleague whose knowledge and prowess intimidates you. You could offer to help your manager with something important.

Notice when you feel weaker than you did before and remind yourself that you are capable of doing difficult things and that your strength gives you pleasure. Your power will rise every day.

Mental toughness is the bridge that helps you to reach your goals. It provides the extra boost that lifts you over career obstacles. Work life does not go as smoothly as we would hope. It’s important to pause and regain focus after a setback, as opposed to dwelling on a temporary misfortune. Make sure you have a plan in place to help you deal with events that don’t go to plan.

Strong people tend to live by their value system, which forms the basis of their decision-making. They are guided by that approach even when it seems they are not acting in their own best interest. When your decisions are aligned with your highest self, it can cultivate a stronger mind.

All too often we can be lured into believing naysayers because they echo the self-doubt we hear in our mind. To nurture a positive self-view is to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. Do this when someone does not believe you or, even, in you. Then, rigorously follow through on what you said you were going to do. You’ll earn the respect of others but also you will learn to respect yourself. Developing your follow-through skills will help you accomplish your professional goals and strengthen your workplace relationships. Increased mental strength and success awaits those who are feeling strong.

57 Forceful

Are you emphasizing your point of view and backing it up with strong feelings? That should convince your manager, your colleagues, and your clients that you are being direct, clear, and honest. Are you feeling determined to achieve a result that is important and worthwhile? You are probably opening up new possibilities as you progress. So, keep going.


Being assertive and confident is an important basis for good communication, particularly in a workplace like an office. You can bolster this characteristic by using more ‘I’ statements. This lets others know exactly what you’re thinking or feeling without sounding accusatory. For example, say, “I disagree,” or “I have another angle on that,” rather than saying, “You’re wrong.” If you need some support, say, “I would like you to help with this,” rather than, “You need to do this.” Keep your requests simple, specific. and clear.

Another method to maintain or to increase forcefulness is to practice saying “no.” If you find it difficult to reject requests, try saying, “No, I can’t do that right now.” Remember that you don’t need to explain why you have chosen to say no. Don’t hesitate. Be direct. If an explanation is necessary, keep it brief.

Some people use body language to ensure their messages have impact. They make regular eye contact with others during meetings and in one-to-one interviews. Some maintain a neutral or positive facial expression but they don’t cross their arms or legs, which may suggest they are blocking out the other person.

If you can remain forceful while maintaining respectful relationships, it is likely your self-confidence will rise along with the respect you will receive from colleagues and managers. That’s a path to creating win-win situations at work and gaining greater satisfaction from your professional activities.

You can also increase your forcefulness by clearly distinguishing between facts and opinions. No one can argue with facts, even if they are inconvenient. Once you’ve stated them, let the other person explain their preferred action. By clearly showing them the difference between what is fact and what is opinion, you establish a foundation of transparency, which makes a listener or observer more willing to accept what you have to say.

Logic is a powerful tool in the art of persuasion. If you can present your perspective and back it up with evidence, then other people have no reason to be angry with you or, even, to disagree with you. The facts are objective. You’re just the messenger.

If someone takes issue with your opinions, that’s fine, as long as they respect the facts. This approach is important in the workplace, where the quality of decisions is based on the foundational data.

It is often useful to show that an issue is bigger than any individual. It’s about the mutual benefit and success of the team, or organization. This approach drives everyone toward verifiable data and logical actions, which lead to a mutually beneficial outcome.

61 Frustrated

At times, people feel bad because something has not happened, or they are not getting what they want. That happens in professional life all the time, so they are not the first or last to experience this. Maybe they feel they are hitting a brick wall. However, they would be wise not to attribute blame to someone without careful consideration. It can be helpful to define specifically what is the cause of the frustration so they can start to move on from their negative feelings.


When someone spends long hours every week with the same group of people, fulfilling the same set of duties, something’s bound to start getting on their nerves. Whether it’s a co-worker’s bad habit, a manager’s communication style, or just that one menial task that drives them crazy for ninety minutes every day, frustration is bound to raise its ugly head.

To lessen such feelings, wise people use their situation as motivation. Anytime they’re feeling frustrated at work, they focus their attention on ways they can improve their circumstances.

They know they have the skills, experience, and tenacity to do the job. That’s why their organization hired them in the first place. So, they ask themself how the obstacles they face can become opportunities. If you are ever in this situation, set one new goal that will help you overcome one obstacle and focus your energy and efforts on achieving that result. This approach will immediately put you back in the power seat, which is probably where you belong.

It is likely that you can’t avoid doing at least something that you don’t particularly love as part of your job. And, for the most part, that’s tolerable. As an adaptable professional, you would expect to ride over any bumps in your career, let alone your daily activities.

But then, there are those duties that you may despise so much that it pushes you to consider moving on. There may be some situations that you find so irritating and counterproductive that you want to explode.

If you whine to your manager, you may get a response along the lines, “I understand. I often feel the same way. That’s what happens in a professional career.”

On the other hand, if you make a valid suggestion about how to simplify or speed up that work or how to overcome a counterproductive situation, your approach may be much better received. Remember that managers usually don’t like problems; they like solutions. So don’t complain. Suggest a better way forward.

No job will ever be 100% frustration free, but by addressing these everyday issues instead of silently fuming about them, you’ll help boost your level of satisfaction to the benefit of your organization, to your colleagues, and, most importantly, to you.

65 Grumpy

There are times when people find themselves in a bad mood with or without an obvious reason or target. People around them, whether they are work colleagues or clients, will quickly notice those feelings, and many might want to avoid interacting. Someone in a bad mood may, at first, be pleased by that response but, after a while, they will start to hope things can return to normal. If they stay grumpy, the positive outcomes they are working towards could be jeopardized. Then they will be stuck with a bad attitude and poor work results.


Negative emotions are bound to come up when you are at work just as they do in your personal life. Essentially, that’s not a bad thing, but such feelings can hamper your career unless you practice a little self-control. A strategy that people use to lower this emotion is to stop trying to be perfect. Instead of focusing on a single missed comma in a 20-page report, they give themself more wiggle room to achieve the broader goal they’ve set and they notice how their new carefree (but not careless) attitude achieves better results.

If you are feeling grumpy, your mood can be helped by understanding who and what might be making you irritable. Pay attention to the circumstances and note which colleagues are present when you feel that way so you can prepare and manage your responses next time. If one particular co-worker pushes your buttons, plan to take short breaks when you know you’ll have to work together. That will allow you to disrupt the flow of any rising emotions and will help you avoid hair-trigger reactions that you may later regret. No one likes feeling grumpy, so by anticipating situations that fuel that negative feeling, you can stay calm and collected.

What is grumpiness trying to tell us? It usually indicates that our life is out of balance in some way, and, sometimes, there is a quick fix. Maybe a work colleague is irritating you. If so, block them out of your sight and hearing. Maybe we are not getting enough sleep. If so, go to bed early tonight. Maybe we need to eat something. If so, bring more food to work tomorrow so you are satisfied all day.

However, sometimes, being grumpy shows that our life is out of balance in a more significant way. It could be showing us that we’ve lost touch with who we are and what is important to us.

Imagine you are stressfully scrambling around all day doing things that you believe are a complete waste of your time and talents. Maybe this situation has been caused by you having to work in a role that you don’t like and performing endless tasks that bore you to the point of numbness. Whatever the trouble is, your body will tell you subtly at first but then the trouble will slowly become more obvious and ominous.

Before the irritation manifests into something that damages your career, remember that even though people may not have control of everything in their lives, they do still have control of some things. Work on changing the things in life that you do have control over, like going to the gym a bit more, eating less candy, or removing a toxic person from your life. Even if such changes are small, they can help in establishing a sense of control and optimism in your life.

Importantly, remember to have more compassion for yourself. Recognize that you are doing your best in a difficult situation. The more you focus on compassion, the less room there will be for grumpiness.

67 Hesitant

When someone is feeling unsure about what to do or when to do it, they hesitate. There may be something they know or feel that is holding them back. Maybe they are not sure they have all the facts, or maybe they are uncertain about the reactions that will ensue. That can create a real sense of anxiety when they are dealing with the intricacies of organizational politics and workplace demands. When their sense of certainty returns, which it will, they may take a stance or, even, take action, and then deal comfortably and confidently with the consequences.


To lower your hesitancy, you might try focusing on clear, definitive statements relating to the work you are doing. Decide on the facts and clear conclusions that you are sure about. Put in some effort here to understand by asking yourself or others some clarifying questions. Don’t be that clueless person in the meeting who just nods as if they know what’s going on. 

If something doesn’t make sense, find the reason by asking questions. The people involved, often your manager, will respect your desire to understand with greater precision. Then, to increase your confidence, share that knowledge and information with others. Being a resource to those around you can boost your status in their eyes as you gain more control and reduce your uncertainty.

When we hesitantly enter into a new project or role at work, we are usually trying to protect our ego. We don’t want to be embarrassed if something fails, so we tell colleagues it’s just a test or trial. We try to give ourselves an out, but we are really just indicating to the office, and ourselves, that we expect this new experience to fall over.

The next time you reach one of these crossroads at work, and it doesn’t have to be a big career crossroad, summon the mental strength to commit to it fully, or don’t do it at all. It is far better to acknowledge your fear and still devote yourself to the challenge. This shows you think the situation is important. Managers and executives will notice. You will likely feel more powerful and energetic when you deliberately block off your own easy way out, especially when the going gets tough. Just take that first step, even if you are a little afraid of where it might lead.

It is usually comforting to do nothing, but that feeling only lasts for a brief time. And, remember that inaction has a cost. Ask yourself if, in the future, you might regret not taking a chance. People who experience stagnation are often prone to slip into depression, so shift gears now and leave hesitancy in the dust.

137 Uncertain

Someone may feel sure about some things but unsure about others. Such contradictory or changing emotions may make them feel disconcerted or uncomfortable. In the workplace, this uncertainty can hinder their efforts to make good decisions or to ensure their actions are effective. They need to remember that it’s important to keep focused on the results they and their organization are striving to achieve.


Productive worries can lead to activities that give us more control of our environment, whereas unproductive worries can make us feel even more anxious and uncertain. With this in mind, wise professionals try to differentiate how much of their worrying is productive or unproductive. Productive uncertainty may involve making sure you meet a deadline. Unproductive uncertainty might involve you focusing on the worst-case scenario if you miss a deadline.

If there’s nothing you can do about what is causing you to feel uncertain, then the issue is not yours to worry about. Taking a step back and recognizing what is and isn’t worth the worry is a powerful method that can help you take control of your emotions.  

What is the simplest way to overcome uncertainty? One of the best is to work on the basis that knowledgeable people are probably willing to tell you what you need to know. All you have to do is ask. If no-one in your office knows what you need to know, engage with people in other organizations or industries. The more you do this, the more information you will gain and the faster uncertainty will fade.

Remember that failing fast gives you the time to try again, but you must be prepared to gather data and learn from what activities did not work. So make sure you document what went right and always answer the question, why did it go right? That will ensure you know what to do next time and you will act with more certainty.

If you ensure that your decisions are based on your core values and guiding principles, you will likely navigate your way around uncertainty. Without values, you’ll be tossed about and be at an even more significant disadvantage when faced with doubt.

Keep all of your options open to accommodate an uncertain future. You may need to course-correct and select another option, which can become a contingency plan. Remember that risk, opportunity, and uncertainty are usually a package deal. You will need to take all three on board to lift your career to its next stage.

138 Uneasy

It is difficult when people feel uncomfortable and irritated about something that is either uncertain or unsatisfactorily resolved. Deep down, they may be feeling anxious to some degree. In this situation, people usually take one of two paths. They try to ignore the problem, or they face their fears and work on fixing the cause. A good thing to remember is that feeling uneasy usually fades fast for those who are brave. Then, they often find themselves free to pursue their professional and personal goals with renewed vigor and enthusiasm.


Uneasiness in the workplace is usually a warning that something isn’t right. One of the most effective ways to lower unease is to accept it. Of course, that’s not what people would normally expect to hear. When we let such a feeling run its course without fighting it, paradoxically, that strategy often diminishes the discomfort.

There is another approach that can offer quick, short-term relief. The concept of catastrophizing involves believing that you’re in a worse situation than you really are. This is based on exaggerating your difficulties and the disasters that seem to loom on every side. When you notice this. do a reality check and ask yourself these questions. On a scale of one-to-one hundred, how likely is it that what I’m uneasy about will happen? Do I have good reasons to think something will go wrong? Is there a chance I’m overly worried and that my professional life will continue as it is?

Often, a major part of feeling uneasy comes from a fear of the future. The best way to manage that fear is to plan your approach. Planning helps you to avoid underestimating or overestimating the effort needed for a task, which may cause anxiety. Planning also ensures that you allocate time for non-work activities, such as rest and leisure, which are key to maintaining your mental clarity. Good planning involves determining your responsibilities and setting goals for specific time periods.

Taking your work home can increase a sense of unease. It can also badly affect you and those you love. Your home is supposed to be a sanctuary. It is usually better to stay late in the office than to start working again at 8 p.m. in your lounge room. Because technology makes you accessible all day through emails and phone calls, it may be wise to avoid responding, especially during leisure time and weekends.

If you are working remotely from home, it is probably quite difficult to separate your private and professional life. To make the difference more defined, you could set up a separate room or area that is reserved for work only. This small change could make it easier to keep the home environment one of relaxation and leisure, which, in turn, could alleviate ongoing feelings of unease.

139 Unsettled

Some people believe they deserve something. Usually, for them, that “something” is almost always out of reach. They want to be part of what is going on, but, for some reason, they weren’t invited to the party. There are many reasons people may feel uneasy or uncomfortable about a situation at work. They may or may not be openly expressing their sense of loss, but it is possible they are feeling something negative that could be perceived as a setback. Of course, as time passes, they may find that their sense of being unsettled was a useful warning of some trouble that needs to be addressed.


Being unsettled over work-related issues is not a good place to be and can eventually lead to burnout. When people exhaust themself with negative thoughts they place enormous strain on their mental wellbeing.

When you were a child, you probably remember an adult saying, “Settle down!” Your mother probably said it. Your first-grade teacher probably said it, too. If you have children of your own, you may have said it to them, as well. It is usually said, or yelled, in the context of a child being too exuberant. But it is really about someone reacting emotionally that does not align with the facts.

In the workplace, being direct and transparent with managers or colleagues may feel uncomfortable at times, but it can help prevent unsettling situations from developing. If you are late shipping an item, it is best not to make excuses. Just explain the situation to your customer. If your colleagues’ constant phone calls are annoying you, politely tell them what the problem is. Don’t endlessly suffer feeling unsettled because it could easily lead to something much worse.

Developing a reputation for honest and transparent communication in the workplace makes people much more likely to trust you, to forgive you, and to want to work with you. You’ll be more comfortable at work and that almost always leads you to being more productive.

The “fake it ’til you make it” strategy is one of the oldest in the book, and pretending you know what’s happening can possibly help your cause, especially if you’re facing important people and you don’t want to appear to be out of your depth. However, that approach can become very useful if you’ve being given lots of information and you know you’ll need time to digest it. You can quickly overcome feeling unsettled if you smile, nod, take notes (particularly on issues you don’t understand), then say “I’m going to process this, and I’ll let you know if I have any questions.”  You can catch up with your manager later.

When people feel unsettled over a longer time, it may be wise for them to plan their activities days or weeks ahead. That way, they develop a sense of how far along the learning curve they have progressed and what they still need to understand before they will be satisfied. A well-structured plan will help to regain a sense of control and will probably see any unsettled emotions begin to fade rapidly.

140 Unsure

While a person is certain about some things, they may be finding it difficult to be sure about others. That’s not unusual for anyone working in a professional environment. A common result is that they find it hard to make a decision that they can stick with. Of course, any doubts may be justified, and they may not be alone in feeling this way. On the positive side, the greatest success stories are sometimes created when moments like these are decisively resolved.


Feeling unsure at work is more common than you may think. There are some estimates that approximately 85% of people worldwide have issues with, for example, self-esteem. You might sense that you are not as good at performing your tasks as some of your co-workers. And you might even choose to remain quiet in meetings instead of sharing opinions because you are always second-guessing yourself. Maybe you feel that what you want to say wouldn’t add value to the conversation, or maybe you choose to stay quiet because you don’t feel you know enough about the topic and will be judged for having poorly formed ideas.

The concept of “impostor syndrome” is a significant driver behind making professional people unsure and people experience it no matter the level of their position in an organization. In some circumstances, the syndrome becomes more exaggerated for people in senior positions with the greatest responsibilities. Remember that everyone you esteem in your area of expertise once knew absolutely nothing about the subject.

But, with increased self-awareness, you can practice reducing this feeling. That is likely to lead to better decision making, increased job satisfaction, and more opportunities.

It is possible to lower this feeling quickly by clarifying your goals and expectations regarding your current situation. What are your main objectives? What do you need to deliver? What are the deadlines that you have to meet? What are the risks?

Make sure you communicate frequently with your manager or colleagues and seek feedback and alignment until the unsure feeling dissolves. Having a refreshed, clear vision and direction will help you focus on what really matters. That way, you’ll easily avoid distractions and it is likely you won’t be unsure anymore.  

If you have the courage and your timing is right, you may be surprised to learn that people are sometimes more open to answering questions about their knowledge than you might expect. So start asking more questions that will deepen your understanding of the issues about which you are unsure.

The next time you feel tempted to compare yourself to your colleagues, focus on what you can learn from them. They have strengths in certain areas that you may not, and vice versa. Remember that your unique set of personal and professional experiences are what make your perspective different and valuable. When you share this perspective, even if you’re unsure, it helps everyone to develop better conclusions and more potent decisions. 

142  Upset 

People get upset when they have been offended or when something bad has happened. They usually express the intensity of their feelings, and they may feel the pleasant follow up of a calming lull. They may even sense some glimmer of satisfaction at the courage of their approach. However, an emotional upset can linger too long and interfere with someone’s concentration, focus, and efficiency. Being upset at work is something that needs to be resolved for the benefit of everyone.


Have you ever been tempted to throw your work chair through a nearby window? If so, it was likely that you were listening when your adrenaline was doing the talking. You would not be the first to feel that way. Nor will you be the last.

One way to reduce any upset feelings or outrage is to get more oxygen into your system. Take a brisk walk around your office or even go outside and take a turn around the block. Do whatever it takes to get your pulse down and your mind clear. It is a rare person who can sit tight and allow their volcanic thoughts and feelings to lead them to a calm clarity. Often the cause of upset will fester and a troublesome mood will become deeper and more difficult to overcome. Some wise people realize that it may be time to talk to someone: a friend, their manager, or a trusted colleague. There is a way forward. You just have to find it.

Any time you are upset with a colleague or client, you could try asking yourself some quite difficult questions. Can I find some positive traits in them that would help me regard them in a more favorable light? Am I making a prediction that they’ll always disappoint me because they’re upsetting me now? Is this conclusion reasonable? Am I magnifying the seriousness of what makes me feel this way?

When emotions start to overwhelm someone’s better judgment, the most sensible thing to do is to take a quick step back and explore how rational these thoughts really are. If you were upset because you are feeling unwanted or unworthy, can you offer yourself some reality-based reassurance that you know to be true? Until you’ve worked out such deeper questions, you may still be vulnerable to nagging feelings that focus on your inadequacies.

Imagine you decide that you’re not an academic genius. Does that really mean you are truly not smart enough? You hardly have to be super-smart to handle most of the things that come up in life. When you create an internal not-good-enough stance, you need to find effective ways to counter it. Tell yourself that there’s lots of evidence that overwhelms that point of view. Next time a colleague or work event makes you feel upset, you may realize that you have the strength to move forward feeling far more positive than ever before.

146 Wary

You may be feeling uncertain and concerned about something that could be beyond your control. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. In fact, it may be a very wise stance to take, particularly if it relates to your professional activities. People who are wary often rely on processes and procedures that have kept them and their goals safe in the past. However, continually feeling wary is a bad sign that your foot is always on the brake pedal, and that’s no way for a professional to operate.


To lower your level of wariness, you could start by risking taking imperfect decisions. They don’t have to relate to significant issues but being resolute, even in a small way, will lift your self-confidence, which is always a good first step. You probably already know that taking action, even if it doesn’t produce the exact result you want, is almost always more fruitful than doing nothing. In any case, you will never be in a position of knowing all the relevant contingencies to be totally certain about anything.

So, people who are excessively wary usually find that, in the long run, the emotion is more costly than they imagined, particularly as they probably at first thought being wary was the safe thing to do.

Another tactic you could try is to adopt a slightly more casual tone when you speak and present a strongly positive, upbeat outlook in your messages at work. You may find that small change makes a difference in the long-term with all your professional relationships.

If you are wary about a future event because you are picturing a negative outcome, you are, in effect saying, “I can predict the future.” But more often than not, you can’t, and you are wary about what could possibly happen, rather than what will actually happen. Try to catch yourself when you are fortune telling, specially from a negative perspective. Instantly change the subject. The next time you want to ask a colleague about their opinion on some minor issue, hold back for a moment and assess the current situation. Your confidence may immediately rise because you have gained control and the result, good or bad, will not be significant.

When dealing with important decisions, aside from your rational assessments, check your emotions. Are you playing it safe based on fear, or is this not a good opportunity to pursue? The more you recognize the role your emotions play, the quicker you can start working through them and take more calculated risks. In the end, there’s a good chance you’ll quickly learn how to balance natural wariness with the opportunity to embrace challenges!

149 Worried

Being distracted by something can make people concerned. Even a minor feeling like this, particularly if it relates to the workplace, may undermine someone’s self-confidence. The trouble with worrying is that it disturbs and disrupts thinking, overrides other feelings, and limits the effectiveness of actions. It is like having an irritating itch that scratching does not ease. It is best to do something more permanent about it.


Work-related stress, even at a minor level, can have an impact on people’s ability to prosper professionally. To reduce worrying, some people use the probability strategy. The moment they start focusing on something of concern, they think about the situation logically. What (or who) exactly is the source of the concern? What level of control do others have over them? Is this reaction typical of what other people call “a worrier?” Next, decide on the basis of probability what the worst results could be. You could give each possible result a number from zero to one hundred. So, looking at the work you have done, how justified are your concerns?

People who suffer from ongoing worries sometimes find benefit in taking more exercise which, in turn, improves their mental health. Even a minor change with their activities can help to reduce anxious moments and to make them feel a rising sense of well-being when they are at work.

It is always sensible to keep a close watch on workplace conflict because it can take a significant toll on anyone’s emotional well-being. Try to avoid participating in gossipy situations. If you know one of your colleagues is especially prone to talking behind people’s backs, find a way to spend less time with them, or steer the conversation to emphasize the positive attributes of the colleague under discussion, You could say something like, “They are probably trying to do their best.” Better still, swiftly change the subject to something completely unrelated.

If you find yourself in a situation like working extra hours perfecting a report you actually finished days ago, it may be time to take a step back and reflect. While perfectionism has some positive benefits, it can also lead to burnout and boost your level of anxiety. Try to keep your high standards in check by focusing on the effort you have already put into a project and, especially, by not personalizing any mistakes as outright failures.

Remember that receiving support from your manager can significantly alleviate worries. Try to set aside a moment to talk with them and calmly discuss feeling overwhelmed by whatever is causing your concerns. Approach the conversation from a perspective of solving a problem rather than listing complaints. There’s a high chance you’ll start feeling better sooner than you imagine.

39 Distinctive

People who have something significant or different to offer often expect to be valued. The response they receive from those around them is a key driver that helps them to continue to support their organization at a high level. Managers and co-workers would be wise to pay attention to their expectations and to take advantage of the opportunities that they uncover.


Here’s the truth: you’re not designed to fit a mold. You’re designed to shatter it. Many would prefer to be just like the last person who was promoted into the job they currently hold. But they probably did not get it by being like the previous holder. The same applies to you and your current position. Success is often based on being distinctive. It’s our differences that get us to where we’re supposed to be in professional life.

To increase this attribute, don’t seek people’s approval before you do something that expresses your uniqueness or originality. Just do it. Of course, this is not suggesting that you violate the rules of your workplace. However, there is an old saying: It is easier to seek forgiveness afterwards than permission before. Often, well-meaning colleagues will try to talk you out of taking a risky action, but they may have forgotten that taking a chance is critical to personal and professional growth. Of course, you must fully understand what’s required to be successful in your current position, but you should do it in a way that is distinctively, authentically you.

It is usually wise to learn from others at work, but not to copy them. Emulate their strengths but stop short of trying to imitate them entirely. Your own distinctive skill set will be what places you apart and if you mirror another colleague too closely it will be more difficult for managers to determine your particular contribution.

Raise this trait even higher by continuing to build relationships. Try to find people who will actively advocate for you. These are people who go beyond offering you guidance over a cup of coffee. These people will recommend you, publicly praise you, or make a case for you. What is the best way to find these people? Be an advocate for them.

If someone has similar skills to yours, it is a benefit for each of you to find different situations to contribute so that you don’t compete with each other. Of course, you could support colleagues who offer different skills than yours. They will usually feel obliged to return the favor when the opportunity arises.

Embracing your distinctive self is a powerful tool and involves being genuine, transparent, and true to yourself. When you express your true self, you build trust at work, forge meaningful connections with colleagues, and make a lasting impression on managers and executives.

40 Doubtful

Someone who is feeling uncertain may be hoping to find more evidence or proof to ease their concerns. Like skepticism, doubt is, in moderation, a tool to help us understand reality. However, the worst aspects of doubt become apparent when it is directed at ourselves because it can have unfortunate associated traits like dithering and wariness, which can directly affect our work performance.


An unpleasant aspect of self-doubt is that it can make people rationalize a situation to fit their emotional state. They may be afraid to fail, to look bad, or to take on more work than they think they can handle. We can become adept at making excuses for why a good opportunity isn’t really a neat fit. In this case, the enemy is our chattering mind which, if given a chance, will create excuses, self-justifications, and a hundred other reasons why we can’t do what we should do.

Think back on opportunities you have turned down or missed. What reasons did you give yourself? Were they real or just excuses? Sometimes, they are a combination of both. Doubt helps us to erect mental barriers that hold us back. Some people seek their colleagues’ advice but, when they lean too heavily on others, they weaken their faith in themselves. Imagine continuing to change what you are working on based on other people’s advice. You will likely end up losing your self-confidence and you may become a pale shadow of yourself. So, anytime you feel even a slight hint of doubt, start supporting certainty and confidence. You will not regret it.

When people experience doubt, they tend to focus on their weaknesses. Try to reverse that. Instead of dwelling on what you can’t do, focus on your strengths. What are you good at? What have you accomplished? Make a list of these things and remind yourself of them whenever you feel doubt creeping in. Try saving any positive emails in a separate folder or screenshot positive feedback on your phone. Take a minute to scroll through your evidence and remind yourself about how awesome you are.

Think about doubt as a person in a car. Your job is to take them out of the driver’s seat and put them in the backseat. This imposter can still come along for the ride, but they don’t decide which direction you will go.

Remember that doubt thrives in isolation. The more communication and collaboration you are able to obtain in the office, the less room you give to your insecurities. Remind yourself that growth always sits beside feeling uncomfortable. Everyone is learning as they go, even the most successful leaders, many of whom are always learning and growing beyond their comfort zones. So get comfortable being uncomfortable.

At the end of the day, doubt is a common experience in the workplace, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. By recognizing your strengths, challenging negative thoughts, taking action, and seeking support, you can manage this trait and build your confidence. You are capable and deserving of success in your career.

41 Downhearted

The downhearted feel that their situation is not going completely their way and they cannot see how to change that trajectory. That usually makes them feel a bit nervous and negative. As with so many moods, it is common when people are working in a dynamic and endlessly changing professional environment. However, negative moods do have one particular characteristic: typically, they don’t last long. Positive and negative situations arise in all organizations, so feeling downhearted may be the starting point of feeling something much better in the near future.


It’s likely or even certain that from time to time everyone encounters disappointment. It’s one of those experiences that come with the highs and lows that happen in all workplaces.

The usual method of reducing a negative feeling is not to let it fester. Never brood over bad experiences. You certainly don’t have to instantly bounce back from disappointment. But, once you’ve given yourself a chance to come to terms with your circumstances, you should be ready to refocus and to begin again. If you don’t do that, disappointment can easily sour into anxiety, anger, or resentment.

As soon as someone is ready, they get back in the game, usually focusing on their next move. Trying a different angle of approach is a great way to restart and to learn how to do things differently. There is no need to rush it. You, like everyone else, probably have plenty of time to succeed professionally, and to build a future that best suits your circumstance and disposition. Sunshine and good times are just around the corner.

Sometimes you’re downhearted at work because you’re doing the same projects repeatedly, and you want a change. If so, meet with your manager to discuss the possibility of working on more challenging and rewarding projects. Maybe they will offer you some training to give you the necessary skills for these new opportunities.

It might also help to take an inventory of other more general stressors in your life. Perhaps you’re caring for sick family members or experiencing personal difficulties yourself. Even small stressors in your personal life can make you feel low-spirited at work.

Maybe it is time to step away from the office for a moment and look at the fundamentals. Be sure to eat properly. Be honest about your diet. Focus on eating healthy foods and don’t break the rules too often. Make sleep a priority. Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day. Typically, 7 to 9 hours per night is ideal. Keeping a routine will make you feel more structured and in control. Keep your body moving. From weight loss to brain health and happiness, there are so many vital reasons to be active and to take exercise. But don’t think you need to spend hours in the gym to reap the rewards. Sometimes a brisk walk is enough to get those endorphins flowing. Being outdoors can help you feel more relaxed and recharged. Plus, immersing yourself in fresh air and sunshine can help regulate your wake-sleep cycles.

Not all of these ideas directly involve your work, but they can definitely affect your job positively. Get a fresh haircut, put together a new outfit, or take a chance on a new restaurant. If you’re up for it, try saying yes to something impulsive, like touring a haunted house with a friend if you’re young at heart, or checking out the latest exhibitions at a museum. It’s a fact of life that all of us go through times when we feel tired and downhearted. But the solutions you try today can help you tomorrow.

42 Down-to-earth

Down-to-earth people appear to be comfortable with their focus on the real world. Possibly, it gives them an advantage. Appearing to be authentic, they typically avoid dramatic or exaggerated speech or behavior. In meetings and other professional interactions, this is usually admired and supported. Down-to-earth people tend to be unassuming and, sometimes, they work hard to understand other people’s point of view, even if they disagree with them.


Being down-to-earth is not really a specific behavior but rather a personality description. To support and lift your focus on being down-to-earth you could focus on being honest, being humble, and being a good listener. Avoid bragging about your achievements or focusing excessively on yourself because they suggest you are feeling insecure in some way. The down-to-earth person probably rarely feels that way.

To strengthen your down-to-earth credentials, do not interrupt colleagues, or anyone else. Just focus on their point of view and avoid planning your response. Never assume you know what they are going to say. If you practice controlling your impulses, you will likely find it provides great results.

It is no surprise that people who are down-to-earth are admired and followed in many workplaces. This is a powerful and positive attribute that should be strengthened every day.

One of the most admirable traits of down-to-earth people is their ability to remain unfazed by what others think of them. Put in the necessary effort to present yourself well, communicatively and physically, but don’t obsess about standing out. One thing that can momentarily disrupt the composure of a down-to-earth person is the prospect of drama. They have no patience for it and will quickly address any dramatic situations or people. So don’t linger in messy circumstances. Either resolve them quickly or walk away the moment it’s socially acceptable. The truth is, everyone has enough drama in their lives already so stop promoting it on the assumption that there will be some worthy profit at the end.

A huge step in boosting your down-to-earth nature is to feel comfortable in your own skin. Everyone is born with flaws. No one is perfect. Accept yourself as you are because, otherwise, this issue can become a major concern, and can stay on the top of your mind every day, slowly strangling your self-confidence and happiness.

When you make these changes, they are likely to become obvious in everything you do at work and most people will notice. It’s a very attractive trait. 

43 Dubious

It is not unusual in a professional environment where someone is feeling unhappy or doubtful. Sometimes a plan is developed that seems unlikely to succeed. Sometimes an achievement is claimed that does not seem credible. Feeling dubious is not a bad stance. It often means that a person’s intellect is operating well and the conclusions they eventually draw will benefit them and their organization.


Many studies have shown, the trait driving the majority of successful professionals is trusting their gut and their values. In the workplace we are often called upon to make quick decisions with very little information. When you know what you stand for and what’s important to you it becomes easier to make decisions that align with your values. Self-doubt can cripple your ability to make important decisions, but knowing yourself and living your values is one of the best antidotes.

While it can feel easy to extend compassion to others, it can be hard to temper self-criticism with self-compassion. It is vital that you are kind to yourself. Studies show a strong correlation between self-compassion and positive mental health, leading to reduced anxiety and higher self-esteem. Self-compassion can help develop emotional resilience in the workplace. So trust your gut and be kind to yourself.

You can lower your dubious feelings by avoiding being a perfectionist. This may initially seem to be odd advice because everyone wants to be associated with high quality work, but high levels of perfectionism can be a symptom of doubt. If you are over analyzing and you doubt that your current work is good enough, you’re possibly skeptical about your own abilities. Make sure your work is accurate, but never spend days making tiny, insignificant tweaks to it. In doing so, you are probably overthinking something, which, in turn, increases the likelihood of you becoming even more dubious.

If you are struggling, ask one of your colleagues to take a quick look at your work and then move on. The same goes for taking on a new role or project, and being dubious about the instructions you have received, the outcome you are supposed to achieve, or even if you should have taken on the project in the first place.

Don’t keep your worries to yourself. Ask your colleagues for their insights. Gather different points of view. Once you start moving forward and overcoming these obstacles, it will become easier to have faith in your direction and yourself. A conscious shift in thinking, progressing from reactive to proactive, will open up a realm of new opportunities. 

44 Dull

Feeling dull is often accompanied by a sense of losing momentum and focus. When the spirit is diminished, people sometimes believe they have little of value to offer, so, when their circumstances become untenable, they seek to do something to fix their malaise. They try to reenergize in some way. When someone is feeling dull, that mood sometimes infects others, and the sense of dispiriting disengagement spreads to the detriment of all who are touched by it. It is important that the source of the trouble is dealt with.


When people need to raise their spirits in the workplace, some of them focus on taking more responsibility. That doesn’t mean that they take on more hours or do things they do not like. To help them move away from feeling uninterested, they try to increase their levels of attention because it is likely that their duties are too easy or too predictable.

Everyone wants to feel they are making a difference at work, even if their day-to-day responsibilities include some mundane activities. People are less prone to experience dullness if they are given tasks that push them to increase their skills. So, if you are feeling just slightly dull, go talk to your manager and offer to take on something new, even if it is something quite small.

It is in your best interest to communicate with your manager more often, so long as they are open to talking. Are they the type who would empathize with your situation and provide the right assistance? You never know what benefits might come your way. They may be wondering who the best person would be to take on a new, interesting project. And, that person could possibly be you.

Dullness can alert you to the need for a change or the desire for more. It’s a warning sign that something no longer brings you the same joy or satisfaction that it once did. Think of it as a call to action to change your life, your behaviors, or your attitudes.

Whether that change is personal or professional is up to you. When you’ve worked in the same position for a long time, it’s natural that you will fall into a routine. This can sometimes make you too comfortable. If you feel unfulfilled with work, remember why you took the position in the first place. Reevaluate your feelings and identify where you can find satisfaction.

It may be that some of your colleagues feel that they are not rewarded enough for their work. If they are motivated, put in tons of effort at work, but aren’t rewarded enough, this can lead to feeling weary, unfulfilled, and uninterested. It is possible you are feeling this way, even a little bit.

How can you make a difference? If possible, demonstrate your loyalty and hard work by going above and beyond the standard efforts of people in your organization. If you want a pay rise, you could look for a title upgrade rather than simply a higher salary. That would show that you want to take on more responsibility for more compensation, as opposed to more compensation for doing the work you have already agreed to do.

People feel miserable when they are feeling bored or dull. Even if this mood is not strong, it is important to understand that life is too short to be treading water in a dull world. Start swimming by prioritizing your rising energy and your increasing potential.

45 Eager

People who are eager sometimes seem to be impatient. They may want to do or say something as soon as possible. That is not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, that impulse is probably highly beneficial. Possibly, that stance will encourage others to follow their lead. The people who get the best results from their enthusiasm are those who have considered all the facts and the likely results. Then, they will be ready to move forward when the time is right.


To increase the power of this emotional trait, put in an extra effort by reading recent articles that focus on your industry or line of work. You could even start discussions with your colleagues so you can build your knowledge of what they are working on. Maybe they will provide insights or suggest opportunities where you could support them, particularly focusing on your strengths.

Such activities will arouse your curiosity and trigger your brain’s reward system, the ventral striatum, which helps our minds to process incentives and motivation by releasing the feel-good neurotransmitter dopamine. This system urges us to explore the boundaries of what we know. It prompts us to be curious and to continue learning. Enhancing your eagerness will increase its power and, in turn, will accelerate the success of your professional life.

Some say enthusiasm is the highest paid quality on earth, first, because it’s rare in the workplace, and, second, because it’s the most contagious. Choosing your colleagues carefully will help raise your eagerness. There is a saying, “You are who you surround yourself with,” and, in the workplace, this could have a major impact on how motivated you feel. By spending time with enthusiastic colleagues, your eagerness could be further energized and inspired.

Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. If you regularly sit next to those who grumble and whinge, it will drain your eagerness and leave you resentful. It’s highly unlikely you’ll find everyone around you overflowing with keen desire. A dose of scepticism can also be a welcome reminder of reality in the workplace. But, make sure you at least engage regularly with staff who make you feel good about being at work.

Never underestimate how other people’s get-up-and-go can rub off on you. Create a list of friends, work contacts, or friendly clients you know you can call on during the day, meet for a quick coffee, or rely on for support and encouragement. While you may not be able to always benefit from their eagerness in person, knowing they are available can be a boost by itself.

People who maintain their eagerness often use their mornings wisely. Instead of dragging themself out of bed and rolling into work in a slothful fashion, why not leverage your morning to do something that’s motivating and energizing for you? You could do some physical exercise. You could cook a delicious breakfast. You could meditate. You could take your dog for a walk. Whatever maintains your energy and enthusiasm, do it. Use it to set an intention for how you want to approach the day ahead. The benefits of living an eager life can’t be overstated. You’ll have more confidence. People will view you in a more positive light, which, in turn, will open up more opportunities.

46 Earnest

People are likely to believe someone who makes their thoughts or intentions clear in a serious way. Whether the message is positive or negative, when someone recognizes a no-nonsense approach, they will likely pay attention and probably act on that basis. Earnest messages are always noticeable for their impact. They are not quickly forgotten.


If you can be nothing else in this life, be earnest. Mean what you say and speak the truth regardless of the consequences. Nobody likes a disingenuous colleague who speaks out of both sides of their mouth at the same time, particularly those who gossip or conspire. To increase this heartfelt trait immediately, follow the wisdom of the old saying: “If you can’t think of anything nice to say, don’t say anything.” You may be surprised by what you catch yourself saying when you are on autopilot.

To strengthen your earnestness, never fall into the trap of highlighting someone else’s sins to make you seem purer. People gossip because they feel a deep fear or worry about something. The best medicine for this is better communication and more clearly defined goals. If you feel you are in a workplace that is full of cutthroats who only care about getting ahead, make sure your behavior does not make your peers think you are like them. Being honest and earnest is its own reward, because with seriousness comes a reputation of integrity. An upright person of high standing is the one that people want to work with. There can be no greater compliment.

To boost your levels of serious sincerity when you speak in the office, try to soften your throat and chest, and, if you can, lower your heart rate. Work hard to find some compassion for the person or people you are talking to. Avoid trying to persuade, justify, or defend. Just be direct and brief.

When people truly speak from the heart, they often say what needs to be said without elaboration. Keep coming back to your essential points, especially if the someone becomes reactive or tries to change the topic.

Feel free to disengage if they are not ready or willing to hear your thoughts. Another chance will arise soon enough. Success is not getting the other person to change, but to express yourself earnestly in front of those who are listening and observing.

When you are done, you should reflect on what has happened. You did something great. It’s brave and difficult, in the beginning, to speak from the heart but it is vital to support and improve your mental health and overall work life. Never fall into that trap of thinking you have to change your behavior just to appease other people in your office. It’s one thing to make changes to your outlook and behavior to better your own quality of life, but it’s another thing to act like your own opinions don’t matter. You’re worth more than that, so show the world your point of view. 

47 Edgy

Feeling nervous and unsure is not pleasant. If that’s what someone is experiencing, their mood may not produce good results. If they think the worst may happen, they may be right or wrong. They may think they are in an all-or-nothing situation. Being edgy almost always results in a loss of focus, an inattention to detail, and a loss of certainty. When someone is working, this cannot possibly help their performance.


To lower this unpleasant emotion, if you have the time to spare, try practicing and improving whatever it is that makes you nervous. By running through your presentation, speech, or a meeting in which you are to take the lead, you’ll demystify much of the process, and identify any weak spots which you can improve. Also, you will have prepared just that little bit extra, which might make all the difference.

If something is making you feel edgy, arrive early so that you can familiarize yourself with the local area, sit down someplace nice, and have a moment to yourself beforehand. This will help you to visualize the process before it happens. You will avoid the stress of arriving late and you might find you are eager to get the process finished.

You can also channel your nervous energy into positivity with the spare time of being early. This may sound difficult, but there is a distinct connection between the feelings of motivational eagerness, and edgy nervousness. These two states are called eustress and distress: the two sides of the stress coin. You will feel similar reactions to both, such as a raised heart rate. So, if you can view your upcoming activity positively, you may find your nervous energy actually boosts your performance. That would be a real benefit.

Another way to look at this feeling is to avoid avoiding things. When you’re feeling on edge at work, it can be tempting to try to miss meetings or to dodge managers and colleagues. The problem with this tactic is that it often makes matters worse. When you avoid something, you reaffirm to yourself that it is threatening. So, don’t put yourself in a corner if you realize that your feelings of anxiety or annoyance are rapidly increasing.

What puts us on edge often results in a positive outcome, or we handle it better than we expected.

On a related matter, did you know that your posture can immediately change how you feel? Scientists at Harvard University found strong evidence that body postures impact our mood, our attitude towards others, our decision making, and, most importantly, our self-esteem. The way you sit and stand influences your feelings of power.

Are you reading these results while sitting at work? Keep your back straight, your chest pumped, and your legs firmly parallel. When you walk through the office, keep your shoulders back, chest high, and back straight. When you are on your feet, stand tall, put your chin up, and rest your hands by your sides. These postures immediately increase your confidence and lower your stressful and anxious feelings. They can come close to eliminating your sense of feeling edgy.

So, from today, start a habit of noticing your posture. You can practice posing in private to build your confidence and lower your stress before your next meeting. Whenever you notice yourself slouching, or making yourself physically small, it is probably time to make a change. Stand tall. Expand the space you inhabit. Feel your strength increasing. Your posture will command your mind.

48 Encircled

Some situations are so powerfully all-encompassing that they disrupt thoughts, feelings, and actions. It is obvious that, when there is such a significant problem, something should be done about it. Feeling encircled is a very unpleasant sensation, whether it is true or not. It can give rise to a moment when people are willing to fight desperately to survive. If this is the current situation, then this notion of being surrounded may well be true. It is probably time to do something to counteract it.


It’s important to remember that when people feel stuck or powerless, it is not a permanent state. While the road to regaining a sense of control may require significant effort, it is always possible to take some steps towards reclaiming it.

When this nasty feeling arises at work, successful people take a moment to step back and reflect on the full breadth of their sphere of influence. They focus on the power they have and they find a way to exercise it gracefully and effectively.

Does your personal power arise from people like your colleagues or your manager who depend on you? If so, you can break through any sense of being surrounded by engaging with them. When they understand the situation and you ask them to help, there is every chance you can begin to move forward in a positive way.

One technique that successful people employ is to reframe and refocus their work so that it more clearly reflects and supports their organization’s objectives or mission. You could think about how you could work with your colleagues and manager to open new opportunities or to develop more efficient processes.

When you take such initiatives, even if they seem small, you may find that new support and new allies appear, who will increase your power to break through any sense of encirclement while reducing those forces that seemingly have held you in place.

When you are stuck, it can impact how you feel about yourself. Building your confidence can help you to take more risks to move forward so that you can reach new opportunities.

On a mundane level, if possible, dress more professionally at work. If you already have that organized, practice positive self-talk during the workday. Try speaking with a colleague you trust who is a few steps ahead of you in the organization and ask for their advice. What should you start doing, stop doing, or keep doing to get to the next level?

Make sure that you are visible and your achievements are on the radar of managers and executives. Typically, nobody tells you that, to speed up your career trajectory, you should speak up in meetings and make sure people in positions of power know who you are.

Few courses teach you how to navigate office politics but it’s something you should do to make sure you don’t get encircled.

Are you on the right ladder? Do you know which position you want next, and the one you want several rungs up from that? While hard work is definitely important to achieving success, exertion is not what sets successful people apart from the rest.

Many professionals point toward recovery. The people who prioritize rest are the ones who are at the top of their game. So, if you’re feeling trapped or powerless, give yourself some time to figure out where you’re stuck. Is it your role? Is it your organization?

Once you get the answers, you can make a plan. But be sure it includes ample time to recover. You might need to meditate, to do some gardening, or to attend the gym. Do whatever it takes to recharge your mental battery so you can be ready to make some positive moves that will help you break out.

49 Envious 

Envy involves wanting something that someone else has. That type of resentment can create hurt to more than just the person who feels it. Sometimes, people experience envy because they need to be sure that they are worthy. Sometimes, they think that success is rare, and they desperately want it for themselves. However, other people’s success may have nothing to do with the achievements or failures of an envious individual. Reaching goals is all about someone striving and persisting until their definition of success is achieved. They have to decide what that end point is.


The first thing to know when considering envy is that it only truly injures the envious. Even if someone feels the slightest hint of envy, they need to accept that other people might be more professionally successful but that does not mean they will necessarily live a happier life.

Studies have shown that “upward comparisons” can leave us feeling disappointed with our current position and can lead to longer term health uncertainties.

Although envy can be seen as something like a compliment, it can be quite dehumanizing. It can reduce the object of envy to something very narrow and it masks the full picture of who they are and what their life is like.

Have you ever envied someone who seemed to have the perfect life, only to find out later that they were in fact suffering in some way? These cases are more common than most people imagine. It’s not that we should seek out others’ suffering, searching for chinks in their armor, but rather we should be open to seeing them in a way that will include both their strengths and weaknesses, their joys and sorrows. Understanding a person fully will help develop a genuine appreciation of their success and an acceptance that it is good to feel proud of your own achievements. After all, someone may be secretly envying you.

Instead of feeling envious of other people’s achievements, try to learn from them. Analyze what tactics, habits, or skills that they used, and consider implementing similar approaches that may help your journey to success. This approach will help you transform envy into motivation.

Envy is useless unless it’s used for self-improvement. You may be surprised if you attempt to positively redirect your energy. Maybe, you are not envious at all. If your co-worker is promoted to manager, you may realize that you envy of their salary but not the responsibilities they now have to endure.

Even if you dislike them, you’re ultimately on the same team and continuing to work together is a smart approach. A single colleague may experience a few individual successes over the course of their career, but when you are part of a team, your rate of success will significantly increase.

50 Exasperated

There are times when someone’s anger and frustration is close to boiling over into something worse. Often, when people reach that level of intensity, they say or do things that they may later deeply regret. So, it may be wise for them to keep their rational mind engaged even as they express their feelings, which may be justified. Remember, they are in a work environment, and they have to be as rational and as calm as possible. Hopefully, they will soon return to a position where their head and their heart are in balance.


A growing percentage of people would give anything to work at home forever. There are many reasons for this, but a major gripe, whether some people consciously recognise it or not, is the decibel gap. For many of us, home is quiet; but offices, while great for social stimulation, can be full of noise … unwanted noise. Most of us think deliberately about our daily smart hours, which are the times in the office when we’re most focused and least worn down. Efficient people build their schedules around those hours, but do not necessarily put noise pollution into the equation.

Noise may be only one issue that drives you to the point of exasperation. You can probably list the people, places, and provocations that lead you to the point of profound irritation. It is likely that you know the symptoms. Your attention is impaired. Your thinking skills are dulled. Your professional activities are disrupted or diverted.

So, how do you deal with it? Fight back! Avoid the frustrations created by incidents that make you feel so bad. Adopt a “standoff” approach so that you are not engaged enough to be troubled by stupid or irrelevant situations. Focus on what is important and how you intend to deal with those matters. The more control you have, the more your exasperation will subside. That can only be for the good.

51 Intense   

States of high emotion usually last a short time, but they can be incredibly powerful and useful when something needs to be done or a decision needs to be made. When controlled and directed accurately, an intense burst can change the game. It is a high-risk situation, but also a potentially high reward outcome. The question is: are you ready to take the next step?


Increase this powerful trait by activity focused on making a difference. It is said that helping people makes you feel much better than how you make them feel. This chance can become more alluring than you may first imagine. Doing good as a part of your job is a strong motivator that can wake you up and get you going every morning. So if you make a difference in people’s lives, in whatever industry or field of endeavor, you have every reason to be excited.

It is also possible that your tendency to be enthusiastic will bolster similar levels of energy in your work colleagues. It is likely that you will enjoy work projects and meetings more than ever before. A massive study of 1 million people, done by some of the biggest names in psychology, found a crystal-clear conclusion: Being happy and intense dramatically increases your chances of success at work. Stick with it. Enhance it every chance you get.

Did you know that boredom is a sign that your brain wants to be engaged? The next time you notice yourself struggling at work, try to reignite your engagement and excitement for your job.

If you are suffering from workplace Groundhog’s Day, ask yourself what are the problems that need to be solved? What solutions can you bring to the table? Have you been avoiding something because it’s scary?

Engaging in challenges that have earlier frightened you will push your creativity, excitement, and visibility to a higher level. Consider your job as a personal branding opportunity. See every office interaction and every piece of work you submit as a branding exercise.

Develop a checklist of the behaviors you want your brand to be known for, then start experimenting. The best fuel for excitement and longevity in your career will be based on the quality of your relationships. Sharpen your focus on how you relate to your colleagues and managers. Be outgoing, caring, and authentic. Those principles will drive your career progression. As you progress, you will have more people supporting you.

52  Faithful

Some people face upsets or distractions, but their heart seems to remain loyal to someone or something. It could be that they are firmly attached to their personal or organizational goals. So, their core beliefs are likely to be upheld or even strengthened by whatever they experience. This may mean that they have an aura of security and certainty about them that their work colleagues admire or even envy. That is nothing to be concerned about, but it is something that will likely carry their professional life toward positive results.


In an era where career choices are abundant and job hopping is increasingly common, being faithful to your job actually holds immense importance, especially in terms of your personal growth and professional success.

By being faithful to your job, you demonstrate your commitment to the organization’s success, which can lead to a higher level of job security. Employers are more inclined to retain staff who consistently deliver results and exhibit loyalty. This stability allows you and your organization to plan for the future. To increase your faithfulness, you could lead by example. You could be more open and transparent about your daily activities and be more consistent in your actions and your decisions.

Your dedication to integrity and ethical behavior will be noticed by everyone. When you do this, even if you experience the normal ups and downs of a professional life, you should have a clear conscience that you have given yourself the best chance of achieving success. And, if the bad times arrive, you will be able to bounce back that much faster.

The advantages of being faithful are that there are more opportunities that may allow you to rise to more important positions. But less obvious advantages include that, having multiple job titles on your resume at the same organization, demonstrates that your talent and faithfulness indicates that you are trustworthy and sufficiently talented to take on higher responsibilities.

The longer you stay faithful and the more you progress, the higher your stocks will rise. This is the kind of career growth that future employers like to see, making it easier for you to be hired for increasingly senior roles with your current organization or elsewhere.

While job-hopping can be a red flag on resumes for some hiring managers, demonstrated faithfulness and career progression can make you a star candidate when the time comes to take the next step or to move on.

Another advantage to staying faithful is that once you have demonstrated that you are competent and professional, you will be trusted to deliver the desired results. This leads to much less oversight, which reduces stress on everyone concerned.

When you change jobs, you have to prove your abilities and work ethic every time. This involves more office scrutiny and increased micromanaging of the results you deliver.

Ironically, avoiding being micromanaged is among the top reasons people choose to change jobs. But trust has to be earned, which takes time, so be strategic and invest in yourself wisely in the right place, particularly if it is with your current organization.

55 Flat

There are times when some people feel disengaged and uninterested in the events that are occurring around them. They arrive at a place where they barely care what happens next. Sometimes, this reaction arises because they feel powerless or exhausted. Sometimes, they feel this way because they have seen it all before and they believe they can correctly predict the final result. Whatever the cause of this flat state of mind, it is important to create a fresh view where they can ensure that the slightest motivation leads to something positive, and the smallest boost of energy leads to progress.


People who find themselves in this unpleasant state of affairs, first recognize that feeling flat makes them as passive as is humanly possible. They sometimes find themself forgetting to apply simple fixes to a problem or to give obvious answers when someone needs to know. This can create a vortex of negativity that needs to be addressed … and fast.

So, if you are feeling even the slightest bit flat, try doing something new. It is important that you break through and lift yourself to a place where you can take a breath of invigorating fresh air. For anyone in this situation, it is vital that they do something, anything. Adjust the thermostat. Take a pill to ease your headache. Choose a different way to go home. Any change may help you to ease your dilemma, which is about as boring and unproductive as it can be.

If you reach the most important point of this emotion, the nadir or bottom of the cycle, you should never delay. Take action now to raise your spirits and your focus. From this place, the only possible way ahead is up.

Try not to isolate yourself. If possible, connect with other people, even when you feel like avoiding them. Spending time alone can feel perfect when you’re flat, but doing so repeatedly can make matters worse, particularly if other people start to avoid you, as well.

Being social is always the best approach to push your mood towards the positive. Compare that with an eating binge. Let’s say you start shovelling chocolate ice cream into your mouth to lift your spirits. Unfortunately, the sugar rush will be soon followed by an emotional crash caused by a drop in blood sugar. That flat mood will come right back after an hour or so.

One element in producing a balanced mental state is to eat healthily. You could cook your own meals and try not to eat the processed packet variety.

Some people even try eating dark chocolate. Apparently, it has chemicals called flavonoids that can make more blood flow to your brain and may help you think more clearly. Of course, you shouldn’t overdo it. A very small amount may be all you need to reduce your flat feeling during work hours.

Another technique to overcome feeling flat is to do something nice for someone: a colleague, manager, or family member. When you take the effort, your body makes hormones called endorphins. Not only do they help relieve pain, but they reduce stress and improve mood. Flatness be gone!

56 Focused

By attending to a limited number of issues, successful professionals make themselves more powerful and valuable to those with whom they work. People who are focused usually avoid distractions because they don’t want to waste their time or effort. Nor do they need other people’s validation. Being focused is the driving force behind getting results and, for those who understand this issue, nothing else matters.


Your ability to focus on a task until it is completed is one of the greatest indicators of your future success. All high-level professionals have mastered the art of focusing singularly on something until it is completed. Only then will they move onto the next task. To boost this characteristic, there is something you need to know. It is not the complete answer to your circumstances but it may help.

Your brain is made up of about 60% fat. That’s huge when you think about it. This poses a problem for the people who have been proponents of low-fat diets. You see, your brain needs lots of good or appropriate fat to function properly. One of the best ways to quickly improve cognitive function and, thereby, your focus is to get more fat in your diet.

So, while keeping issues with allergies in mind, add more nuts, avocados, eggs, and coconut oil to your weekly shopping list. They are great ways to get healthy fats into your diet. There is always the chance that they will help your brain to operate in a more focused and efficient way. Staying focused at work could be a breeze if you do something to make it happen.

A study suggests that playing video games can help boost your concentration. Researchers have found that one hour of gaming could help improve visual selective attention. Could your increased ability be quite useful in the office as you concentrate on a specific task while ignoring distractions?

Concentration workouts at home, or in your lunch break, often help people increase their focusing power, too. These mental workouts involve fully devoting your attention to an activity for a set period of time. For example, spending 15 minutes relentlessly drawing a landscape or continually sucking on candy while resisting the urge to bite it.

Notice when you lose your concentration and how you manage to refocus. Some experts still debate the benefits of such methods but existing evidence suggests that at least modest improvements can be gained by some.

58 Forthright

When people openly express their point of view, they may feel they gain status and confidence. They could well be right. That approach is almost always valued and admired in meetings and in one-to-one interviews. As their stance is clear, some will admire them for their courage and honesty. Others will respect them, even if they disagree. People who are forthright should be prepared for the responses they receive. They should listen closely to what people say.


Straight shooters are usually taken to be trustworthy because, while direct, they tell the truth and keep their promises. On the other hand, someone who dances around a work issue is often ignored as a time waster. It is not hard to strengthen your skills in being forthright. Applying simple but impactful changes to your behavior is usually enough.

One powerful technique is to clearly communicate your values and vision. Use plain language when you talk to your manager and to staff and refer directly to corporate values and objectives. Increase the impact of your messages by using active listening: silently summarize everything that others say and draw conclusions from it. Then, use those conclusions in your response. Avoid office gossip because it erodes trust.

Remember, your status as someone who is forthright is based on your integrity, Even when troubles arise at work, your direct approach will strengthen your hand. Admit when you do not know something, whether that be a fact or a way of solving a problem. Be honest with your manager and with staff about your skills and indicate your willingness to learn in areas where your knowledge is low. That way, everyone will understand you well and will feel confident in what you can and can’t do. Being forthright is strengthened by avoiding saying negative things about your organization, whether you are speaking with staff or outsiders. This will earn you the reputation as a can-do person and make climbing the ranks easier. 

Another tactic you can try at work involves repeating a request or a refusal each time you’re met with resistance. Imagine a colleague keeps asking you to help with a task when you have already established that you’re too busy. Try restating your original message using the same language, like a vinyl record continuously looping. Don’t relent until the message has been received. This also means you have to keep your emotions in check. Do not speak louder and refrain from increasing your anger with each loop. Doing so will dissolve your power.

Being forthright, it is important to accept feedback and constructive criticism. We can listen to other colleagues’ opinions and take them into consideration. But that doesn’t mean you have to accept their point of view and change your behavior or attitude to make them happy. It is wise, however, to think about what has been said. It’s utterly impossible to make someone else happy all the time and it’s not your responsibility. It’s theirs.

Being forthright requires valuing yourself as much as you value others. Remember that your point of view is as important as everyone else’s. Embrace this opportunity to invest in yourself. These communication skills can help you immensely in your professional life, whether that’s in accomplishing career goals, or establishing a healthy relationship with your work colleagues.

59 Offering an Angle

Some people want to tell others how they see things. There is nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean they are angling for an argument, just that they have something to say and that others may gain from listening and understanding. In any case, their work colleagues will quickly sense their strong mood and the deep certainty of their stance. Those colleagues may agree with them, and they may see them as a leader, even though it may be an informal and temporary position. You never know what doors will open after someone tells it how they see it.


To increase this trait, you should continue to stand up for your beliefs without flaunting them. Yes, it is possible to do that without forcing them down someone else’s throat. Discuss your professional beliefs when a colleague or manager asks about them, but don’t veer into offensive propaganda-style attacks, particularly if the person you are speaking with is essentially an unsuspecting victim. Stand firm by your values, and those of your organization, and always keep an open mind to new information.

Of course, as you offer your angle on an issue, speak clearly and make eye contact, especially when you are making your most important points. Most people have a very low tolerance for dealing with people they can’t understand or whose demeanor appears to be evasive. Rarely does creating a sense of mystery help build strong professional relationships. Put simply, no-one will be impressed.

You may be at a moment when you have to decide whether you are going to have a fight or a debate. The first will be distorted by emotion, the second will be based on logic. Take your pick.

While offering different angles on an issue during a conversation, take a breather if you or anyone else appears to be becoming annoyed or defensive. This shows that the conversation is no longer on a positive track, and effective communication will be much harder to achieve. Come prepared with a tactic for wrapping up the conversation and changing the subject so that emotions can cool down.

Avoid circling back to your original point of view. This will almost certainly cause increased frustration and will result in people becoming unwilling to talk to you about the issue at all. Of course, you will probably find it easy to correct or redirect the other person back to your point of view but choose your battles wisely.

Before offering your perspective the second time, affirm anything that they have said that is true or that you agree with. This shows that you have listened to what they said, and you value them. This is an important and powerful tactic.

If the disagreement has a basis in fact rather than values alone, look for an opportunity to gently offer corrected information. Keep in mind that controversial topics can be closely tied to an individual’s personal identity and values. It is very difficult to change someone’s sense of their identity, and even correct information may not change much initially.

Successfully offering an angle on an issue can be a fine line to walk, but with attention, practice, and sincerity, you can pave the way for more productive disagreements with people in your workplace and obtain more beneficial situations for yourself.

60 Frank

Being frank often means that a person doesn’t seem to mind making their point of view perfectly clear, even at the risk of surprising, offending, or shocking people. Mostly, that’s a very good thing in a meeting or in a one-to-one interaction. However, it is important to ensure that people understand why someone is communicating that way. It usually helps if they make it clear that their heart and their motivation are correctly directed. The moment a concern or doubt about that direction kicks in, people may become skeptical, so continuing to be frank may be counterproductive. The person being frank may need to rapidly change their tone, message, and behavior.


The best way to remain frank is to stay positive and focus on what is right. Why? Because every conversation you have in the office from now on may well have an underlying theme of high integrity. This allows you to be more fearless in your frankness. Everything that happens in life and at work is neither good nor bad. Its characteristic depends on your perspective. Either you succeed or you learn something. So appreciate the pleasant outcomes from being frank and learn from the rest.

Your future honest comments will rub off on everyone you work with. Address people by their name while you’re at it. Colleagues, managers, and clients love the sight and sound of their own name, so use it courteously when you are speaking or writing to them.

To soften any harsh edges in your frank messages, emphasize your politeness by saying “please” and “thank you.” These words can turn demands and requirements into mild requests, and they inject a friendly tone into a frank conversation. Using them can make the difference between sounding rude and sounding right.

If you really want to increase this trait, aim to be both open and diplomatic. The idea of blending seemingly opposite communication styles to supercharge your efficiency is vital to being effective personally and professionally. It may sound paradoxical, but if you can merge them, you’ll become an incredibly powerful communicator.

Remember these two aspects if you find it hard to figure out how to do this. Being frank is about honest and open communication, while diplomacy is about being tactful in a particular social situation. Often, frankness is perfectly acceptable; but it is blunt expressions that cause a problem. We are all fundamentally creatures of emotion rather than logic. Our frankness may have solid logic to it, but if you serve it up without politeness, other people’s emotions will soon be stirred in an unpleasant way. Unfortunately, strong emotions usually overwhelm rational thought.

To help with this, select an appropriate time and place for important conversations. Find a calm environment where everyone can speak freely. Avoid discussing important matters when those listening are preoccupied.

Remain cautious about what you say and don’t try to share every tiny detail. Protecting legitimate organizational information as well as the privacy of colleagues is very important even if your workplace prides itself on open and transparent communication.

62 Genuine

Genuine people appear to be honest. Mostly, they probably are. They also usually make their position clear, as any good professional would do. One of the hallmarks of someone who is genuine is that they treat people with respect even if they disagree with them. That can generate an atmosphere of tolerance and acceptance from which many good things can arise. That looks like a win-win.


According to a great deal of research, lots of people feel pressure to suppress their personal values and pretend to go along with the values of their organization. Unfortunately, when we put up this facade, it creates a sense of dissonance, and some people even experience depression. In this circumstance, many people end up less engaged and less committed to their job, with a greater desire to move on to someplace else. That’s the irony of the situation. They pretend to fit in, but they eventually decide they don’t want to.

The opposite of creating facades is being authentic. Research suggests that when we are being genuine, we have lower levels of depression and we become more engaged in our jobs. So, even if you prefer to keep your professional and personal life separate, it’s still helpful to be your authentic self at work. Though you may adjust slightly in a professional setting, being genuine allows you to share your true personality with everyone you meet and helps to build stronger relationships.

To increase this even more, consider sharing your professional and personal experiences when it’s appropriate. Tell people about situations you have been in that are relevant. Be more open about your positive expectations and your worries. The more that staff, managers, and clients know about you, the more they will trust you, and they will probably become more genuine with you, as well. There is a great saying about being genuine: Be you and they’ll adjust.

Remember that sometimes it’s not kind to say exactly what you are thinking. But that doesn’t mean that you should lie. You can still be genuine while keeping your mouth shut. For example, let’s say a colleague asks you if you like their outfit, and you hate it. Instead of expressing your disgust because it’s genuine, ask them instead what they think about it, whether they like how it feels. Invite them to be genuine, and then listen carefully and compassionately.

If your self-control isn’t strong, and you know what you are about to say might hurt or confuse someone, be sure that you are saying what you believe. Avoid being judgmental or trying to imagine what other people will think. Our feelings always seem to be true; but our criticisms rarely represent objective facts.

Continue to monitor yourself during the working week. If you can remain self-aware, you will be in a position to catch those off moments when you veer away from your genuine self. Even if you have no time to examine what’s going on at the time, you can note it down for review later. Being genuine is a powerful stance so give it every chance to continue.

63 Good-natured

Good-natured people appear to be friendly and trusting, and it is possible that they hope they are projecting these admirable aspects of their personality. They are probably emphasizing their tolerance and honesty, which most people will value very highly. There may be a subtle or an overt sense of humor in their interactions that soothes friction and dissipates conflict. If they appear to be quite relaxed, it is probably because they are in a powerful position.


When anxiety in the office is high and morale is low, good-natured employees aren’t a luxury, they’re a necessity. One way you can increase this great stance in your workplace is by displaying more kindness. Providing a treat like a tray of cupcakes to those you work with will linger in their minds for some time. If someone is having difficult time, you could bring them a flower in a vase to help lift their spirits.

If this isn’t to your taste, being patient is an important workplace skill that will increase the appeal of your good nature. That may require some effort if you are dealing with annoying colleagues but those who suffer with you will appreciate your gesture. The same goes if you offer praise, no matter how slight, to someone who has done the work they were supposed to do or has provided information that helps a meeting reach a decision.

Your good-natured approach may not be consistent, especially when problems reach exasperation level. So, work at remaining calm, perhaps using breathing exercises or other techniques that can become soothing habits that are appropriate to use at work. Everyone in an organization loves the calm, steady person who is genuinely positive and kind. In this case, it appears to be you.

Understand that complimenting other people at work usually makes them feel good. So look to build other people up and share positivity whenever possible.

Avoid comparing yourself to others. This can lead to toxic attitudes and behaviors and interfere with your ability to be a happy, calm, and positive person.

Good-natured people tend not to hold grudges. They don’t look for opportunities to get back at someone who has slighted them. Instead, they try to forgive and move on. This approach avoids hurting anyone else in the attempt to seek revenge.

It’s important not to beat yourself up if you make a mistake. Even when things in your career don’t go well, look for positives and know that better times are ahead. If you find yourself in one of these situations currently, seek out learning opportunities so you can act differently if the issue ever arises again. Good-natured people understand that they aren’t perfect, and they don’t expect others to be perfect either. Since you aren’t aiming for perfection, you can handle mistakes without disrupting your mental health.

Remember that a smile can light up an office, and truly good people smile often, not just when things are going well. Try it. You’ll love the benefits that good-natured people create and share.

64 Gratified

Whether someone is openly expressing it or not, deep down, they may seem to be feeling positive, even optimistic. Usually, they believe things are going in the right direction. That’s a great place to be because it will help them as they work with their manager, their team, and their clients. Maybe an adversary has experienced a loss, or an ally has had a victory. Maybe their efforts and achievements have been recognized or something has finally paid off. When things feel right, they are probably correct to believe they are on track.


Because some people tend to give more importance to negative thoughts and experiences, which is called negativity bias, their sense of being gratified may not always flow naturally. Increasing this feeling is a skill that you can develop with practice. Why is it worth it?

Repeatedly, research shows that feeling gratified has a positive impact on your mental health and your career. Practicing mental subtraction can help raise your satisfaction levels. This process is a thought experiment that can amplify and promote gratitude. When something positive happens, try to imagine what it would have been like if it hadn’t, or if an alternative, less desirable outcome had happened. Don’t dwell on this for long, just touch on it. Research shows mental subtraction can boost your mood and can have far reaching effects, often more than you would ever expect.

Psychologists sometimes refer to the results of feeling gratified as the “George Bailey Effect.” Bailey was the protagonist in the 1946 movie “It’s A Wonderful Life.” He cultivated a deep happiness for his life after an angel showed him his family’s fate if he had not been in their lives. Try it. You may become someone like George Bailey.

As much as we’d all love to be in love with our job, landing a dream career is actually a rare feat. But, even if you’re not in your perfect position right now, it doesn’t mean you can’t feel gratified at work. It’s actually essential if you want to live a satisfying life.

Increase your job gratification by integrating your passions with your role. For example, if you’re passionate about photography, consider volunteering to take portraits of your colleagues or contributing to your organization’s social media pages. You can cleverly shape your own role by showing your value in areas you’re particularly interested in.

When we invest in a physical thing like a car, or a new pair of shoes, the object usually stays in our lives for a while. This extended period of time allows our brain to move from excitement to adaption. On the other hand, experiences are much more fleeting. For example, if we enjoy a fun weekend away in a different state, we don’t get to simmer in the vacation’s juices for long enough for our brains to adapt to them. This keeps our satisfaction levels high.

Keeping this concept in mind, a study found that colleagues who learn while at work are 47% less likely to be stressed and happier, 39% more likely to feel productive and successful, and 23% more confident and ready to take on additional responsibilities. So what is the overall takeaway here? The more you learn in your career, the more gratified you can become. And, if you decide to continually learn new things and to keep on accepting new challenges, you are unlikely to find yourself feeling stagnant for extended periods of time. So your brain never gets the chance to move from excitement to adaption.

Imagine if you had the opportunity to trade your life for someone else’s. Not just one aspect, but all of it. Be careful. Some areas of their lives may be in shambles compared with yours, and you might realize that some things that you value are no longer available.

Remind yourself of the good things in your life when you feel your satisfaction levels drop. Don’t forget that your life has many amazing aspects to it. Be grateful.

66 Helpless

It is exceedingly unpleasant to be in a bad position and to sense that any chance of relief is beyond anyone’s reach or control. People who feel this way sometimes wallow in despondency. Some even decide to remain in that position because it is easier than taking the time and energy to figure out how to lift themselves to a better place. Being helpless is a position which usually requires others to offer their help. Hopefully, support is at hand. 


The reason people feel helpless at work is most likely not their fault. Let me repeat that. It’s probably not their fault. So, it’s best that they avoid blaming themself.

When successful people feel this way, even slightly, they start expanding their relationship network. Feeling helpless often causes people to develop tunnel vision. They focus intensely on one aspect of their stressful situation and lose sight of the bigger and possibly more important issues. By interacting with new people, they rapidly learn how important their physical surroundings can be in relation to their current situation. In fact, a simple, even temporary, change in their environment can provide a toehold from which they can obtain support and others can offer assistance.

Even if you feel the slightest bit helpless, you could examine whether you might be somehow acting against feeling empowered. That doesn’t mean that you are choosing helplessness. It may mean, however, that you are resisting change because the results are possibly unpleasant or even frightening.

When a sense of helplessness fades, it could mean they are ready to make a change. Before that moment arrives, the thought of change may be too daunting. But, when someone feels helpless, that could be the best time for them to be deeply honest with themselves. When their strength returns, they’ll be glad they have the insight that leads them to a better place.

Try taking a really small step forward to change your situation. Making a start can help you to avoid feeling powerless in more than just your professional life. If you feel helpless because you are unhappy in your current role, the first step could be something as small as asking someone to proofread your resume with the idea of aiming for a higher or different position within your organization.

Another beneficial technique is to ask yourself, “What will I do differently next time?” You can evaluate the decisions that led to your current feelings of powerlessness and create an action plan to prevent repeating those decisions in the future.

Remember to check that you are not using external issues to avoid what you are feeling. By constantly running away from what we feel, we are trying to solve it by seeking false pleasure. It goes something like this. Because we are feeling helpless, we binge drink or watch countless hours of Netflix to escape what we are feeling. In fact when we feel helpless it’s better to allow ourselves to really feel our emotions in a deeper way. When we understand ourselves clearly, and not a lot of people are able to do that, we can start taking action to address the real issues.

68 High-minded

It is possible that someone believes they have a better perspective on a situation or that their values are of a higher standard than those around them. They may be right, although not all of their co-workers may agree. Remember, high-minded does not necessarily mean superior. It may indicate that a person is focused on personal and organizational values rather than intricate tactical details. That probably puts them in a place in which they will have to decide the best position to adopt in their current circumstances.


Just like ships can be guided by a magnetic compass, humans are guided by a moral compass. Your moral compass essentially helps you distinguish between right and wrong. It will guide the way you work, the way you respond to colleagues, or even the way you react to office politics.

Research shows that ethical behavior is linked to better performance and greater success in the workplace. Increase the power and resilience of your high-mindedness by seeking out diverse perspectives. It’s important to broaden your horizons by considering how different workplace cultures and values influence people’s points of view.

You could also explore various social practices, and economic motivations in different parts of your organization. The best way to do this is to talk to lots of different people. This will help you to strengthen your knowledge of your own principles, while encouraging you to correct any misunderstandings or mistakes. Your principles will inevitably evolve over time, as you encounter new information, situations, and events. If you find something you once believed is wrong, don’t be afraid to learn your lesson. In doing so, you’ll build professional momentum and personal power. Strong principles often create strong willpower, and powerful principles grounded in real world experience, often lead to success. 

Next, take stock of your own, current integrity and moral principles. Ask yourself the following questions: “How consistently do I follow through with commitments and promises at work?”, “Am I transparent enough with information?”, “How do I support my colleagues to be their best?”, “Do I show up ready to work each day and give my best performance?”, “Do I keep myself accountable, including when I make mistakes?”, “Am I responsible?”, “Do I always keep to the set deadline?”, “Do I lead by example?”, “Do I show respect for the ideas of others?”. Thinking about the answers to these questions is a positive step towards better understanding areas where your high-minded stance is strongest and those areas where you could improve it.

On a more personal level, we all want to be the type of person our friends and family know they can confide in. So, if a colleague tells you something in confidence, keep it to yourself. Your mind should be like a bank vault. Effective teamwork at home and at work is based on trust, and there’s no faster way to lose it than gossiping. If you wouldn’t say something you’ve heard to the person’s face because you are too insecure, then don’t say it behind their back. You are far better than that.

69 Hopeful

Hopeful people sometimes feel that things are turning their way. Maybe a work situation has been brought to a point of clarity or resolution. Maybe they perceive that they are now closing in on something that they have desired or expected. It’s entirely possible that a hopeful person is in a good position. It may help if they make their positive feelings known more broadly. With growing confidence, further progress may be possible, which will help them, their team, and their organization.


The definition of hope is often misinterpreted as wishful thinking. People say, “I hope I get rich” or “I hope I get promoted.” But hope is, more accurately, believing that we can create a pathway to our goals. When we wish for something, it is left up to luck or happenstance. When we hope, we set goals and work to achieve them. We don’t “wish” to get promoted; we communicate our goals with our manager and develop an agreement on how to achieve them. Then, we set to work.

Positive self-talk is an essential component in fostering hope in the workplace. By thinking about and talking to yourself in a positive way, you’ll be more likely to believe you can overcome hurdles when they arise.

Hope is also contagious. So don’t keep all of your positive self-talk and affirmations to yourself. Start spreading the good news. If you are working with someone who has been dealing with a challenging professional situation, send them a brief message of appreciation. It could be done via email, Slack, or a Post-it note. Let hope take root and watch what happens.

Remember when you were a child, and well-intentioned adults would mention that you shouldn’t get your hopes up? That can linger in the mind. If you give up on hope, you may create a self-fulfilling prophecy. So give yourself permission to look toward the future with excitement.

Most of us know at least one person who can consistently see the bright side of life. A text or phone call to them might be just what you need to bring a dose of much needed encouragement. Even if you can’t meet other people face-to-face, you can still choose to spend some time feeling their energy.

On the other hand, bad news, negative people, and anxiety-inducing media stories can trigger a sense of hopelessness. While it’s important to stay informed, and difficult to avoid negative colleagues at work, you can limit your exposure to messages from people whose rants always bring your mood down. This is not a cop-out. It’s an intelligent tactic to protect your mental health.

Another option is to create a challenge today to deliberately look for hope in the news and see what difference it makes to your mindset at work. Research suggests that high levels of hope are associated with academic achievement. So our hope is that one of the suggestions above will get your hope momentum rolling.

70 Hurt   

It is unpleasant to feel bad or sad about something. It may feel even worse if someone has little chance of making the situation right. That is not an unusual situation in organizational life but, because it happens, it doesn’t make the experience any more palatable. Of course, someone may never know when things may turn in their favor. Can the situation be re-balanced or reconciled even a little? As a staff member thinks about a good way forward, the strength of their negative feelings may weaken, and the power of their determination may rise. In this way, the barriers to their progress may begin to fall.


One of the best ways to heal is to learn lessons from your circumstances and use that knowledge to focus on growth and forward momentum. When we get stuck in thinking about what should have been, we can become immobilized by painful feelings and memories. Some people who want to move forward from a painful experience employ this simple yet powerful technique.

It is perfectly obvious that we can’t live our life alone, and, just the same, we can’t expect to get through a period of pain without people around us offering their support. By relaxing sufficiently to accept the need to lean on colleagues and friends, we not only limit our isolation but remind ourselves that there is a great deal of goodwill in the world and, sometimes, we simply have to ask for it.

When someone is feeling hurt, they could give themself permission to forgive. Waiting for someone else to apologize or for a situation to improve can stall progress toward healing. They could always focus on forgiving others and forgiving themselves while they are at it. Although someone or something may be primarily to blame for causing pain, there is the chance, in some cases, that the person who is hurt is slightly to blame. Maybe they were too trusting. Maybe they made themselves vulnerable in some other way. However, as they acknowledge and forgive themselves for even a minor mistake, the power of their forgiveness rises and their negativity falls. It is a marvelous feeling when the hurt fades and the healing begins.  

Sometimes when you’ve been feeling hurt, you can get used to the emotional pain. Maybe that happens because it seems to be safe and familiar. Maybe you’ve been suppressing your hurt emotions for so long that they have become part of your identity.

It is interesting to know that suppressed negative emotions feed your negative thoughts all day. Imagine what life would be like without being drip-fed those thoughts! Whatever negative topics you tend to relentlessly focus on are, in fact, a list of the top emotions you have suppressed.

Do you constantly focus on people being wronged by someone at work, or an organization, or even a government? You probably have an overload of suppressed fear, anger, and bitterness that you need to release. Moving away from the things you’ve felt and thought about for a long time may be uncomfortable. However, bliss awaits you as you drip-feed new, more positive thoughts. Peace of mind is on the other side of letting go of negativity.

Is it time to stop blaming? Don’t make anyone else responsible for your feelings, actions, well-being, or life. If you do so, you’ll remain a victim forever. Take complete and total responsibility for your life, your attitude, and your actions. Take responsibility for how you respond to whatever happens to you.

Practice kind assertiveness. Your goal is to protect yourself from further harm. Remember that immersing yourself in your painful past becomes a way of avoiding moving forward in your career and life. Instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?”, you should ask, “What do I do now?”. Release yourself from victimhood by no longer making anyone else responsible for your well-being. Learn from the past, and let it go. It doesn’t exist any longer. There’s only this present moment. You can do this!

71 Impressed

When someone is feeling a little humbled about someone or something, it may seem to them that they are working at a lower level or that they are not as worthy. It is usually wise to avoid such reactions. A better path is to strive to reach the level of achievement that has been so impressive. That may mean staying in close contact and expressing the admiration they feel. Even better, they could offer direct, highly relevant support. Their colleagues, managers, and organization will likely benefit from that effort.


Much has been written about how your friends influence you and how you become similar to the people with whom you choose to associate. The same applies to your work colleagues. Choosing to surround yourself with people who can teach you more than you can teach them simply makes you better at whatever you do. Such company will probably make you want to continuously improve.

To raise this positive, emotional state, you could look to befriend the go-getters in the office. They are the ones who raise the bar, and they may be the ones who have impressed you.

But you don’t have to stop there. Learn from people who impress you online. If they are open to comments and questions, engage with them, and seek their opinions. Every response will help to lift your skills and insights, and you may be even more impressed by them than you at first imagined. As your motivation rises, and your interest in your work ascends, you may find that those you work with share your sense of being impressed. The only difference will be the target of their feelings: you.

When considering other people, what impresses you? Interestingly, your answer will reveal what you value most in yourself. It shows you the type of person you want to become, even if you haven’t achieved it yet. Knowing this can help you to find an inspiring path forward.

Let’s reverse that notion. The flaws and weaknesses in those same people show you what you would like to avoid in yourself. And, the opposite of their flaws and weaknesses shows you the type of person you would like to become.

Being impressed by someone’s particular accomplishments will deepen your understanding of the kind of outcomes you most want to create in your life or career. They show you potential themes to work towards.

Most important of all, your answers to these questions will show you that the people who impress you the most are not perfect. They have flaws even though they still manage to achieve outcomes that you think are important. If they can do it, so can you. You don’t need to wait to be perfect before you start working to create the results that matter most to you.

Be clearer about what matters most, and then begin. Knowing more precisely who you most admire, and why, will improve your ability to make decisions. That’s a powerful trait indeed.

72  Indebted

Imagine someone is respected, no matter whether they are liked or not. People may not openly express their opinion about them. That is sometimes the way staff operate in a corporate setting and that attitude may permeate an entire organization. Imagine a competitor is respected because they have shown what weaknesses must be avoided. Maybe they have inadvertently shown a simple path to success. So, it is easy to feel indebted to them. Without them, the chance of further advancement would be diminished.


The research is clear: being grateful, thankful and, their close sibling, feeling appreciation, is very good for you. But how should you express this at work? While expressing thanks to colleagues might feel awkward or even at odds with some workplace cultures, it’s worth increasing this behavior. Here’s how to do it.

Notice the small stuff. You have to know what you’re thankful for because, otherwise, if you thank someone for nothing, it sounds like an empty platitude. You’ll have to listen to your colleagues and managers more closely to learn about their successes, and about what motivates them to gain new knowledge that you can use.

There is a saying: “Keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer.” It may be useful to make it clear to those with whom you work, how indebted you are to your organizations competitors whether they be in the world of commerce or simply operating in similar fields to you against which you can be professionally compared. You can say that you are indebted to an organization similar to your own that attempted to introduce a new set of processes a few months before you were planning to do the same. Their efforts highlighted all the mistakes and pitfalls that were about to be your immediate fate so they helped you to dodge a bullet. To them, you are deeply indebted.

Of course, outside your office, you could increase your power by becoming indebted to online leaders in your professional sphere. You could follow, comment and interact in other ways with them. Remember, knowledge is power and being indebted is the emotional result of gaining that power. The ability to acquire knowledge in a variety of different ways is a skill in itself. It’s the key to opening doors in your career that would otherwise be locked. So use being indebted to your advantage.

Savor the good moments. When you notice you’re feeling thankful, stop what you’re doing and pay attention for a few moments. Notice exactly how you feel, including the sensations in your body and the thoughts you’re having. Later, when you’re trying to recreate that emotion, you can remember this moment and experience the benefits once again.

Feeling indebted is not only about being thankful for positive experiences. In fact, sometimes thinking about negative or difficult situations can help to specify why you should be thankful. Dig a little deeper into some of your own experiences and try to figure out how they have helped shape you into the person you are today.

Remember to always give thanks, even for the little things. It can go a long way in creating a more positive environment for yourself and for everyone around you. It fosters mutual respect and appreciation in your workplace, making colleague and manager interactions more pleasant and meaningful. Even a brief text message of thanks has been shown to increase wellbeing. Do this right away.

73 Influential

It is common for influential people to convince others and to get them to do things. They are displaying the qualities that leaders are made of, even if they don’t necessarily see themselves that way. Possibly, they think strategically and make preparations for what may happen. Executives and staff should support such people because being influential will serve everyone extremely well, especially if they focus on corporate objectives and values.


At the start of your career or when you are just newly hired, your influence may be limited to working effectively with people over whom you have no authority. Increasing your influence is usually based on your ability to present logical and compelling arguments and to engage in productive give-and-take discussions.

Forming connections with other professionals through networking and relationship building is also an essential part of improving influencing skills. Networking allows you to get to know other people in your organization, which can open doors and provide opportunities to influence people even further afield, such as in conferences or other events in your sphere of profession interest.

It is important to focus on establishing genuine relationships with managers, team members and others based on mutual respect and trust. One of the most important aspects of creating good relationships involves being seen as reliable and consistent. If you are inconsistent, or, worse, hypocritical, any sense of trust in you will rapidly fade as your reputation sinks. So make sure you complete your tasks on time and demonstrate that you are following your own principles. People with influence almost always stand out in a group. This means managers are more likely to think of you first when a new opportunity arises or a job vacancy appears.

74 Insightful

The most insightful people usually feel confident in their ability to understand people or situations. They may have strong skills in this area, and they may be able to predict what will happen next. They may be probing for information, and rapidly drawing sound conclusions. Others are usually impressed when they see these powerful attributes in operation. If an insightful person feels buoyant, there are likely to be very good reasons for that. They are probably a valuable asset to their colleagues and to their organization.


You may be a candid for the most insightful person in your office. That is not to suggest you should show off and it is not to stroke your ego. You may be able to help yourself and those around you to find answers to the seemingly endless issues that crop up at work. Insight can be cultivated by questioning assumptions, and by developing a continuous sense of curiosity. It also helps if you work in the right conditions, such as being relaxed and in a positive mood.

Let’s look at questioning assumptions. This is important because it expands chances of understanding an issue by challenging and removing wrong beliefs. It also allows for new connections and perspectives to emerge. Just as a journalist builds a story through critical inquiry, you can also uncover new insights simply by asking better questions at work. Whether it’s defining a desired strategic result and assessing facts against that objective or simply asking yourself tough questions, the answers will bring depth and dimension to your understanding of any challenge.

Keep in mind that the business and organizational world can move incredibly quickly and, sometimes, unpredictably. Surprisingly, one of the key parts of insight is being able to hit the pause button. Resting your thinking brain (your prefrontal cortex) is important. To maintain or increase your insightfulness should involve some downtime during which you can generate fresh ideas so that new understandings can occur. Developing the capacity to have insight is one of the most powerful tools that leads to success.

Look more closely at intuition. Possibly, every person on the planet has it, but not everyone chooses to listen or to use it. Intuition is the way the subconscious mind communicates with the conscious mind. The information that informs “that special feeling” is real. It’s like any other decision-making process but it works outside our conscious mind. We don’t realize how the information is stored, collected, or focused. Intuition is a brilliant tool, and the sharper it is, the better off you’ll be.

Typically, negative emotions will cloud your insight and intuition, which is why, when you’re frustrated or depressed, bad decisions are often made. Some research has backed this understanding, finding that people made better intuitive choices in a word task when they were in a positive mood compared with when they were in a negative mood.

Remember that your perceptive intuition can’t talk to you if you’re not listening. It is a similar situation to that which occurs when some people override the way they physically feel and just push through from one situation to the next. In the end, it’s a bad idea and often leads to unwanted results.

Make it a practice to acknowledge the way your mind and body feels and recognize what it’s telling you. Scan your body throughout the day and note any tension or other sensations you’re experiencing whether they are good or bad. Your scan will be fast and silent. Nobody in your office will know you are doing it. Your goal is to be more focused on the present moment so that you can better pick up on the subtle messages your mind and body might be sending you.

Making smarter, intuitive decisions can affect your career in many positive ways.

75 Insistent

Work colleagues may not want to mess with people who are insistent because their reactions may be out of proportion. That’s what staff may think, whether true or not. But, when someone is certain about what is right, any sound-minded person would be insistent. They have drawn a line in the sand, and they are willing to defend their position. At the very least, they will be respected for their steadfastness, and they may even win a few contests, too.


Insistent people don’t rely on luck or fate for their professional success. When conditions at work become difficult, they keep working. To raise your level of insistence, you could focus on your commitment. There’s a difference between being interested and committed. Most people are interested in achieving their goal; however, successful people are truly committed.

Is it time to embrace your fears and override them? Fear is usually the strongest feeling that prevents us from becoming more tenacious. Instead of pretending your fear doesn’t exist or letting it balloon to paralyzing proportions, accept your anxiety with wide, open arms. At best, unaddressed fear can be a huge distraction, and at worst, it can decimate your certainty about important issues.

Whether you like it or not, there is always competition between staff in organization. Who will get a raise and who won’t? Thankfully, that also means, by being insistent, you’ll always be able to rise to the occasion and state your case, over and over if necessary.

Because we tend to perform better when we have a competitor to measure ourselves against, you could use that notion to your advantage. Learn from your colleagues’ mistakes. How would you handle it differently? This knowledge will fuel confidence, helping you to stay the course more easily. By developing your tenacity, you know you can deal with anything your work or your life throws at you.

When used correctly, insistence allows leaders, in the formal or informal sense, to stay true to their values, to focus on the goals of their organization, and to take risks that can pay off in the long run.

What are some of the key ingredients needed to create a high-quality, insistent leader? They are often brave in their insistence. That doesn’t mean they are fearless. They probably recognize how frightened they are but they push themselves to keep going under all reasonable circumstances.

Some leaders are honest with their work colleagues because it shows that they are authentic. When their authenticity forms the foundation of their insistence, they are typically calmer in conversations, which, in turn, indicates that they have no hidden agendas.

An insistent person usually has a high level of self-confidence. This can lead to increased strength that is needed when taking risks or dealing with difficult situations in the office.

When being insistent, ask yourself how a leader you admire would use this trait. Being compassionate, for example, they would consider how their insistent stance effects their colleagues and they would strive to create positive outcomes for everyone involved.

When you are insistent about something, remember to take action when the talking is done. Walk the walk and be ready to do so at a moment’s notice.

If your insistence about something is created from a brave, honest, and compassionate foundation, you have far less chance of feeling regret in the future.

76 Instinctive

Someone may want something to happen. They may believe that doing the unexpected or unusual will offer immediate relief. Being instinctive often involves an instant reaction, which seems to be detached from steady logical thinking. However, it may be that a person’s rational process is so fast and so certain that it goes unnoticed … even by them. Being instinctive may make their professional colleagues a little wary. They may be disconcerted by something happening “out of the blue.” That can be off-putting for those who prefer to tread a slow, predictable path. That could give the instinctive person a distinct advantage.


We are all equipped with an intuition that is potent, trustworthy, and impeccably attuned to our true path. Whether you use it or not is up to you.

Here are a few ways to turn up the volume on that trustworthy inner voice. Test your hunches. If you have a feeling about what might happen at work next week, write it down, then check it later. See how often you were right.

Next, consult your body compass. Your intuition speaks through your body, and the more you cultivate physical awareness, the more sensitive you become. If you get an uncomfortable physical feeling when you’re trying to make a decision, pay close attention. It could also be your intuition providing a loud and clear message.

Release your resistance. Don’t call yourself crazy when you get an intuitive hunch. Often, the cognitive mind argues with intuition rather than trusting it. By doing this, you may rationalize yourself away from an intuitive understanding that could change your career for the better.

Research has shown that understanding our instincts can lead to greater emotional intelligence and a stronger sense of self-worth. Both are vital for success.

Imagine you’re sitting in your office listening to your colleagues as they chat about a problem the organization needs to fix. Everyone is making suggestions, but none of them are good, so progress seemed to be slow or at a standstill. You have a great idea that seems so obvious, yet you hold yourself back from saying anything. If it was a good plan, someone would have already said it. Isn’t that right?

From now on, you should decide to ignore the voice telling you not to say anything. Listen to that voice with the great idea because that’s your gut instinct giving you the answer. Trust it.

The next time you want to ask your manager how to approach a problem, tap into your instinct first. Once you have an instinctive thought, work out a way it can be tested in the real world. Then, offer your instinctive solution and suggest how it could be tested. Only then should you ask for their opinion.

This approach allows you to build your confidence in your instinct but also in yourself. Once you are sure your idea is comfortably aligned with your values and knowledge, you can quickly decide if your instinctive thought is valid and whether it should be progressed.

When we let go of our insecurities and freely embrace our instinct, we develop many life-changing traits. A higher sense of self-awareness, observation, focus, and the ability to live in the present are some of the greatest characteristics that help an instinctive person to succeed in life.

77 Intelligent

Your incisive mind appears to be dealing competently with complex issues. Smart people who offer information or insights are often respected among their professional peers, no matter their formal organizational ranking. Rather than provoking envy or disdain, their intelligence is often seen as a highly desirable asset that, when properly directed, can be a power for good for everyone.


Albert Einstein once wrote, “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” While the calm ocean of familiarity is comfortable, it is an essential aspect of life to test yourself. In the process, you can accelerate your career growth and enjoy success thanks to your intelligence.

You can lift your intelligent reactions by rejuvenating the art of conversation. Rather than texting or emailing a colleague, you could try to communicate verbally as much as possible. The more you verbalize, the more active your brain will become, which gives you a better opportunity to both demonstrate and improve your adaptability on the job.

There are some surprising and seemingly insignificant actions you can take to keep your intelligence operating at a high level. As your brain is mostly made up of water, keeping your water intake up at a high level improves your concentration and cognition, balances your moods, and boosts your memory. These all have an important role when it comes to intelligence. Further, there is a good reason why some of the brightest minds are bookworms. Reading is not only a relaxing activity that helps you reduce stress, but it also increases the brain’s capacity to learn more. So, pick something new to read today and have a glass of water on hand.

Increase your intelligent approach to issues and events by practicing calmness in all workplace situations. When we are annoyed, we do not think well, which means our decisions in those moments won’t always be smart.

Focus on your body language. Just being intelligent simply won’t cut it in today’s competitive professional world. You need to be able to convince people to agree with you. To do that, it’s essential to sound clever but also to appear to be astute. Keep your head high. It shows pride and courage. Speak clearly. That’s difficult if your neck is tight, which is likely if your head is tilted downward. Focus on your listeners. People won’t pay attention if you seem to be confused or have wandering eyes. Speak loudly enough for those who are slightly distant from you but not so loudly that those in front of you find it uncomfortable.

It can be exceptionally useful to interact with people who are smarter than you. Spending time with them benefits you on several levels. They will help you to improve your thinking and they will provide new information and new ways to think about it. You may find such people through your social contacts or they may be staff in your organization. Either way, it is wise to absorb and consider everything they say. Then, watch your cleverness naturally rise.

78 Interested

Someone who is interested is probably wanting to focus on making a decision or doing something based on what they know. It is likely that they believe the current situation is important and valuable to them in some way. It’s almost certain that they think their time and effort is well spent and they may remove anything that hinders their ability to concentrate on the issues at hand. Their focus and attention will attract other people’s interest and may increase the chances of achieving a good result.


Being interested at work is an overall productivity booster and enhances performance. People who are interested in their jobs are more likely to be optimistic, to be motivated, to learn faster, top make fewer mistakes, and to make better decisions. It is not difficult to enhance this trait: reduce negativity and focus on the infinite variation of details.

Every time you are given a task and view it negatively, this mindset immediately makes it more difficult for you to complete your work. Very few people seek hard work: however, increasing positive thoughts about your job can energize you, giving you more fuel to drive towards achieving success. As you realize that every job has an infinite variety of details, then your interest level can be maintained or enhanced.

It is not easy to make yourself love your work, particularly the most tedious of your tasks. If you can’t think of anything else, money is always a good motivator and, interestingly, so are snacks. Unfortunately, it’s common for staff to become so busy that they can barely squeeze in time for lunch, which, of course, is not great for productivity. Providing healthy snacks, coffee, and soft drinks in the office is an easy way to help maintain energy and interest levels throughout the day. If you’ve ever tried to stay interested in something while you’re hungry, you’ll know how hard that is.

It is common to experience a waning interest in your work when you are ready to take on a higher level of responsibility. If you find yourself in this situation, try to push yourself to achieve a new goal, even though it is within your current role. It will add value to your organization but also motivate you to break your routine and show your talents to those above you in the hierarchy.

Do you remember when you felt eagerness at work? What was happening at the time? What gave you that energy boost? Make a list of things you loved about your role and determine what areas have changed. Pick a few of those things and build activities in your day that focus more on those high energy activities. If they don’t exist anymore, try to replicate them in a different way.

We all fall into professional slumps at some stage, but personal growth is the key to staying engaged. If you want to remain focused and interested in your career, keep a positive mindset and never stop learning. 

79 Involved

Someone who is involved is engaging with a person or a situation that demands their attention or action. They may be involved at about the right level, or they may want to participate more fully. Being involved means focusing on details, discussing with colleagues and managers, and, sometimes, interacting with clients or customers more intensively than usual. Being involved means putting in an effort that should result in better outcomes.


Getting involved can open doors to new workplace opportunities and help you to maximize your potential. One of the best ways to increase your involvement at work is to seek out new experiences. Raise your hand and volunteer for projects that align with your interests. By taking on these new responsibilities, you show your initiative and your manager and executives will take note.

Being “in flow” is arguably the pinnacle of engagement and involvement at work. This occurs when you are completely immersed in an activity. You won’t notice the passage of time. You won’t question why you are doing it. And, you won’t bother judging your efforts.

What steps can you take to achieve this state? First, it is important to choose a task that requires your full concentration and is meaningful to you. Work on this task when you are at the peak of your energy levels during the day. Some people chose a time when there is peace and quiet. For others, listening to music helps to sharpen their focus. Regardless, it is important to take measures to prevent interruptions by working in a sanctuary in which the only thing that matters is the task at hand. So, shut your office door, turn off your cellphone. Did you know that research suggests that the mere presence of your phone can make you less involved with your tasks.

One study showed that a staggering 87 percent of people worldwide report not feeling engaged on the job. Don’t be like them. Stay involved and strengthen that precious stance. The more you increase involvement, the further you leave your competitors behind.

Another way to increase your involvement at work is to celebrate your successes rather than focus on areas you want to improve. This works well because it helps you to visualize your progress. And, progress is a very important indicator of satisfaction and engagement in the workplace. It will naturally boost your motivation, fuelling even more involvement.

Small wins that you may consider part of your normal day, like finishing a task ahead of time, or suggesting a solution to a manager’s problem, are enough to boost your mood and inspire you to accomplish more. So take note of even the smallest success.

Noticing your lack of involvement at work and acknowledging it, is an important step to help you to increase your involvement. Once you have faced that fact, talking to a manager about it can help kick start a plan by discussing your areas of interest and considering how best you can help.

To progress your career, it pays to be visible. When managers know who you are and what you can do, they’re more likely to consider you for promotion. Those who do not stand out often miss out, even if they are working very hard. Other people won’t necessarily increase your visibility. You need to figure out how to maximize your exposure so that you’ll have a chance when new opportunities arise. This is especially important if you work remotely and don’t often see other people in the organization.

The more optimistic you are, the more your colleagues and managers will want to work with you. So staying positive can help your relationships, your credibility, and your involvement in your organization.

As a staff member, you own your engagement levels and performance. The organization that hired you can make this easier or more difficult, but, ultimately, it’s an inside job that relies on you and your attitude.

80 Inwardly Composed

Someone who is inwardly composed probably assumes that they understand a situation. Possibly, they are working to achieve the outcome they seek and are feeling focused and certain. No matter how they outwardly express themselves, being calm and collected on the inside is a tremendous advantage because they will not be dragged this way and that by their emotions. Being inwardly composed is a sure sign of personal power based on the solid foundation of strongly held values.


To increase the feeling of calm certainty, you could consider letting go of your expectations. Yes, it’s normal to have hopes and desires, and sometimes they are defined and promoted to provide a target for success. However, there are times when you may need to let go in order to calmly compensate for unexpected changes in activities and plans. Rigid expectations can lead to distracting stress so be ready to accommodate change. When you shift, the pivot point will be based on your solid values and you will probably remain perfectly inwardly composed.

Make sure to retain that focus so that your superficial emotions don’t suddenly take over. When sudden changes occur, set up a meeting with someone important in your organization. Be clear about what you want to say and what you want to know. Stay calm while any changes are explained to you because, remember, you are stable and firmly in control despite an unpredictable professional environment. Your manager will probably take note of your calm demeanor and will sense that you are ready to take on new roles and responsibilities that will inevitably arise as changed circumstances are bedded down.

Your ability to manage your emotions and remain inwardly composed has a direct link to your performance. Some research has found that 90% of top performers are skilled at managing their emotions in times of stress so that they remain calm and in control.

How important is sleep when it comes to increasing your emotional intelligence and managing stress levels? When you sleep your brain recharges, so that you wake up with a clear mind. Your self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when you don’t get enough sleep.

Sleep deprivation raises stress hormone levels, even without a stressor present. So before you watch just one more episode on Netflix before bed, think about how you can invest that time into your own wellbeing.

To become more inwardly composed, stop negative self-talk immediately. The more you simmer on negative thoughts, the more power you give to them. Most are simply thoughts anyway. They are not necessarily facts. Write them down. You can bet that your statements aren’t true if you use words like “never”, “worst”, or “ever”. If your statements appear to be facts when they’re on paper, show them to a trusted colleague and get their opinion. The truth will set you free.

Separating your internal chatter into thoughts and facts will help you to escape that cycle of negativity and will likely change your attitude for the better. Being inwardly composed will then come as a natural side effect.

If you wake up and immediately check your phone, look at social media, the news, or your emails, your mind starts spinning in all directions, many of them negative. If you want a more positive, inwardly composed attitude, you have to choose that mindset each morning. Just as you have a standard approach to putting on your office clothes, you can start a new routine tomorrow morning and choose your preferred mindset. How do you want to be?

81 Irritable

If someone is feeling troubled, it could be caused by an issue that is unresolved. If that’s true, their mood may make other people feel uncomfortable, especially in one-to-one workplace situations. Whatever is causing a person to feel irritable, it is important for them to remember that feeling grouchy is distracting and drains their energy and that of everyone else. It could also cause real troubles in team building.


When frustrated people lose their composure, it rarely resolves the issue at hand and usually it makes things worse. So, whether you think you are irritable or not, recognize this point. The first person to raise their voice at work is typically the one who loses. Successful people, fight this urge as much as they can. They try to talk slowly, softly, and evenly. Speaking this way is convincing and effective.

It’s usually the little things that trigger irritability, but we often dismiss them because mature adults shouldn’t worry about such trivial things. Be honest with yourself. When you simply acknowledge that something is making you irritable it is often enough to take the edge off the sting.

Since irritability activates our fight-or-flight responses, it can be useful to take a quick walk around the office or to do some deep breathing. If that’s not possible, the entirely opposite approach can sometimes be effective. Find a quiet place to think things through, or to disengage from the commotion and activity. Irritability can be our mind’s way of alerting us that we need a break. So take one. No-one can control what their workplace throws at them, but they can learn to cope with pressure situations. Try to make an effort to practice this approach the next time you find yourself feeling even the slightest bit irritable. 

For those who own a smartwatch, check if yours measures your breathing rate. It is one of the best ways to monitor and respond to cardiovascular issues triggered by irritability. Until now, we have been unable to measure this in an office environment.

When you are irritated, you take faster, more shallow breaths. This is part of your body’s fight or flight response. Breathing, while instinctual, is also a skill that can be improved and refined. If you recognize that your breath is shallow, check your posture, and take a few deep breaths to snap yourself out of it.

Do you love food? You need to understand that eating complex carbohydrates, such as wholewheat pasta, can boost the brain’s levels of the hormone serotonin. When serotonin levels are low, it can lead to irritability. So eat up.

You don’t want pasta? Then try honey. The sweet liquid gold from our little insect friends can help you to relieve irritability and to fight off depression. Drizzle honey in your tea, coffee, yogurt, dinner, or just dive straight into the jar with a spoon.

Another quick and simple tactic to lower irritability is to shut your eyes for a few moments (when it’s possible). Try to shut out the external factors that are causing you to be annoyed. Stressors may appear to be different when you open your eyes, as you prepare yourself to face the world once more.

Remember that living in a perpetual state of annoyance isn’t sustainable. So be sure to schedule longer breaks to calm your emotions. Spend 30 minutes at the gym on your way home or grab a lunch with your friends. Do whatever gets you to the right level of chill.

82 Keen

People who feel keen are usually focused and primed to do something, whether it be making a decision or taking action. So, it is likely that they believe everything is prepared and all they need is approval or authorization. However, being keen does have some traps. It is vital that all the possible outcomes, good and bad, are understood. No-one wants the excited anticipation of keenness to be followed by a precipitous fall.


Everything good starts with a desire or eagerness to do something. The same goes for success stories. The more you keep pushing yourself to be knowledgeable and wanting to learn, the clearer the path to success becomes.

To enhance your enthusiasm, stay updated. Be it technical or general news, try to be on top of the current developments in your workplace and in your professional sphere. Make these issues the basis of your conversations as you widen your professional network. Mentally attach these interactions with your personal aims such as owning a better home or taking a special holiday trip. Your enthusiasm will rise because your interests will directly relate to the outcomes that you desire.

Keep being keen because you know where that mood leads. Your goals will be realized based on the keenness you feel and the reactions of those around you.

Remember to keep things in perspective. Life is too short to put up with negativity. Have some fun. Be keen about the chance to make a difference with even your smallest actions. Smile at colleagues. Hold the door open for them. Wave another driver into traffic on your way to work. These simple actions can make a difference to other people’s lives. That’s something to be keen about.

Unfortunately, many people believe that it costs a lot to do quality work, like putting in extra time and effort. In fact, it costs you very little to do mediocre work, slapped together with little focus.

When you find enthusiasm in your work, you produce greater quality results in whatever time you put into the task. You also extract increased personal joy and satisfaction.

Add an extra 15 minutes of effort to do what you love and watch your enthusiasm for life rise. This emotional lift will positively influence your professional stance, too.

83  Knowledgeable

People with knowledge have a broadly correct understanding that will keep them ahead of the curve. They have almost certainly thought through the pertinent facts and arrived at what they believe is a realistic conclusion. They probably sense that others are likely to benefit from their insights. There is no sweeter place to be when working with a team, a manager, or a group of clients than to know exactly what is happening and, even better, what is likely to happen next.


The internet is full of resources that are free or aimed at different budgets. From online blogs to social media accounts dedicated to industry or professional news, there is a wide array of sources that can be used to help you develop your desired skills. Increase your knowledge by following, tapping into, or interacting with them. You can hardly lose.

Some people have packed schedules, and the responsibilities of family life can sometimes drain their energy. So, they don’t have a lot of time to give. But online resources are a great way to overcome this issue because you can control time. You can find a great mentor who can guide and advise you, help you overcome any challenges and show you how to achieve your goals. A true mentor has been there, done it, and can help you to thrive both personally and professionally. So staying knowledgeable or even boosting your stance is not difficult at all.

If you can’t find an online mentor, try to attend industry events and conferences. They can provide the opportunity to meet people and expand your network. Try using LinkedIn, X or Facebook to do something similar. You may find that people are more willing to answer your serious questions than you imagine. Developing your knowledge will be a long-term benefit to you, and to everyone you work with.

84 Level-headed

No matter how they present themselves publicly, a level-headed person seems to be sure, deep down, that they are calmly and logically following the right principles to reach the success at which they are aiming. Simply put, their head is probably ruling their heart and their approach is likely to prove to be a winner.

Maybe, they pause a moment before they send a message or say something out loud. Maybe they try to look at issues from a few different perspectives before deciding which stance to take. If any of that is true, it is unlikely that they will ever regret being level-headed. There are many professional situations where their attitude would be greatly valued.


Almost all actions appear to be sensible to the person taking them at the time. Looking back, we can see that some different approaches may have been more effective.

To enhance your level-headed stance at work, take the time to learn from the choices you have made. Every mistake will teach you a lesson. The more you remember those lessons the less you’ll repeat those errors and the more relaxed and calm you will be.

Take note of your stress tolerance level. One of the traits that make each of us unique is our propensity to deal with stress. Some call this “emotional intelligence.” Others call it grit or resilience. By asking for feedback on your performance from trusted colleagues and friends, you can determine the point at which your level-headedness starts to lose its power.

Knowing when you lose your level-headedness means you can take action to avoid the pitfalls that will inevitably arise. Being level-headed is one of the greatest assets in the sometimes confusing and chaotic world of organizational life. Knowing when your level-headedness leaves you is a precious piece of understanding that can support you throughout your working life.

85 Miserable

When someone is feeling unhappy about something, they are likely to be miserable. Is their situation overwhelming? Possibly. If that is true, it can be a deeply unpleasant place to be and very disruptive to their working life. They may find themselves without motivation and direction. Their memory may wane, and their intellectual powers may seem to be undermined. Remember, they are not the first person to feel this way. Some of their work colleagues may have felt the same in the past or will feel the same in the future.


If anyone feels really bad, they should work their standard hours and consciously leave all work issues behind as they walk out of the office. If the source of their melancholy is not their workplace, they should focus on their problems while they are away.

Even if this applies only slightly, they should make time for positive situations and events to help them move forward. They need to take care of their physical and mental health. It is important to understand that deep unhappiness can cause havoc, personally and professionally, if it is not taken seriously and dealt with.

No matter how strongly you may feel about this, before you do anything drastic, it’s best to clear the storm clouds in your mind so you can approach any problem by focusing on taking positive action.

Successful people know the uncomfortable fact that nobody owes them anything. It’s nice when a manager is eager to support a staff member but it’s not their job to make that person’s life work properly. Anyone waiting for someone else to solve their problems will probably have to wait quite some time. If the lack of career progress makes someone unhappy then it is likely that the only person who can change this situation is themselves.

What is the biggest thing that could make your workday better? If you can define it, you could tell your manager and see how they react. If they work with you, it will be clear that you are moving forward. If they don’t, your path forward will be up to you. Either way, you must take responsibility to eliminate a mood that is uncomfortable and unproductive.

86 Moody

Moody people notice that their feelings change rapidly, mostly to the negative and, possibly, without clear reasons. If that is true, those with whom they are working may be confused. The moody person’s attention to detail and focus on outcomes may be waning. Possibly, something has upset their plans or expectations. They would be wise to recognize that their emotions are not as they should be. Is it time to make a change?


It is perfectly normal to be a bit moody when work becomes too busy or when difficult events happen. Many people feel somewhat anxious or stressed. Remember that sudden bouts of negative or conflicting emotions can lead people to poorly interpret interactions with colleagues and to misunderstand workplace situations.

When people find themselves thinking negatively about everything, it may be the right time to make a change. The key to keeping an unpleasant mood in check during the workday is to say as little as possible. Staying quiet means avoiding the risk of expressing the first nasty thing that comes to mind or offending someone with a sarcastic comment.

If you ever become moody at work, you could avoid making a mistake by using your moodiness as an exercise in self-discipline. Try focusing on the present and concentrating on the task at hand. That may help to lift you out of a bad mood. So attend to your work and ignore everything else. You’re obviously going to have to respond if you’re asked to, but you may be surprised how much you can keep your erratic feelings under wraps until this unpleasant time recedes. Tomorrow is likely to be a better day.

87 Motivated

Being motivated means that someone is ready to start striving for something. They are ready to take action, but motivation is not as simple as that. Maybe they have already achieved an objective and they are hoping to reach another. There is no more valuable member of staff than someone who is motivated. It means they are focused and ready and, possibly, waiting for the time to be right. Then, they will almost certainly take the next step, and, with luck, good results will ensue for everyone concerned.


All motivation comes from within, whether it is triggered by rewards or endeavors that enhance our self-image. Motivation is one of the main things that sets high achievers apart. However, it has some difficult aspects. How do you keep pushing forward when your heart isn’t in it? One answer is that, if a task isn’t satisfying, you should focus on parts of it that are or combine it with pleasant activities. That can help you to get you through. To avoid slumps, it can be useful to break objectives into subgoals. Don’t look at how much you’ve accomplished until you’re at least halfway done, then you can count down what you have left to do.

Part of establishing motivation is the promise of reward. If you want to condition someone to perform a certain action, then it usually has to be met with a positive stimulus. In other words, if you complete a task, allow yourself a small treat. This can obviously come in many forms. Maybe it means eating a piece of candy when a task has been cleared. Or perhaps it’s something else, like reading a text message from a friend that will need a reply.

Regardless, recognizing the importance of accomplishing tasks, no matter how small, is essential. That way, motivation can actually be continually encouraged. Even achieving your productivity goals can keep you going and when completed, of course, you can pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

We all have days when we get bogged down by details. We have days when we shudder at the thought of one particular task and use too much of our energy dreading it. We all have work that we hate doing. That’s why it’s called work. For some, the answer is to do your least favorite work first.

Letting your to-do list pile up with tasks that you despise can destroy your motivation. If possible, give this loathed workload a little happiness by listening to your favorite podcast or music playlist as you attack it. Don’t put it off any longer, get it done, and make sure you enjoy the relief when it’s finished.

Working to reach the right goals is important to achieving a high motivation level and to maintain it. When you choose your goals, it is important to weigh the pros and cons of each one to ensure you’re setting realistic expectations.

Focus relentlessly so that you remain committed to getting where you want to go in the long-term. Recording your goals helps you to commit to them. You will see those goals frequently, unlike a thought that drifts away like a cloud on a windy day. Try it.

88 Nervous

A nervous person is probably feeling tense and uncertain. Most people experience that feeling from time to time but being concerned can influence someone’s thinking substantially. It can make them focus too closely on something that they can’t fully control. It can draw their attention away from more important duties at work. They may be hoping that they don’t have to do something, or they may be ready to make a move. By understanding their position, they can make a decision about what to do next.


Workplace nerves are common, but they are manageable. Small steps, like understanding triggers, setting boundaries, and taking restorative breaks, can go a long way to help.

When feeling this way, some people bring a comfort kit to work. If you don’t have a designated workspace, you can assemble a kit, should the need arise, that provides a quick shot of relief during stressful moments wherever you are. You can be as creative as you like with your kit, which should include items that soothe your senses. You could make up a small, sealable plastic bag with cotton balls soaked in your favorite essential oil or perfume. Or you might include some inspirational quotes or a favorite poem. You could organize a playlist to relax to over lunchtime. Or, you could include some candy, gum, or dark chocolate to slowly savor. You’ll be shocked how powerfully this can distract you and help your nerves to become calm.

Rather than labelling it as a hindrance, nervousness may actually help you feel more motivated and prepared when faced with challenges. Research has shown that people who experienced some anxiety actually displayed improved performance. For instance, perhaps your nerves assist you in putting extra effort into work like double checking your results or doing a final edit of a report. Correct numbers or well-written reports can leave a good impression with your colleagues and manager. A little nervous burst of energy before a presentation could be just what’s needed to engage and even impress your listeners.

When considering your nervousness, try to think of ways that you can use it to inspire, to help you grow, and to boost your self-improvement. Your self-confidence will automatically rise every time you do so.

89 Nice

Nice people are usually pleasant and polite. That attitude is likely to help them reach the results they seek, whether they are dealing with their manager, discussing issues in a meeting with their team, or connecting with their clients through text messages. Being nice is not the deepest of emotions but it usually has beneficial outcomes such as promoting positive reactions and calming emotions. But, nice people need to be careful. Anyone who gives the slightest hint that they are faking niceness may arouse doubt and suspicion. So, nice must be accompanied by sincerity. The combination is really nice.


If you work 40 hours a week, 50 weeks a year, that’s about 2,000 hours spent with the same colleagues. Therefore, if it isn’t already your top priority, being a nice person definitely should be close to the top of your list. The way you communicate with everyone can significantly impact your relationship with them. It’s easy to misunderstand or misconstrue emails and instant messages, so, to be a nicer colleague, increase the time you spend with your peers. Consider how you talk with your team in informal settings. Speak from the heart instead of using business buzzwords (phrases like “touch base” and “circle back”).

One of the biggest complaints people have about their jobs is that they feel under appreciated. So challenge yourself to pay compliments to your colleagues regularly. Maybe someone did a great job on the latest project proposal, or maybe someone landed an incredible sale or achieved a notable success. Give them a high five, even if it’s a verbal one.

Show a small gesture of kindness every other month or so. Splurge on coffee in the morning, bring in donuts for everyone, or treat your colleagues to lunch. Chances are, they’ll repay the favor. These small niceties can really make people see you as a good person. It’s not hard to be nicer at work. Research has found that being nice to your colleagues reaps more benefits than you may ever have imagined.

This week, make a conscious effort not to interrupt colleagues while they are talking. This seems so obvious, but too many people seemingly cannot allow others to finish a sentence. Cutting someone off in the middle of their thoughts is one of the most frustrating things you can do, and it is a sure-fire way to get your own perspectives ignored out of spite.

A conversation is equal parts listening and speaking. Possessing a sense of humor and being able to crack jokes makes you fun to be around and it brightens everyone’s day. But it is important to remember not to do so at the expense of your colleagues. While you may not mean any harm, it can sometimes hurt and embarrass them.

Instead, develop the habit of not taking yourself too seriously. Poke fun at yourself when the opportunity arises. It shows that you are not egotistical, and your colleagues will appreciate that.

If you are secure and have enough self-love, you will ignore it when someone is critical of you or your activities. Focus on being less sensitive and do not react harshly. Instead, thank that person for their input, evaluate it objectively, and move on. The rest of your day will be better. And, they may wonder what happened to lessen the impact of their jab.

90 On Target

Someone who senses they are on target believes they are in the right place at the right time. That’s very good news if it is true. They may learn something while gathering personal power without expending too much of their precious energy. Their work colleagues and managers will probably become more confident in their abilities, too. In turn, they are likely to help to improve any situation, if that is possible.


In order to be in the right place at the right time, perfectly on target, we have two choices. Either decide to stay at one place long enough until the right time arrives or try to figure out when the is the right time and go to the right place then. Either approach can create great opportunities.

To strongly improve your chances of being on target at work, be willing to serve. If you want to learn from the best, you can’t be afraid to start at the bottom. You will learn more than you ever imagined when you humble yourself and serve those above you. The knowledge gathered will help you narrow down exactly where you should be directing your efforts.

Show up every day and show up well. Based on probability alone, you’ll eventually get a shot at your target. But that opportunity will only come around if you are consistently where you need to be. You may get discouraged or bored waiting for your chance, but you can’t allow those feelings to hamper your consistency. You’ve prepared, waited, and been reliable, now it’s time to take a chance. Maybe the opportunity comes when you speak in a meeting or propose a new idea. However it manifests itself, you must recognize that chance and take it.

Hesitation is the biggest enemy in these moments. Grasp your opportunity and watch as all of your patience and persistence pays off. Being on target is a matter of investment.

91 On Track

Whether they are openly expressing their perception or not, some people may be feeling pleased about what they are doing or feeling. It’s possible that they are following a plan, or a protocol and the signs they are receiving indicate that it is working well. That could involve having a victory or it could mean they are avoiding a loss. Possibly they have learned something useful or made other people aware of the situation. No matter the circumstances, the situation appears to be moving in a positive direction.


Many argue that there is a direct correlation between how hard you work and how successful you will be. They say you should wake up a little earlier or make an effort to produce more than your colleagues. Without advocating for hustle culture, there is something magical about working 15 minutes longer than you originally planned. You see, 15 minutes per day adds up to an extra 91 hours per year. There are a lot of chances that you might be at the right place at the right time in those 91 hours. And, those chances can help to keep you securely on track to achieve your goals.

Further, don’t forget that others have probably already solved the problems you need to solve. Find someone who has already achieved what you are striving for and model their behaviors to keep yourself more firmly on track.

When facing a large number of tasks, you may feel dispirited and concerned, which can lead to a drop in your productivity. In such overwhelming circumstances, it may be difficult to stay on track. Focus on one to three important things per day. Allow minor tasks to fill the in-between times, and don’t worry about the rest. That will help you, in the long run, to fulfil your most important task: staying on track.

We have thousands of thoughts every day. Most of them tend to get in the way when you are trying to get back on track. Some of these thoughts spark inspiration, while others trigger stress or feelings of being overwhelmed. Eventually, a list begins to appear, including daily errands, people to see, issues you want to tell others about, and much more.

Brain dumping helps declutter the mind and is a chance to bring all those ideas and thoughts onto paper in order to get back on track. By relieving some of that space, you now have room to focus.

Next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, take 15 minutes to expel all those excess thoughts. This tactic does not have a strict structure. Just write down everything that comes to mind. Afterward, you can sort through your notes, and prioritize them into different categories. You will probably find yourself throwing some in the trash.

Remember that most of us start in the same place: no money, no resources, no contacts, and no experience. But some winners choose to get started anyway. It’s not easy, but your life will be better if you choose to tolerate feeling uncomfortable and you strive to make progress anyway, rather than complain and make excuses.

You can work with whatever hand you’ve been dealt but always minimize the time between falling down and getting back up. For example, if you indulge at breakfast and eat multiple donuts, instead of saying, “I will eat better tomorrow,” try to get back on track that same day.

Your physical space, which may be your home or office, is a reflection of your mental health. Clearing the clutter in your space helps to clear the clutter in your mind.

Make sure you always trust your gut. When your subtle extra sense is tingling, pay close attention. Somehow it knows better than you do when it comes to keeping your career, and your life, on track.

92 Painstaking

Painstaking people typically focus on details. They may be concentrating on the intricacies of a workplace procedure, the logical links in an argument, or the precision required to set up a new program on a computer. Painstaking people want to get things absolutely right. Perfectionism can be extremely useful at work, but it can also backfire when circumstances evolve in unexpected ways. It’s wise to keep an eye on the big picture in a fast-moving corporate setting to ensure that the details taking up time and energy will truly help the organization to achieve the results being sought.


Make it your mission to reach the end of the day without checking your phone unnecessarily. If you want to increase your ability to pay attention to detail, you have to practice self-discipline. So, pause all notifications. As you focus your activities, others will continue sending you emails, Slacks, and texts, but you probably don’t have to respond straightaway.

You could add to your painstaking approach by paying attention to your workspace. Is it time to clear your desk? You could even move superfluous items to shelves behind your chair so you don’t get distracted.

Don’t work slowly on tasks that are rather mindless and repetitive. But, if you have to do some solid thinking, it usually helps to slow down and let our cognitive processes operate as well as possible, and that usually means being methodical and deliberate. That will make your painstaking work more productive and valuable.

Reducing errors can be as important as creating new ideas. Ask any professional athlete or coach and they will confirm this approach. So, too, will your manager.

93 Passive

Passive people may not feel like engaging, possibly because they have not found the right moment. That could be a wise stance, but it involves a great deal of strategic thinking and planning. Only they know for sure whether that is true. Sometimes, not doing anything is a sign of uncertainty or even fear. Sometimes, being passive is the result of a loss of motivation. If either is the case, it may be time to turn the situation around.


Passive behavior can be a common response when people are faced with difficult situations at work or uncomfortable emotions. At its core, passive behavior is generally a defense that can lead to feelings of helplessness, low self-esteem, and even depression. To seek relief from the cycle of passivity, some people stop waiting for a change to come “out of the blue.” They do not wait for a sudden burst of motivation, inspiration, or energy.

Our own actions usually lead to a rise in motivation or inspiration, not the other way around. For instance, you may begin to feel ready to exercise (motivation) only after you’ve forced yourself into your workout gear (action). And then, that wonderful sudden burst of energy may come upon you.

In workplace situations, it is usually helpful to be proactive rather than reactive. Make sure you believe that outside circumstances don’t define your life, but that you create it yourself. Some people emphasize this by trusting their gut instincts a little more. They work on accepting and acting on their perceptions, emotions, and senses. Even while their rational mind may be telling them there are too many variables and risks to make a definite decision, you can reduce the power of passivity by trusting yourself and doing something about it.

This strategy is useful in developing a stronger professional identity and achieve a healthier relationship with work colleagues. It may also be helpful to face the issues that may be causing concern, which, in turn, can provide the impetus to move forward and make decisions. Sometimes this may involve standing up for yourself more strongly. That takes courage at first, but, with practice, it becomes easier and, eventually, natural.

94 Peculiar

Has someone done something stupid or strange? Are they a bit confused? Of course, we are all only human. Sometimes, crazy stuff happens, especially at work if people are under pressure. That means everyone should take careful note if someone is being peculiar or if they are behaving oddly. It is probably quite important that it doesn’t happen again.


It’s completely normal not to feel like our usual selves from time to time. For various reasons, we all have an odd day or two. So everything you are about to read may apply to you, or equally to someone else who you have been observing and assessing.

The good news is that when someone feels or acts oddly at work, that situation can inspire a deeper consideration about how to draw things back to normal.

For example, when people happen to have peculiar feelings that last more than a day or two, they sometimes try to get to the root of what’s going on by asking themselves some non-judgmental questions. Has anything happened recently that might be causing these feelings, such as a disagreement with a manager, or some office drama? Has some unexpected uncertainty arisen at work or in your private life?

Sometimes, when people feel or act in a peculiar way, they are indicating that a change has occurred in the way they see or understand something. They may fumble their words when talking to their manager or knock over a glass of water during a meeting. Small things can suddenly become overwhelming. A train of thought can be derailed. Uncertainty and embarrassment can take hold. Some people may even start to doubt the firm professional relationships they have with their co-workers.

If you can identify what you or someone else is going through, you can start working on ways to make things better. Try engaging in more conversations with your colleagues. Such interactions often provide useful reference points about what is normal. You could apply an active listening technique by silently summarizing what people say and deciding whether you agree with their conclusions. The more you honestly focus on fitting into the normal conversations and behaviors of your team, the more likely it is that you, or anyone else, will no longer be feeling or behaving in a way that anyone would consider to be unusual.

95 Perceptive

Perceptive people probably hear, see, and sense more than others. That does not necessarily mean that they know why or how a situation came about. However, being insightful provides tremendous advantages for an individual and for those with whom they work. Perceptive people often understand themselves and their position very well and can see patterns and trends that are not obvious to others. Being perceptive is a valuable asset to bring to any professional situation.


Developing an accurate insight into people is crucial to getting ahead in your career. Picking up on someone’s body language, whether it’s poor eye contact, bad posture, or crossed arms seems obvious, but it’s easily missed or ignored by many. Successful staff aren’t necessarily smarter. Often, they are highly perceptive. Be warned though. Make sure as this trait increases that your ability to pay attention to even the tiniest of details doesn’t cause you to overthink issues. Doing so may hamper your ability to take advantage of your talent.

So, it might be helpful to stop using headphones, to avoid checking your phone so often, and to just simply start paying attention to what you see and hear. It may seem like a chore at first, then it can turn into something more pleasurable. As your skills develop and you receive positive feedback for your insights, it may become second nature and even effortless.

The very powerful advantage of having excellent observational skills is that you don’t have to commit your own mistakes to learn your lessons. All you have to do is witness someone else doing something dumb or wrong and you can count that as a lesson you have learned. Of course, you can sharpen your perceptive powers by reflecting on your own behavior. Monitor what you silently say to yourself and analyze those comments.

When you are mindful enough to pause to witness your own thoughts, and perceive how you truly feel, your actions will be based on a foundation that is more profoundly perceptive. The benefits of being highly perceptive can be remarkably positive for your self-esteem and your professional progress.

96 Persistent

When someone has a relentless impulse to continue until a goal is reached, they are a powerful leader or ally. People truly fail only when they give up, and persistent people never give up. Persistence can be a truly valuable asset in a corporate setting. People who know what’s needed and how to get it usually open the door to success, which often includes receiving great dividends of the tangible and intangible kind.


It is important to recognize that, while perseverance is necessary for success, stubbornness can be detrimental. The distinction between the two is caused by their respective motivations. The desire to achieve a goal motivates persistence, whereas stubbornness is usually motivated by ego or the need to prove that you are correct. Stubbornness can involve resistance to change and an inability to receive constructive feedback.

In this case, staying positive is important. Remember why you started out on this journey and what it means for you. Maybe you are hoping to buy a new car, to take a vacation you will remember forever, or simply to build a stable career that will support you and your family over the years.

As you work persistently, it is important not to ignore your mistakes but rather to see them objectively. You don’t want to be overwhelmed by disappointment or self-criticism because it can lead to a vicious cycle of negativity. Focus more on the positive reinforcement that your work can provide. Note the small successes you have achieved along the way, particularly those which will strengthen your resolve against the inevitable hurdles that will arise as you progress.

So, to use your persistence to achieve your desires, reread this message and choose those parts that are more relevant and easiest to apply. Your resolve in doing this is likely to reinforce the foundation of your professional success.

97 Persuasive

Some people are able to pinpoint what is important. Those around them usually pay close attention to that type of decisive approach. Further, some people seem to be able to explain convincingly what should be done to bring about a positive solution to complex or bad situations. Providing such powerful messages gives other people direction and purpose, which is vital when they have significant tasks to complete. Often, those who can persuade are greatly respected and that may be exactly what is needed to provide a refreshing burst of motivation.


Some people mistakenly think persuasive skills can be a sign of insincerity, but successful people with such talents are more likely to be genuine and honest. If someone appears to have strong and appropriate values, their co-workers are inclined to trust them more and to be more easily persuaded.

LinkedIn named persuasion as one of the most in-demand soft skills for companies. Persuasion was ranked second, directly after creativity. This magnetic energy is incredible for attracting success, so how can you lift it higher? Make sure to complete promises and favors and do nice things for colleagues you want to persuade. Additionally, many people feel the need to return favors as part of a social agreement, so your good favor could inspire them to support your stance as a way to thank you.

To convince someone to change their opinion or choice, consider why they may feel dissatisfied with their current circumstances. Empathizing with someone’s struggles can help you connect with them and give you a starting point to change their mind. Some people make decisions because they feel they only have one option, so knowing what they don’t like about their current alignment may help you expose them to better choices that don’t include those same difficulties.

Presenting yourself professionally, dressing well, being polite and accommodating will encourage the people you’re speaking with to respect you more and view you more seriously. However, it’s important to avoid allowing your confidence to become an expression of ego that affects how you speak to others. So keep that in mind going forward.

It’s important to get to the point. Nobody enjoys burdensome, complex explanations. They are tiresome and boring, and, in the end, your ideas seem less appealing. Speak to colleagues in a straightforward, transparent manner. It makes your point more understandable and enjoyable.

Be aware that your colleagues are more persuadable at different times. For example, asking someone questions after a tough one-on-one with their manager probably means they’ll be less cooperative and too distracted to listen properly. It is often better to talk with them after a relaxing lunch.

Persuasive people often use people’s names when they see them, not just when they greet them for the first time. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name. When you meet someone new at work, don’t be afraid to ask their name a second time if you forget when you first hear it. Keep their name handy the next time you see them.

Be sure to be flexible and to understand that sometimes you need to take small steps. Once someone buys into an idea, they tend to become more committed to it over time. So if a colleague or manager agrees to a small step by saying “yes”, accept it gladly. Small steps can lead to bigger agreements or results. Remain open-minded and watch what happens next.

98 Plain-speaking

Powerful people sometimes want to communicate as clearly as possible. When they do so in meetings or in one-on-one interactions with colleagues, that approach helps to make a point of view easily understood and makes that person appear to be honest and assertive. Those receiving the message may accept or reject the stance, but a plain-spoken, confident style usually encourages acceptance. Plain speaking can have a great impact because it suggests a high level of sincerity.


To increase this highly useful skill, focus on being more constructive. There is a difference between a person who’s direct, and a person who’s aggressive. Just because you’re willing to offer your unvarnished thoughts and opinions doesn’t mean you’re entitled to point to problems without identifying solutions. So have your answers and suggestions prepared. This helps you to avoid sounding mean and pushy, but also makes you a valuable, contributing team member. Remember that your ultimate goal should be to communicate with your colleagues or manager effectively. And, that means directing decisions and actions toward achieving positive results.

Also, finding common ground is important because some may find your clarity and directness difficult to deal with. That’s when common ground can soften what might otherwise be moments of friction. When you improve your plain-speaking skills, there is every chance your workplace effectiveness will rise. You’ll probably waste less time on irrelevant problems or projects and you are likely to accelerate the progress of your career.

99 Pleasant

People who are pleasant are usually trying to be as agreeable as possible, probably by focusing on making their co-workers and clients feel comfortable. They may be demonstrating that they are attentive to those people’s needs and accepting of their point of view. If they continue with this attitude, they are likely to improve their chances of achieving their goals. Remember that being pleasant almost always wins when compared with being abrasive. 


Increasing your skill in being pleasant isn’t hard. It just requires your attention and discipline in applying these techniques until they are ingrained habits that you perform without premeditation. So smile more often and say your heartfelt thanks whenever necessary. Encourage your colleagues and rejoice with them when they succeed. You won’t always be in the mood to do that; however, you will always feel happier for having done so.

Never stifle a laugh because it can be highly contagious. Once someone begins, others are likely to follow, and all will benefit from its positive effects, particularly if the laughter alleviates some tension.

Practice giving to others at work. Every small gesture may be simple in itself but it takes thought and that effort is highly likely to be appreciated.

It may be surprising to learn that a pleasant personality can provide comfort with simple silence. A time without noise can be a blessing and indicate that you and those around you are relaxed, contented, calm, and confident when in each other’s company. In a world where many compete to be heard, your comforting silence may be a refreshing, welcoming, and pleasant gesture in the office.

100 Polite 

Behaving in an agreeable and considerate manner usually means that someone is being polite. So, it’s possible that the people they deal with will behave the same way. Often such interactions work well because professional colleagues will usually follow “the rules” of behavior that have been set. This is a powerful form of leadership. Typically, polite people are kind. They will admit when they get things wrong and, in some circumstances, they may even be somewhat humble. Those who interact with polite people will probably sense that any uncomfortable friction is eased, particularly when people work intensively together.


Being polite in the workplace is a highly useful skill. Not everyone has that ability, and, probably, you are able to name a few less-than-polite people you have worked with in the past. When you use good manners in the workplace, you create an environment of respect. Staff and managers are much more likely to become thoughtful and kind in recognition of your politeness.

But politeness is not only about words or gestures because being considerate of others can be just as important. Eating at your desk can cause distracting or even unpleasant aromas for your colleagues. So, try to eat in designated areas where food smells are taken for granted.

Also, it is important not to overshare personal information. Unless some of your work colleagues are close friends, try to keep stories about your weekend entertainments and adventures to a minimum. You are probably not an internet influencer so resist the urge to open up about every aspect of your private life.

While we are thinking about social media, be careful not to praise someone’s skills on a platform because that may make someone else feel inadequate. Some staff refuse to accept “friend” requests from people with whom they work but, because you are polite, you may have to decide on what is the best policy in this matter. In any case, it may be wise to use social media with caution and be aware of potential conflicts and repercussions that could arise.

Workplace etiquette is always evolving. But one thing stays the same. Many successful people tend to be well liked, and well-liked people tend to be polite. So be polite and play nice at the office. Be the person you want to work with. From this stance, good things will likely happen.

101 Preoccupied

Someone who is preoccupied has probably lost focus on the current situation and allowed their mind to wander without a definite, real-world purpose. That won’t help their workday activities very much. Maybe the tasks they have to complete are a little boring or irrelevant. Maybe they find other issues are more likely to leap to the front of their mind. Those are sure signs of being preoccupied. However, flitting aimlessly through thoughts without attending to the job at hand is a luxury few can afford.


Sometimes a visual reminder is all anyone needs to refocus their mind on what is important. This can be something as simple as putting a Post-it note that reminds you to “focus” on something you are working on. Whatever visual stimuli you choose, try to make sure it’s easily visible so you see it often as you work. It’s amazing how much this can help anyone snap out of daydreams and digressions. This can save time and effort because it enhances productivity as it draws attention to the task at hand.

When people understand the types of thoughts that distract them, they can typically avoid thinking about those issues in the future. For example, if you realize that you’re repeatedly thinking about what your dog or cat is doing at home while you’re at the office, you’ll be aware that those thoughts are a key distraction for you and you can refocus your mind on what you currently need to target.

Stress can also play a major role in our inability to focus or overcome distractions. Too often, we find ourselves trying to work while feeling overwhelmed. This leaves us frazzled, exhausted, and easily preoccupied. Bringing stress under control can help regain focus and overcome distractions more easily.

Also, something as simple as getting enough sleep can help your body recover from work stress. If you sleep well tonight you may avoid being preoccupied tomorrow. Try it. It may help you more than you expect.

102 Primed

Being ready is essential if someone is to reach their objectives. Being eager while brimming with knowledge and skill almost ensures a successful outcome. Like a spring wound tight, someone who is primed can instantly leap into taking effective action. However, there are some issues to keep in mind. Being primed usually does not last a long time and, to be truly effective, someone should be fully primed at just the right moment.


If you want to get ahead in your career, identifying the objectives you desire is a very important step. Unless you know with crystal clear clarity what you are hired for, there is no way you can move forward. Try having a frank discussion with your manager, get agreement on what key result areas you need to concentrate and have clearly laid out objectives with timelines to showcase progress. Once this is established it is your responsibility to keep your manager updated on the progress you have made, not to the point of annoyance, of course. Your transparency shows clearly how serious you are to get ahead in your career.

You can also increase the intensity and effectiveness of being primed by focusing on standard organizational issues such as revenue or efficiency. For example, in your current job you may not be directly responsible for revenue generation. However, if your organization is to take you to the next level in salary, then it is imperative for you to show that, by moving you higher, they will be able to get additional revenue which also satisfies their bottom line.

The same approach can be applied to improving efficiency, as well. So listen closely when you talk with clients and colleagues. Any time they need something that is not available immediately, bring it to the attention of your manager and develop the necessary solutions. When you present sound solutions to problems or improve revenue, you separate yourself from the crowd and create a positive impression.

You don’t need to feel you are in a bind. You don’t have to be primed to act perfectly every second of your workday. The smart ones are primed for those brief moments when progress can be made along the path of the long game.

So ask for what you want. You can never get ahead in your career if you have a fear of asking. Sometimes you might be doing a great job but if you don’t communicate your achievements and make a strong case to move to the next level, it is unlikely you will get ahead. Before asking, ensure you are mentally prepared for rejection. Then, any negative result will make your request easier.

103 Principled

When they are feeling robust and ethical, many principled people believe they should be treated with respect. That’s possibly true. Honorable people are sometimes prominent because they have firm beliefs that they rely upon to understand and to judge people and situations. Sometimes, their stance makes life easier, and, at other times, it makes life more difficult. When someone’s principles line up neatly with their corporate values, they have reached a wonderful place that many would envy. Their career will probably be supported by this neat alignment.


Doing the right thing at the right time is the core of an honest and ethical staff member. Sometimes this means facing some harsh truths. To boost this trait you must not be afraid to make mistakes. If you fear this possibility, you are much more likely to feel uncertain and to stray from doing the right thing.

It’s important to stay principled by respecting your manager and the executive leaders of your organization. Ethical behavior involves listening to their requests, not arguing with them, and doing your best to deliver high-quality work. There is nothing wrong with putting forward your case but remember that managers typically answer for the performance of the people they supervise, so they appreciate it when someone does their best work and cooperates as best they can. It makes your manager’s job a little easier.

Being principled means keeping your promises, being reliable, and working effectively with others. Demonstrate your values by showing you are committed and willing to persevere in achieving your goals. Exercise self-control. People with strong principles put their commitment to their organization before other, frivolous activities. While there’s no reason to work rather than attend to a family emergency, these people won’t slack off on a project because they’d rather do something else.

Someone who is principled rarely, if ever, arrives late at their job. Not only that, but they also complete all assigned projects in a timely manner and avoid holding up the workflow of the rest of the organization because they know how important it is to play their role efficiently.

Being principled involves applying a set of values to guide their professional behavior, which encompasses integrity, responsibility, quality, discipline, and teamwork. Those qualities are crucial for organizational success because they drive productivity, fosters colleague satisfaction, and enhances an organization’s reputation. By being principled, you could hardly go wrong.

104 Protective

Sometimes a situation reaches a point where conflict is possible or even likely. People feel they should protect themselves and maybe their co-workers, too. It is vital that they do so when there is a good chance of avoiding pain. The situation is probably progressing positively when everyone is acting with greater freedom and focus. The same will be clear if people begin dealing with the main problem and ignoring irrelevant side issues. Remember, there is always conflict of some sort in the workplace. Sometimes, it’s productive. Sometimes, it’s not. But, the main thing to keep in mind is to shield everyone and to protect them from trouble.


A great deal of research has confirmed that job security is the top concern of people who are employed. While you may have been offered your current job after an impressive round of successful interviews, the best way to protect your position is to continually show your value and to avoid workplace conflict. Luckily there are ways to help you ensure you have the best chance of retaining your job, no matter what office politics or other conflicts you are drawn into.

Always take the time to develop a positive and professional relationship with your manager. Make sure you have mutual support and trust for each other. When you have a genuine professional friendship, any potential conflicts will have a ready-made ceiling which they will likely not exceed. You can strengthen that relationship by being flexible so you can meet any unexpected needs or requirements that your manager identifies. Being willing to adapt shows your value to your organization when unexpected circumstances arise.

Also, you can avoid difficulties and conflicts by understanding how management views performance. Sometimes it’s different from what staff may think. Find out exactly how they value staff’s contribution. How do they define it? Being protective is not really about defending yourself in some office fight. Rather it is about protecting what you value and increasing your control over your career and your financial status.

105 Rational

Rational people think systematically and precisely. They adopt that approach because it typically achieves the best results in a professional setting. A rational stance also helps them to convince others that their knowledge and insight is right. People who methodically gather facts, test them, and draw sound conclusions, usually increase their status. It seems likely that they are often in an excellent position.


A wise mind is what we intuitively recognize to be one that which knows the truth under the smothering blanket of emotions. When you’re emotionally charged, it’s difficult to pinpoint what is real and true. You are often blinded by subjectivity. That’s why it’s crucial to look at the facts and observe what’s going on rather than to focus on how you feel about it. Only then will you feel confident about the level of your understanding because emotions are fleeting, whereas facts remain fixed.

To maintain or increase your rational skills, it can be useful to discuss issues with your work colleagues. That can draw you back to earth as you tap into multiple perspectives rather than just the thoughts of your own mind. Also, whenever you have a surefire idea that you are certain will work, try thinking of potential reasons that will derail it. Alternatively, if you’re sure it won’t work, think of reasons that will help it to succeed.

For any belief you or someone else has, try to develop arguments against it. It is usual for people to be more emotional when making a decision about a current work issue, but more rational when considering decisions that need to be made in the future. You can take advantage of that by imagining how you would decide on a current issue if it were presented to you in six months’ time.

Also, you can improve your rational thinking by measuring the level of risk you are facing. People are prone to letting their emotions dictate their risk assessments so it is important to balance those feelings with careful, logical assessment. That will not only strengthen your rational abilities but will also likely lead to better decisions and results.

106 Reaching Your Limit

When someone has reached a point where they do not want to say or do anything more, it is said that they have reached their limit. It means that they cannot stand to hear or see another example of something that could easily make them explode. Maybe they have put all their energy into something, and they have run out of gas. They are done. If any of those scenarios are true, they may find themselves in an unpleasant and unproductive place and none of it may be their fault. It is possible that people around them can see how they feel. Those people may be treading cautiously to avoid making things worse. It might be time to do something different.


Frustration in the workplace can be the result of events and situations that accumulate over time. The list of potential causes is extensive: ineffective communication, micromanagement, job insecurity, boredom, a poorly performing or distracted manager, lack of feedback, low levels of collaboration, rigid hierarchies, lack of clear goals, and even technology that is not fit for purpose or is outdated.

Successful people run toward challenges to grasp the opportunity to learn from them. They look for chances where everyone else sees problems, and they also know when to accept a situation and to let go. There are always circumstances at work that are beyond our control. It is an unpleasant feeling to be powerless to influence those situations. To immediately lower your sense of frustration and anger, try to step away from the trouble and turn your focus toward something positive. It will probably help you to calm down.

If you ever sense that you have reached your emotional limit, but your reaction wasn’t triggered by a specific event or disagreement, you may need to find a way to reset your mental state. It is unwise to hold in anger or negative thoughts because it often allows frustration to rise even higher.

You could try to adopt a more objective point of view by discussing matters with someone who is neutral and supportive. They may be a family member, a friend, or a co-worker from a different part of your organization. It can be a great relief to move away from the precipice of “reaching your limit,” and any chance to step back should be taken.

107 Ready

It may be someone’s insight that helps them appear to be poised and prepared. Being ahead of the curve gives people a great advantage in their work. It’s all about being more proactive than reactive. A professional’s readiness may entice people to admire them and want to follow their lead. Feeling ready may not last long but, if it involves following a plan, good results may appear and endure.


Work readiness is a hidden, yet important, factor in securing new clients or ensuring you are supporting your career. Briefly, work readiness measures your preparedness for your next task, for new responsibilities, or even for your next position. You may think planning is tedious, but the truth is that preparing for work is an investment in your long-term health and financial stability.

Enhancing this trait can start before you arrive at work. Imagine waking up 15 minutes earlier tomorrow and using the extra time to have a more comfortable, relaxed breakfast. The more at ease you start your day, the more ready you will be to handle the demands you will face during your working hours.

Another technique to help you to be ready is to avoid whining! Complaining is a massive energy drainer, and you only have a limited supply of energy every day. So, decide not to do it. Complaining indicates how much you lack control over situations so stop telling everyone how powerless you are. That’s the opposite of being ready.

Someone who is prepared usually demonstrates high levels of confidence so they reject the notion that they don’t deserve the position they hold or that they’re not up to the tasks they face. Developing and exuding confidence will show that you are competent and ready to deal with whatever is directed your way and that’s a good way to earn the respect of managers and executives.

Further, people who are ready often have the time and energy to attend workplace events or to go out for dinner with their work colleagues. However, while building their career, they also have time to look after themselves. They set aside some downtime when they can relax and be themselves. Apply these techniques and you will remain ready for anything that happens in your career.

108 Realistic

Professionals succeed when they are seen to be dealing sensibly and practically with what they see and hear. Some people may sense that their behaviors and reactions are predictable or that they lack inspiration. However, there is a good chance that a feet-on-the-ground approach will help to achieve the results being sought. Realistic people rarely over-think situations. They may be trying to identify trends and patterns and to respond in the most appropriate way. That’s a real asset in any workplace.


One of the best ways to enhance this skill is to be honest with yourself. If you suddenly notice you are being negative, face the fact and do something about it. The same technique can apply if you are being overly optimistic. Use that impulse that drives you towards realism to keep yourself on track.

Of course, you have to believe in yourself to ensure you have the confidence to succeed but, that stance also has to be balanced with realism. There will be tremendous challenges and some failures; however, being realistic incorporates those experiences with a steady eye on the goal you are working towards. The greatest lesson that you have probably already learned is that things take time to play out. So, it is best to avoid an all-or-nothing stance on any issue. There will be something good in a bad outcome and something bad in a good result. Keeping this in mind will help you to enhance your realistic attitude and you will gain from its long-term benefits.

Being objective about workplace situations is vital, so you should ensure that emotions don’t cloud your judgment. Always rely on facts and evidence when you draw conclusions and, if you feel your emotions surge, you may notice that one or more of your senses is suppressed. You may stop listening or you may fail to see something. As a consequence, your hold on being realistic will start to slip, even if briefly. If you have strong feelings that last longer, try sleeping on it. Things often look very different in the morning than they did the night before.

Many people are tripped up on the fact that being realistic doesn’t mean being negative or pessimistic. It’s about approaching situations with a clear understanding of what is likely to happen and making decisions based on that knowledge. Better decisions lead directly to a better career, and that’s about as realistic as it gets.

109 Resentful

Whether or not it dominates your thoughts, your discontent or discomfort about something seems to be simmering. That is not a good thing if it relates to your workplace. Should this feeling strengthen, it may influence your decisions, behaviors, and attitudes and can easily touch those around you. You don’t want to be caught in a permanent emotional groove no matter how slight, especially if it is unproductive. Is it time to move on to something more positive and uplifting?


Many successful people know that lingering resentment, at any level of intensity, is physically and emotionally draining. Everyone gets mildly angry or upset at times but it is important not to hold on to those feelings for long.

Resentfulness over long periods leads to changes in heart rate, blood pressure, and immune response and increases risks to good health. One of the best solutions to reducing stress is reasonably simple. It’s practicing forgiveness. Notice that it is simple, but not necessarily easy. Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap valuable rewards.

Forgiving is an emotional process that may have little or nothing to do with anyone else. If you ever find yourself in this type of situation, you could remind yourself that letting go of your resentment doesn’t allow someone to win, nor does it let them off the hook. And, it certainly doesn’t imply that you have lost. Letting go allows you to move forward with your life without an ever-present nagging voice that may be giving you a false sense of power or control over the target of your resentment. For some people, being resentful might also serve as a subconscious protective mechanism they’ve put in place to shield themselves from future hurt.

During a psychological study, one group of participants was asked to perform a physical test while thinking about a personal conflict in which they didn’t forgive someone. Their results were worse than a control group who performed the same test while thinking of a conflict in which they did forgive. The grudge holders were also more likely to think a hill looked steeper than the forgiving group, suggesting they had a more pessimistic mindset.

If left unaddressed, resentment can create a barrier to a successful career. To avoid this, some people acknowledge that they cannot control those who have hurt them. They recognize that resentment provides only the illusion of personal strength. Instead, they highlight and validate their actual power. They acknowledge their part in allowing the harm to occur, even if they didn’t have the skills or foresight to stop it. Most importantly, they forgive themselves. They declare an amnesty with the person they resent. And, they always keep in mind that this act is a gift to themselves rather than to the person with whom they feel aggrieved.

110 Resilient

Powerful professionals often feel prepared and strong. It is a good place to be. They may still be concerned about something, but people who remain true to themselves while dealing with an ever-changing world often achieve great success. On both extremes, those people who remain stubbornly firm or who are infinitely flexible usually fail in the end. But, by adeptly balancing strength and flexibility, great results can be achieved. That is the goal of the resilient.


Research has shown that, while some people develop resilience naturally, this attitude can also be learned. Whether you’re going through a tough time at work or you want to be prepared for future challenges, there are techniques that can help you build resilience. Waiting for a problem to go away of its own accord usually prolongs a crisis. Instead, you could start working on resolving the issue immediately. While there may not be any fast or simple answer to all your problems, you can take small steps toward making your situation better and less stressful. That will also help you feel more in control and, in turn, more naturally resilient.

Very few people can quickly talk themselves out of their fears. Instead, the best way forward is to tackle your emotions directly. Try slowly and repeatedly exposing yourself to something that scares you. Make sure you do it in small manageable doses. For example, people with a fear of public speaking become more resilient by trying to talk a little more during work meetings, when they are with people they know. They focus on techniques like looking at one person at a time and referring to a single theme with which they are comfortable. With practice and perseverance, they will eventually be strong enough to give a speech to their entire organization.

This kind of “exposure therapy” can work wonderfully and it may help you to change any negative associations you have with something that undermines your resilience. Remember, you can choose any issues in which you seek to lift your tenacious strength. Your fear may never be fully extinguished, but you’ll likely have greater courage to confront and overcome it every time it arises. Imagine how much extra power that that will generate in your career over time.

111 Resolute  

There is a British saying about being resolute: Nail your colors to the mast. It means that people should make their stand, no matter what happens. Being resolute indicates that someone has decided something, and that they will not accept anything different. And, those who might challenge that position had better be ready for a fight because they are likely to get one.


Being resolute is about creating lasting change by finding the courage and certainty within yourself. There are some useful techniques to enhance this incredibly powerful stance.

It can be useful to accept disagreement in the office. Allow yourself to find your place in that uneasy blurred space where agreement has not brought everything into sharp focus for everyone else. Don’t change your position just because someone tells you to do so or because you want to escape the social tension. Stay on your message. Stand behind your opinions, even the unpopular ones. But, be smart enough to avoid negative consequences. Speak up about problems, even if it causes discomfort in you and those you work with. Discover the value of a certainty. Challenge undermining assumptions that might make you doubt your competence.

Showing your resolve, when it is appropriate, may be quite uncomfortable at first. Mindsets don’t change easily, but you’ll likely be surprised at how practicing even small steps toward becoming more resolute will influence your interactions with others. Of course, there are choices beyond your stance that may succeed. But, being able to zoom in on what is important and most effective is the hallmark of a resolute person.

So, take the time to reflect on what is taking your interest and how it’s impacting your work. What is today’s principal purpose? If you are resolute, everything may fall into place.

Being resolute means being disciplined and pushing aside all the temptations to deviate from achieving your goal. Remember, habits are a process. Dramatic overnight change is rarely possible. Being resolute is not about immediate, drastic change but building positive, consistent approaches over time which lead to lasting change. So, whether it’s following up with clients or finishing a project, consistency is important, and is a strong sign that someone is resolute.

112 Resolved

Someone who is resolved may accept the current situation, whether they like it or not. Working life has its difficulties. Nothing is straightforward or permanent. But, being clear-minded and determined is a sign of professional maturity. Having achieved a sense of balance and being resolute will likely win the admiration of many work colleagues.


A common reason for failure in the workplace is a lack of determination. Your work colleagues may be filled with motivation at the beginning of a project but after a few setbacks, they may lose heart and then begin to lose their focus. What they may not understand is that success comes to those who are resolved. When you increase your workload and the going gets tough, you must keep your head down, remind yourself of your goals, and continue moving ahead. That is an example of being resolved.

One way to increase this trait is to stop attaching too much meaning to setbacks, roadblocks, and obstacles. You are going to have clients or managers who say “no.” You may even lose a higher paid position that you really want and probably deserve, to competitors of lesser ability. You must learn from those events, but it doesn’t mean that you stop pursuing your dream. Setbacks and obstacles don’t indicate failure. Take the time to reflect on what your temporary reversal has taught you. Then, dust yourself off and keep going! Continue on your path despite what other people say. Take the time to regularly remind yourself about your goals.

Put in the work even at times when you don’t feel like it. There are many tasks that are uncomfortable in professional life, but sometimes the most distressing activities that yield the biggest returns. If it were easy, everyone would do it, and there would be zero opportunities floating around for you to grasp. Success is always possible for the person who refuses to stop fighting. Failure will never overtake you when your resolve to complete your mission is strong enough.

113 Respectful

Someone who is respectful probably deeply appreciates the status or values of someone or something. That’s a pretty good sign if they are focusing on their managers or work colleagues. Whether the object of respect is personally likeable or not, they appear to deserve their higher status. Maybe they are strong or clever, enduring, or loyal. Whatever the reason, people think and behave respectfully toward them. Of course, there is always the chance that someone is feeling self-respect. That, too, is a precious stance with which very little can go wrong.


This is a big issue, so make sure you take it in. You should respect yourself enough to know that you don’t need to win every workplace conversation. If you argue with colleagues, you may notice that you reach a point where you may want to have the last word. You may want to prove them wrong. So, why are you focusing on winning? Usually, it’s driven by insecurity: needing to be on top to feel good about ourselves. Always avoid this temptation and remember that respect for others starts with respect for yourself.

Something even better arises when you allow yourself enough care, love, and compassion to realize that you don’t need to win. You free yourself from the impulse to compete with everyone else. It’s a beautiful feeling.

While at work, remember to recognize the diverse perspectives, backgrounds, and experiences of your colleagues. Embrace different ideas and attitudes, and actively seek out opportunities to learn from others who may have different views than your own. Always respect your colleagues’ personal boundaries and privacy. Avoid prying into personal matters or engaging in gossip. Be mindful of cultural differences, too. Educate yourself about different customs, traditions, and practices to avoid unintentionally offending or excluding others.

There is another powerful technique that you should employ next time a colleague asks for your thoughts on their work or on a professional matter. Start with a positive comment, provide constructive ideas, and end with another positive comment. This approach balances feedback, so it’s always respectful and supportive. It’s what a clever leader would do. And, you should respect the skills of a clever leader.

114 Responsive

No matter what they say or how they present themselves at work, a responsive person usually appears to be balanced and ready. Possibly, they are dealing with something to which they have been paying close attention. That would be a great professional position in which to find themselves. Their confidence may be high because they understand something very well. It would be no surprise to learn that they are bracing for what is happening and for what is to come. Maybe they have seen it all before.


Keep in mind that being responsive is of great value to you and to your organization. Being responsive means you’re tuned in to, for example, the needs of your manager. You can anticipate what’s coming down the line and react accordingly.

On the other hand, being reactive is not so wise because you are always lagging behind events. You’ll be dealing with unanticipated surprises and putting out fires. The real problem with being reactive is that once you’re in that frame, it’s hard to break out of it. It’s difficult but far from impossible. Even if you apply just one of the following techniques, your work life could dramatically improve.

First, label your tasks that are really of only slight importance but which compete loudly for your attention. Emails may fit into that category, but the phone often runs a close second. When an email arrives, some people drop what they are doing, breaking their concentration and momentum. Checking or responding to emails sometimes causes them to perpetually jump from one issue to another.

Also, have you noticed how people often leap to answer the phone, sometimes even cutting off a conversation in the process. Both of these reactions suggest that they are being responsive but they are doing so to matters that may be of little importance. Their job becomes an all-day game of whack-a-mole. So, silencing and managing as many of these incoming messages and calls, and dealing with them during a dedicated period each day, will help you remain more responsive to the important issues.

Once you have got the small tasks under control, it is time to determine what’s truly important for your organization and for your work. The starting point here is often your senses: watching and listening. It is essential that you understand what issues are driving your manager and the executives of your organization.

Observe their behaviors and listen to them with all your attention. Keep a record of what they do and what they say, and you will start to build a comprehensive picture of what is important. Politely ask for clarification. Being respectful and courteous will be essential here. Listen to the key words or phrases they use. Maybe they are concerned about precision and accuracy. Maybe they are focusing on getting the strategy correctly aligned. Maybe they want more creativity, or more discipline.

Once you understand their stance, you can bring any issue you are dealing with into their frame of reference and you can even suggest ways to apply the right type of improvements to help achieve their objectives. Suddenly, you will find you are ahead of the game, gaining in confidence, and impressing all the right people.

115 Ruffled

A ruffled person appears to have woken up and their feathers are out of place. The cause might be something good, but it is more likely something bad. In any case, this person is probably feeling very different now from how they felt before. Making their position and feelings clear may help their co-workers understand their perspective and, possibly, explain why they want to move forward in a particular direction.


Being ruffled is a unique human mood. It’s not as fiery and aggressive as feeling angry but it has its own unique flavour of unpleasantness. Often, we experience irritation in a very personal way as there may be few obvious outward signs of its presence. Maybe a slight grimace may hint at the level of annoyance and some people may miss the sign, until it’s too late. Then they may suddenly experience a harsh or sarcastic comment or they notice a hard stare and a flushed face. The person feeling ruffled may sense they are locked in a suffocating world. So, how can they escape this bleak place?

If you ever feel ruffled, typically your body is telling you that you need space. That may sound too simple but think about it. When you are annoyed, your tone and your body language are usually unpleasant. Colleagues will try to avoid you. So, try avoiding them. If possible, take the time to move someplace else. Grab yourself a coffee. Organize a face-to-face with someone away from your office.

If that is too difficult, try temporal distancing. That involves mentally shifting to a different time to change your perspective. If a colleague accidentally bumped you, spilling your coffee, you could easily find yourself feeling ruffled ten minutes later. Now, in your imagination, shift forward five years. How would you feel about it then? You may have completely forgotten about the incident or you may find it amusing.

Psychologists sometimes refer to dialectical behavior therapy which includes a technique called “opposite action.” It is designed to help you to change your emotions and involves behaving in a way that is the complete opposite of how you are feeling. So, for example, if you are ever feeling nervous on your way to a meeting you should try to behave as if you are calm and confident. This technique isn’t applied to suppress emotions but, by acting confidently, it could trigger a memory that your reactions can change, and you do have some control over them.

116 Disapproving

When someone feels a little irritated or sour, it could be said that they are disapproving. Their bad mood will be directed at someone or something. Of course, the target of their disdain may be ignored. If they continue with this attitude, it would be wise to be careful. If, at some time in the future, the target of their disapproval becomes more powerful, their attitude may invite retaliation. At work, this may be a time to tread carefully or, better still, to follow a more rational adult-to-adult approach.


Being open-minded doesn’t just mean accepting new rules at work, tolerating other co-workers, or expressing a certain degree of flexibility in dealing with your manager. It’s much more than that. It is expressed through attitudes and actions. It means being receptive to everything and everyone that comes past your desk, allowing yourself to embrace various possibilities and opportunities, perspectives, suggestions, and concerns. It means letting go of prejudice, stubbornness, and rigidity. So, the last thing you would want to be is disapproving or, even worse, scornful, when next you are faced with something unfamiliar at work. The only path forward is to communicate more openly so that you can resolve, in your own mind, the differences you notice. Be calm and avoid anything that approaches argument or disparagement. Sometimes, silence and patience are golden.

You should save issues you may want to raise in “healthy” discussion for later when you are calm and have had time to consider the implications of any of your concerns. Keep in mind your colleague’s circumstances, try to understand, sympathize with and make sense of their opinion or reaction. You don’t need to adopt their perspective or to find a solution that attempts to combine the best of both worlds. Your aim should be to find peace within yourself.

You may be convinced that you hold the absolute truth, and that a co-worker couldn’t be more incorrect if they tried, but it is vital to accept that you may have got some things wrong. Maybe you don’t have all the facts straight. There are issues you may not have taken into consideration or certain details that have changed. Life is a kaleidoscope of changing colors and situations.

So, instead of staring disapprovingly at the closed door in front of you or getting tired and hurt while you try to kick it down, go and check how many windows were left open. They may let in a little fresh air.

117 Searching

When someone is looking for something, they may be feeling good or bad about their current situation, but they probably know that things can always be improved in some way. Maybe something is unresolved. Maybe they are close to reaching a satisfying conclusion that will be positive for them and their organization. The path of continuing improvement usually renews and invigorates, as long as people don’t lose things of value along the way.


Being observant and curious at work are powerful tools that you can use to improve yourself in many ways. At its core, you should search for answers, new experiences, and perspectives. In doing so, you will be continually learning and understanding important issues within your profession.

To increase this trait, ask questions, explore new ideas, take on new challenges, and take sensible risks. Step away from your comfort zone and approach current work projects from a fresh angle. Acquiring a new point of view will allow you to search places you’ve never thought about before, and to find new opportunities for yourself and your organization.

Sometimes, when you are searching, you may be tempted to give advice to a colleague rather than to listen to them. Try not to fall into this trap. Instead, tap into this attitude and ask questions like, what is the main challenge you face right now, or what is on your mind? Your search may uncover important information. Look for opportunities to apply what you learn, take action, and propel your career to wonderful new heights. 

118  Seeking Assistance

Does someone or something need help or support? Offering to assist or asking for aid may arise from feelings that are selfless or selfish. Either can happen in a professional environment. Possibly it is difficult to assess which path is real but every offer or request for support should be assessed carefully by all of those involved.


We’re often reluctant to ask for help because of the risks involved such as increased uncertainty, rejection, falling status, or losing authority. But, without the support of others, it’s virtually impossible for someone to advance in their career. Studies show that most people are surprisingly willing to lend a hand, if asked the right way. Requesting help is a sign of strength. It shows a willingness to admit when assistance is needed. It also indicates a readiness to take the necessary steps to get the support needed.

So how do you ask for help without feeling like you are being a burden to others? Be as specific as possible about what you need. This will help the person you’re asking feel more comfortable and be more likely to be able to provide what you need. If possible, try to make it as easy as possible for the other person to provide their support. This might mean doing some research ahead of time or putting together a list of questions they are likely to ask. When you’re requesting help, be aware of the other person’s available time and energy. If they’re already busy, they might not be able to give you the attention you need, at least not right away. In this case, it might be better to wait until they have some free time or to ask someone else.

Finally, always remember to thank the person in advance for their efforts. This shows that you appreciate their generosity and that you’re grateful for their assistance. When we ask someone to help us in a professional environment, they bring with them their networks, contacts, and connections, providing potential opportunities for your career and for your organization as a whole.

119 Self-assured

Feeling self-confident is a tremendous foundation for success. For some people, their attitude is not dependent on the difficulties of professional life. They know that things change. It is inevitable. But, being self-assured gives them a deep sense of poise and purpose that others will probably interpret as charisma. It’s a fine place to be.


The most common reason people lose confidence is because of a bad relationship with their manager or co-workers. That insecurity will last as long as the relationship is strained. If you can relate to this in any way, boost your self-assuredness by focusing purely on yourself. Do the best you can to stay on-task and focused, regardless of office politics, rumor mills, or unproductive manoeuvres that commonly happen in the workplace. Keep your head down. Confidence will emerge from your time-honored good work combined with a pleasant attitude.

Watch closely how you react to your manager’s and colleagues’ actions. Whenever someone triggers you, take a breath and understand that they may be acting in ways that we may do so ourselves: like a frustrated child under stress. Once you realize this is simply a human trying to protect their ego or to receive praise, you will respond more appropriately. They will not want to suffer in silence or to blame themselves. Try approaching the situation like a calm parent would without patronizing them. This will empower your efforts and raise your confidence.

If such relationship issues don’t apply to you, then become more self-assured by being kinder to yourself when you want to indulge in self-criticism. What would you say to a good friend in a similar situation? We often give far better advice to others than the harsh words we direct at ourselves. Skip the self-deprecation and focus on your strengths. These types of “put down” remarks and jokes have an impact on how colleagues perceive you.

Finally, if you are on the receiving end of a mean comment in the workplace that shakes your confidence, give yourself twenty-four hours to recover before responding or making any important decisions. Keep your self-assured head above water because it is the only way to survive and thrive.

120 Self-focused

Someone who is self-focused is thinking about themselves and their situation. Even if they are talking objectively about something else, they may be focusing on their own view of the situation and their own position. Nothing wrong with that. However, it may be helpful for them to realize that their perspective is but one of many, especially when it comes to working with a team.


Remember, you have only a finite amount of energy to offer at work. By worrying about others, you can make their problems yours. The distraction pulls you away from your own professional growth because your focus is outside yourself. So how can you redirect your focus from others to yourself without sacrificing your connection to managers and co-workers. Start by developing a checklist to refocus your attention. When you are too tired at work to avoid your own mental traps, it can help to have something to stand in for your fatigued decision-making and lapsed self-control.

Practice self-care outside of the office, as well. Self-care focuses on exercise, sleep, and nutrition. Each of these physical needs have been repeatedly linked to cognitive and emotional control. They are especially important in turning your awareness to the emotional signals you receive instead of worrying about other people.

Each area of the big three human needs requires serious investment. You might not notice the effects for a long time but, if you continually ignore your body’s need for exercise, sleep, and nutrition, you will eventually find you are in a place of trouble where you will be dominated by regret. Worrying about yourself is a big job, and no one else can effectively do it for you. It is not about selfishness. It’s about self-fullness. It’s about taking responsibility for yourself, and working to solve your own problems, while knowing how to be happy about others’ successes in their careers. Attending to your personal growth cultivates strength and resilience, which will do wonders in all spheres of your life.

121 Serious

Serious people usually try to understand the characteristics and the significance of a situation. They expect others to copy or to carefully consider their perspective. Typically, serious people listen carefully before they respond. They usually assess the evidence they have gathered then explain the deeper understanding it offers. Those who pay attention to a serious message are often persuaded. Some are surprised to work with a person of such depth, and they notice that a serious person places rational thinking well before emotional reactions.


Happy people are more likely to feel things are pretty good as they currently are, whereas people who tap into their serious side more often, may be more in touch with what’s wrong and thus acquire the drive to improve things. It can be useful to push yourself to be more serious about the future.

Commit to doing one difficult thing every day this week. Step outside your comfort zone and enjoy the discomfort that accompanies learning new things. If you toughen up, you can increase your seriousness even more. The next time you’re tempted to postpone a difficult conversation, remind yourself that successful people need to make tough decisions. Schedule the conversation immediately and don’t talk yourself out of it. Catch yourself next time you find yourself wavering half-heartedly.

In organizations, people who are not serious often know the newest techniques and trends, but they are distracted by the next shiny thing that drops into their lap. There’s always a reason why they haven’t reached their sales quota or key performance indicator. Eventually, they hit a plateau, get bored, and move onto a new job.

You can’t build a successful career as a dabbler. So, get serious and take action. Stop talking about what you’re going to do and start doing it. Commit to a certain number of hours a week, set deadlines, and stick to them. The professional world is better for the presence of serious types. They are more tenacious in the face of challenges, not just in their personal lives but also at work, and they achieve success faster than most.

122 Sheepish

Feeling guilty about something bad that has happened can make someone feel sheepish. They may or may not have caused it or even have been associated with it. They may want to hide or take a very low profile. It is not a nice place to be, especially for a professional. People make mistakes and miscalculations all the time. But, the worst result occurs when they do not see their missteps or refuse to acknowledge them. Most people work hard to make sure they are not in this uncomfortable category.


Self-belief acts as a shield, protecting us from doubts, shame, and uncertainties and allows us to be our strongest selves at work. So, anyone who would like to be their own CEO, should definitely become more confident and let that rising stance propel them to greater professional success. They might try getting feedback from their colleagues or manager. They’ll likely receive valuable insight into their strengths and into those areas they can improve. Just having this knowledge increases their courage as they tap into their talents and abilities.

The “spotlight effect,” in simple terms, refers to the generally false idea that other people notice everything you do and say, almost as if a spotlight were shining on you. This mistake can easily contribute to a feeling like sheepishness. In reality, most colleagues tend to be less observant than you imagine, in part because they’re thinking about the glare of their own spotlight. Not convinced? Ask yourself how much you notice about the people around you and what they’re doing at any given time.

Some sheepish people get through social interactions behind a mask of confidence. But “fake it ’til you make it” doesn’t work for everyone. It’s okay to admit you are nervous. Colleagues or managers might even let you know how much they appreciate the effort you’re making. And their authentic positive reactions can bolster your confidence.

There are other, simple techniques to help you overcome feeling sheepish. Try sitting up straight. This physical posture can help you immediately feel more powerful and confident. Do you remember your elementary school teachers telling you not to slouch? They weren’t doing it to be annoying. Studies show that good posture correlates strongly to confident thinking. Try it.

123 Shy

A shy person may not feel strong enough to deal with a situation that has developed at work. Maybe it’s easier for them to avoid trouble especially if it puts them in the spotlight. Everyone has distinctive skills and experiences that have a rightful and useful role to play, even if some people don’t want to make a song and dance about them. What has the shy person got to quietly offer? It could be valuable to them, their co-workers, and their organization.


Being shy in an organization will not do you many favors. It is important for you to get out of you comfort zone because your career could be damaged. Shyness is usually a manifestation of low self-esteem but working with others is all about dealing with managers, colleagues, and clients. That’s right, dealing with people.

To disable your shyness, try giving yourself a conversation checklist. We usually talk to new people in five steps. The opening line, introductions, trying out topics, exploring common ground, and closure … where you sum things up and possibly exchange contact information. Keep these steps in mind during an interaction with your manager or co-workers. Memorize them so you recognize where you are and where the conversation should go next if you start getting choked up due to nerves. If your memory isn’t great, try to ask more questions and to talk less. This is a neat technique to shift the focus away from you. While the other person is talking, take a moment to compose yourself. The simple questions you can ask to keep a conversation going so you can prepare for the next step are: What do you think about this? Why is that important? Could you tell me more about…?

Avoiding what scares you may only add to your anxiety. If, for instance, you’re unable to overcome your fear of speaking out, then it’s far less likely that you’ll be selected as a candidate for a position in which you have to make presentations or even speeches.

Begin to gradually ease yourself into feeling less shy by giving yourself a goal like contributing one new thought during a weekly staff meeting. While presenting your idea, pretend that you are a knowledgeable and assertive person. In small steps, you’ll gradually increase your self-belief, allowing you to reach for bigger goals. At some point, you’ll discover that you’re not faking your confidence at all!

124 Single-minded

Focusing intensely on achieving a particular result means that someone is most likely single-minded. That can be a valuable stance in the workplace, and it suggests that they probably have a good chance of getting that one thing that they want. But, there is a risk in this approach. If someone’s attention and efforts are directed at one target, what will they miss? Possibly, everything else that is going on. They may be oblivious to the opportunities that are sailing by and ignorant of the hurt that some colleagues may be feeling as they work hard to achieve their goal.


Some single-minded people don’t like new ideas. Some may be sure they are always right and they may have no qualms about ignoring anyone who contradicts them. Their approach is almost always outdated; stuck in a particular time based on the rigidity of their mindset. Of course, no one is perfectly open-minded about everything, so don’t get upset if you get this result. The extreme examples cited here may not apply to you.

The list of techniques to help you are also useful for us all. Start by encouraging colleagues rather than putting them down. For some reason, a few single-minded people often feel the need to tear down others. As an alternative, try to lift them up. Praise them. Show your approval. Cheer their success and celebrate their achievements. If you can’t find anything to praise, at the very least, don’t criticize them.

It might be worth considering upgrading your friends, too. They may be the source of a more narrow-minded focus. Having single-minded friends almost always guarantees that you will become more like them over time. Seek out people who are better and stronger than you and get to know them. Be of assistance to them. When you are a good friend, you will win good friends.

Question the status-quo often. Old ideas and practices may be outdated and irrelevant, while new ideas and innovations may be better suited to the current times. Never be afraid to learn how other people think and how they do things. The more we attach ourselves to our set beliefs, the more we distance ourselves from new approaches we could be learning from. Being open-minded is sometimes overlooked but can be essential to the success of your career. Be sure to be broad enough to capture any and every chance that comes your way.

125 Skeptical

Doubting or disbelieving something, possibly because a fact or an issue has been missed or ignored, is not necessarily a bad thing. It is possible that not everyone feels the same way, but a thoughtful and serious approach may be targeting a problem that others have downplayed or overlooked. It’s important that, with discretion, any new insights are made clear to those who need to know. Of course, it is important to be ready to receive new information that may change the facts, for better or worse. Skepticism should not be a permanent attitude but one that is a starting point from which an open mind can work to reach a sound conclusion.


What you know is not nearly as important as how you think. One of the most powerful defenses against sloppy thinking and intellectual laziness is skepticism. Let’s start by remembering that being certain doesn’t mean that you have the right answer. The mind is incredibly averse to uncertainty and ambiguity. When we don’t know something, we create our own reasonable explanation.

According to cognitive science, we prefer to hold on to invented justifications than to admit we don’t know. Having an answer is not correlated to seeing life in sharp relief. Continually questioning the truth, especially your own, is an excellent way to enhance your powerful skeptical approach.

There is never a full guarantee that we are right. Admitting that your truth is actually a belief sets you free to explore other options. When you do so, it is easier to challenge your own interpretations. You should avoid cynicism or a corrosive distrust of everyone and everything.

Positive skepticism is about finding another side of the story. It is about learning whether the sources and analysis are impartial. Listen to both sides of every argument. Search out different evidence and interpretations. Set your conclusions aside before gathering sufficient information. It’s okay to believe something and then, after reviewing the facts, realize that either you were wrong or your memory was playing tricks.

Changing your mind is sometimes the result of wisdom. The world is uncertain and continually mutating and the same thing happens in the workplace. What seems positive today might unexpectedly turn into a negative tomorrow. Life is about discovery, not about being certain. Being skeptical but open-minded will carry you forward, preventing you from taking things for granted. It is a path that can lead to success.

126 Skillful

When someone uses their talents and experience, they often succeed and become more proficient in the process. With luck, that approach will be highly valued in any workplace. As that approach continues, confidence rises as does independence and initiative. Being distinct in this way can attract many people’s attention and respect.


Today’s professionals not only need to keep their resume current, but they also need to continually strive to improve their job performance to stay ahead in a competitive market. You can’t rely solely on your manager to provide ways for you to sharpen your skill set. Your work is a big part of your life, and how you make a living and your work performance should be something you’re proud of.

There are some excellent techniques you can rapidly employ to improve your skills in the workplace. Some of these are obvious but you should take this information seriously. Be committed to your own professional development. Take an interest in learning as much as you can about your role, your profession, your organization, and the topics that interest you. Soon you will realize the benefits that arise from your knowledge. Not only does continued learning help you develop new skills or improve existing ones, but it also builds up a bank of insights that you can apply to your existing or future roles. Many claim to be prolific multi-taskers, but they very rarely are what they claim.

One of the great supporting pillars of your skills is likely to be time management. When you take on too many different tasks, the quality of your work may deteriorate. It is often best to focus on one core assignment at a time. Try to remember how many projects you’ve started only to abandon them shortly after like New Year’s resolutions, diets, a new sport, or a hobby. They’re all great for a while, and then they start to slip straight back to your to-do list. Don’t let that happen to career-related topics. Fully commit to what you have to do, of course, without becoming too narrow focused.

Pay special attention if you notice you are becoming sluggish or distracted. It usually indicates you are reaching the limit of your energy. It is important to avoid office burnout by taking a break. When you return, you will notice your skills rekindling boosted by your rising energy. It was not your skills fading but your strength. Regain your power and your skills will play their part.

148 Willing 

No matter how someone expresses themselves, if they appear to be willing to engage energetically in a professional setting, they will be seen as highly valuable. Maybe they have already thought through the relevant issues and prepared themselves. They may inspire others to adopt their stance as their chances of achieving a good result rise. Do they feel a sense of anticipation, even excitement? Those around them may be thinking that things are about to change for the better.


Organizations often analyze a possible recruit’s current skills and assess their ability to learn new ones. Growth potential is an essential quality, and a willingness to learn demonstrates that capability. The invaluable soft skill of being willing tops the priority list for 81% of businesses. It’s that important. So let’s increase it, shall we?

Identifying topics that interest you can help encourage a willingness to learn. Try not to dive into anything just to look good in front of your manager. When improving your willingness, consider topics or subjects that particularly appeal to you, it will keep you motivated much longer than you might expect. Taking a moment to appreciate that you’re trying to better yourself can be helpful. Give yourself credit for moving out of your comfort zone and taking on a willingness to learn.

Remember why you’re doing it. Do you just want more money? Do you want to change your role within your organization? These types of issues keep your desire to learn burning bright with motivation and brings the benefits of doing so to the forefront of your mind.

If you regularly ask questions at work, it can show your natural curiosity and desire to understand concepts. For example, a manager might instruct you on a new task with which you are unfamiliar. If you ask them questions such as its purpose or reason, you can show your genuine interest and desire to understand the task comprehensively. Be warned, it’s equally important to retain the information you discuss with them. If you repeat the same questions, it might suggest you are not listening or have difficulties learning new ideas and processes. So keep your memory skills strong, but that’s a lesson for another day.

And, lastly, raise your willingness by being enthusiastic when conducting your duties and interacting with others. Some managers might associate your enthusiasm for your job with eagerness to learn more. If you remember what was said at the beginning of this result, you’ll understand why this is such a great place to be.

147 Watchful

When someone is alert and possibly paying close attention, it is said that they are watchful. That can mean that they are looking for behaviors or other real-world signs or it could mean that they are looking for evidence or information that relates to certain issues. Either way, they may make a habit of trying to understand people and situations, whether they are work-related or personal. Someone who is watchful is often also careful. That approach may be based on wisdom gained through experience and intelligence. Being watchful is highly likely to help them, especially when it’s combined with good listening skills and, most important of all, patience.


Noticing small details in your office, catching your innovative thoughts, or observing the behaviour of your co-workers will help you emerge as an individual who notices change in your workplace and wider, and acts accordingly. You may be amazed to learn that this power was always in your hands. Not only will it help you to avoid conflict, but it also improves overall efficiency and productivity. This is because the more keenly you observe yourself and your environment, the more you understand where gaps exist and how those gaps should be filled. It’s difficult to be observant if you’re rushing here and there and feeling stressed. It is vitally important to force yourself to pause or slow down, and to suppress your mind chatter so that you can train your attention outward on the world around you.

Studies show that active observation can lead to a significant boost to your memory. Do small exercises that cultivate your watchful skills like asking yourself what’s new in the office today? All you need to remember is that observation is how your brain literally exercises. For extra fun, pick a colleague to observe in the next week. In bullet points, write down what you learn and how your point of view changes.

Develop your powers even further by going somewhere new or by trying an experience that is different. This naturally heightens your awareness and focuses your mind. And the more often you do this, the more developed your observational skills will become.

If you want to succeed faster, you must be observant. Success is not difficult for anyone that has mastered this art. Being watchful will help you to learn faster and grow wiser. It will provide support as you better relate to people and know their values. You can learn within a minute what someone has spent years learning. Observation will help you to avoid many errors and to deal wisely when handling workplace issues.

145  Waiting

You seem to be focusing on an issue because you expect or hope that something may happen at some time in the future. Patience truly is a virtue, so you are likely to be adopting a wise attitude. Of course, if this relates to your work, you will need to be ready to react appropriately once the time is right. Being poised and prepared makes you strong.


Most of us wait for the right opportunity to arrive. We wait to be offered a better position or a better job. We wait for a chance to make more money. Does the opportunity ever arrive without someone helping it to come? Sometimes it does, but not always. It might not come at the right time. We might not recognize it when it does. We might not be ready for it.

If you are serious about reducing this hesitant stance and you want to create an opportunity for yourself, the first step is to evaluate your current situation. Are you feeling indecisive about your objective or do you have your eyes locked on the prize? Are your emotions under control or are doubts creeping in? Once you have taken inventory of your mindset, get ready to move forward.

One of the most important things to remember when trying to be more proactive is to start small. Taking on big challenges or projects can be daunting and may cause you to become overwhelmed or discouraged. Instead, begin by taking small steps like volunteering for a task at work or suggesting an improvement in a procedure.

As you gain confidence, you should gradually take on bigger challenges. If small isn’t your style and you’d rather jump into the deep end, look for ways to take on leadership roles, or start new projects on your own. This can demonstrate your ability to take ownership and to lead, which can help you impress your managers and increase your chances of advancement.

We live in a world that revolves around instant gratification. We want it and we want it now. The problem is, we usually want it without the blood, sweat, toil, and tears. Which means that the majority of people fall short of creating opportunities for themselves because it takes too long to achieve or because it is simply too much work. Can you stare into the mirror at the end of the day knowing that you could have given more? If you answered “no,” you’re halfway there.

For better or worse, try to commit to your goal. During the successful days, work hard. On the days where every door is slammed in your face, work harder, keeping your vision in mind. Committing to creating an opportunity will set you apart from those who never roll up their sleeves and put in the effort that is required. With each proactive step you take, you’ll feel your confidence grow, your skills develop, and your career will soon begin to soar to new heights. So go ahead and conquer the world, one proactive step at a time.

144 Vulnerable

There are times when people feel exposed or at risk, even if they are not fully sure why. This feeling can disrupt many aspects of their working life and it may lead to a place where there are few positives. However, personal strengths, which have probably developed through a lifetime of experience, can help them to decide how to bring their special powers into play so that they can contribute with increasing confidence.


What are your initial thoughts when you think about vulnerability? Many associate vulnerabilities with feelings of fear, uncertainty, or shame. It is possible that we have learned not to allow ourselves to appear to be vulnerable and, of course, that may be a strong impulse in a competitive workplace. However, there is another side to vulnerability. It can be a sign of courage. We can become more resilient and bolder when we embrace who we truly are and what we are feeling. Vulnerability helps to create better connections and relationships with co-workers and managers, which can be powerful drivers in our career.

To overcome the fear of vulnerability and increase this valuable stance, some people focus on accepting their authentic self. This position can be difficult to maintain because everyone has imperfections, and embarrassing stories that they wish could be forgotten. Many people have moments of insecurity or awkwardness, and desperately wish they could change mistakes they have made in the past. So it is wise for everyone to remind themselves that this feeling is very common. No matter how successful, or how beautiful someone appears, almost everyone experiences the same self-doubt and regret.

If you ever feel the slightest bit vulnerable, start doing something positive so that you come closer to your personal version of excellence rather than reaching a point of perfection. Who was the most dynamic, capable person you have ever known? What would you feel if this person said something foolish? Would you totally change your opinion? Probably not. People have good days and bad days. That’s not why you remember them. You focus on their triumphs and shining moments. So, why should you treat yourself differently? Why criticize yourself for the things that you easily and quickly forgive and forget in others? To improve your capacity to accept yourself is to aim for a great result without endlessly straining to reach perfection.

Harnessing the power of vulnerability allows you to ask for what you need at work, to express your feelings even if you are flustered, and to celebrate your achievements when you reach something that you value, and that could be as ordinary as achieving your monthly sales quota. Every time you do that, you give yourself permission to do it again and to surpass it, if you want to and if you can. With every step, your confidence will rise and the trajectory of your career will ascend.

143 Coarse

Occasionally, something happens that shifts a staff member away from the usual social behaviors expected in a workplace. They may have been offended or they may be feeling strongly about something. For those who know the reasons for that person’s attitude and agree with it, they may find this approach acceptable or even praiseworthy. However, for those who neither understand nor agree, that person may find their relationship is strained or even damaged.


Having great social connections is an important component of happiness and professional success. So when people discover that their unintentional behaviors are making it more difficult for them to form or maintain these crucial bonds, it’s probably best to make some changes.

To avoid unintentionally ruffling feathers, and to lower this trait, some people focus on developing empathy. They think about their colleague’s experiences, beliefs, and values. They try to see the world through someone else’s eyes which, in turn, builds a sense of compassion.

A good way to do this is to listen more than you speak. It’s one of the simplest yet most powerful ways to win friends and influence people. You could develop your curiosity for other people’s experiences, and watch your charisma rise. Some coarse people interrupt others when they are talking, which is a perfect way to damage a relationship, so too is finishing someone’s sentences for them.

To avoid such problems developing, watch for signs the other person wants more or less space. They may cross their arms, hold their hand up in a “stop” gesture, avoid eye contact, or turn away. Respect those cues that tell you that they want some personal space. Maybe, you could continue your conversation at another time.

Remember that smiling, adopting an open posture, and engaging in eye contact usually mean that people are enjoying an interaction. Mirroring these positive signals is a great way to build rapport. If you have a complaint, concern, or criticism, speak to the person one-on-one and privately. Discussing disputes openly in front of other colleagues often escalates tensions and breeds hostility. With persistence, you’ll soon be wowing your office colleagues, managers, and clients with your polite prowess.

141 Untroubled

When someone accepts the current situation, whether adverse or favorable, that is the definition of being untroubled. That doesn’t mean they don’t care. Possibly, they have a broader view, and they are relying on their knowledge and experience. Reaching a desired result is rarely achieved without meeting and overcoming obstacles, and it often involves experiencing some pain. Professionals who are prepared may rise above difficulties to achieve greater success.


If you want to stay happy, healthy, and productive at work, you need to keep stress to a minimum and to remain cool, calm, and composed throughout the day. But how, exactly, can you do that?

It can be easy for professionals to overlook their past accomplishments and instead focus on the obstacles they’re currently facing. Doing this can make it challenging for you to recognize your abilities and knowledge gained from previous jobs. Therefore, to increase this trait, try to reflect on your experiences, or make a list of your past achievements. This can help you remember how you overcame previous workplace situations and if you can apply the same strategy again, you’ll naturally be less troubled about it all.

Accepting that growth is a continual process can enhance the feeling of being untroubled. Often, achieving growth can be disheartening for professionals, as the process is continual and often involves making mistakes.

While you may feel inadequate at times, you can overcome your emotions by accepting that growth isn’t linear. Try to welcome the mistakes you make and face workplace obstacles with the belief that you have the ability to get past them. If you are feeling low, pace yourself so you don’t end up being overly negative and stressed. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if you are flying high, pace yourself so you don’t end up being rash and overconfident, which could lead to stress in the coming future.

Lastly, remember that winning the war is better than winning the battle. So don’t trouble yourself with always wanting to emerge victorious from every situation at work because you’ll lose sight of your larger professional goal and forget that there are multiple paths up the mountain.

By continuing on your current path, you’ll find yourself untroubled all the way to the top.

136 Unable to Give

There are times when a person is unwilling to offer something in a particular situation. Maybe they think that they have nothing useful to give or that they are dealing with a lost cause. Those types of situations are very common in the workplace. However, there could be other reasons they are holding back. Sometimes, it is too easy to conclude that being ungiving indicates a deep level of reticence or uncertainty. Someone’s stance may be based on nothing of the sort. It is entirely possible that they are simply being realistic. They will have to figure out how deeply they are feeling this way and why.


Sometimes, it seems that selfish, uncharitable behavior is encouraged to support the individualistic drive to achieve success. In parallel, the self-centered person is damaged by an attitude that focuses on having no interest and offering no help to their co-workers. Why is that so? Because, ignoring other people isolates the selfish person. And, this negative attribute is exaggerated when healthy individuals recognize and naturally try to avoid the selfish one. Good professional relationships open doors and create career opportunities that might otherwise be closed. That’s the risk the selfish person is taking.

When people notice even a hint of this attribute in themselves, they can often decrease it by paying more attention to their co-workers. They may hold open the office door for a colleague. They may glance up from their computer occasionally to notice how people are behaving. Such minor actions can help to open their eyes to the opportunities for selfless behavior that they had never considered closely.

Giving more isn’t about ignoring yourself but paying attention to others. Look at your life for a moment. There must be someone who you believe is selfish and does not care about you. No-one would want to be seen like that by their work colleagues. And, most people would hope they could make changes that would stop that impression in its tracks.

Remember that many successful people do not need to try to get ahead of everyone all the time. They do not always have to come out first, and they do not have to be the best at everything.

It is common for those who are strongly uncharitable to never admit defeat. However, losing is a necessary and inevitable part of life, and the humbling feeling when others seem to win can have great, positive effects on an extremely selfish individual.

As we all try to achieve success while avoiding the pitfalls of selfishness, our work colleagues will develop a greater sense of trust as they observe simple acts of giving and thoughtfulness. Any good manager knows that peer recognition is the highest form of praise, and this in itself will demonstrate your true value. 

135 Touched

When someone has been emotionally moved, that feeling may affect how they think and behave. There is nothing necessarily wrong with that. In fact, there might be quite a lot that’s right about it. When others know how that person feels, they may understand and accept that person’s position more readily. It is possible that the person who is touched will discover who shares their values and concerns, and who doesn’t. If staff and managers agree with that person’s feelings, they may have landed in a sweet spot.


When organizations first hear about co-workers increasing their emotional engagement at work, their first thought is usually, does it really matter? The answer is “yes.” Colleagues who are only transactionally engaged at work tend to focus on their financial returns and incentives. Typically, they do the minimum amount of work to achieve their target. In their mind, their job is a soulless business deal. However, people who allow themselves to be emotionally touched by the lives of their colleagues and who truly feel attached to their organization’s mission, often chart out a path which is powerfully beneficial to themselves and everyone else.

Of course, this emotional engagement should not be taken to extremes, but a good balance of head and heart in a workplace brings nothing but benefits. By offering simple gestures like expressing your gratitude strengthens your emotional connection with colleagues and managers which enhances overall relationship satisfaction. Regularly saying “thank you” or acknowledging efforts can keep you more in touch with them on a deeper level.

Sometimes, it can be an advantage to increase your vulnerability. Some people mistake this stance for weakness or fragility, but it is actually the foundation of authentic leadership and meaningful connection. Expressing your vulnerability can help build trust because we often mask such emotions at work. Embracing vulnerability can be a measure of your emotional intelligence: being yourself, genuine, honest, trustworthy, and relatable, which are all powerful traits of a successful professional.

Be warned though, even in a more supportive organizational environment, emotional exposure, expressing doubts, and admitting failures can be stressful for many people. Encouraging vulnerability isn’t a green light to offload all your personal or office complaints to anyone who’ll listen. Never allow it to become a way of seeking sympathy. Vulnerability without boundaries can quickly turn sour. You should only share information, emotions and experiences with appropriate people, and if it’s the right thing to do, with the one aim of moving your current work or career forward.

Overall, interacting in a more rounded way with colleagues who also can be emotionally touched and engaged can lift everyone’s motivation, productivity, and willingness to remain loyal to their organization and its mission.

134 Tolerant

Someone who is able and willing to cope with people and situations that don’t suit their temperament or values is clearly tolerant. Even though they may be open, caring, and sensitive, they almost certainly have their limits. Everyone does. However, their accepting attitude is likely to be admired and even emulated in their workplace. Tolerance is sometimes seen as a weakness but, in a professional environment, it can be a source of great strength.


Sometimes it seems that people are becoming less tolerant of differences in opinions. Whether true or not, the internet and particularly the social media “echo chamber” have been blamed for our opinions becoming more polarised and rigid over time. So it’s important to listen carefully to others, and to understand that there are many points of view, and that differences of opinion are not necessarily bad. By showing and demonstrating tolerance, you may be exercising patience, or even good humor, both of which can be seen as virtues. Tolerance is also a demonstration of resilience, that powerful skill of bouncing back after experiencing adversity.

Clearly, there are times when tolerance is not an appropriate response but mostly, in the workplace, it has an important, positive role to play. To increase tolerance, always consider or recognize that if a colleague or manager annoys you, that is possibly your problem rather than theirs. It is probably too much to expect others to change how they behave, or what they believe, simply because you find it annoying. It is likely you have little or no control over them. However, you can control yourself and your emotions.

Remember that an irritating colleague will not be in your life forever. Your circumstance and theirs are always changing and, while you are working together, there may be lessons about human behavior that can help you in the future. So, increasing your level of tolerance may be highly advantageous.

By closely assessing annoying behaviors, you may discover that they only occur at particular times or in identifiable situations. So, you can be prepared for them and you can relax or even enjoy that person’s company during the rest of the time.

Successful people are often extremely competent at interpersonal relationships. It is possible that they may be tolerant because they want to get the best out of you and to clearly understand you and your motivations. A classic sign of a tolerant person is that they treat everyone they meet and with whom they work with respect and dignity. Tolerant people know that human differences are opportunities for learning and growth and they make the most of these chances. Continue this approach to gain benefits for yourself.

133 Timid

Timid people may often feel uncomfortable or uncertain. It must be unpleasant, to say the least. They may be continually unsure about what to do or say. Maybe a new or unexpected situation has arisen and, for that reason, doubts or caution are on the rise. Maybe they are watching a situation more intensely than usual. Taking a more positive view, observing closely can bring advantages that teach people how to be less tentative and how to express their true feelings more openly. As they carefully think through their concerns, some timid people may find their self-confidence increases.


Being timid is a completely normal reaction, but it may close off some opportunities for anyone feeling that way while at work. Luckily, there are some useful techniques that everyone can employ to become more comfortable when putting our point of view forward. The first may be obvious, but it’s important. We should try to figure out what it is that actually makes us hold back when we are at work. Are some or all of our colleagues intimidating? Do we lack confidence in our role? Getting to the core of this problem will help us to understand why we feel this way and may lead us to a solution.

Feeling uncomfortable and isolating yourself can lead to an unhappy work life. Asking questions when you’re feeling timid might be the last thing you want to do. However, wanting to learn more often takes the spotlight off you and shows that you are interested in getting to understand something. At the same time, you will learn more about the people who answer.

That approach can make it much easier to develop stronger connections in the future. Don’t forget to thank them for their answers. Then, get on with your normal duties. It’s pretty simple but mighty powerful if you use this technique consistently.

Another way forward leads on from that. Once you know a little about someone, find some common ground. Maybe you share an interest in sports, or you like an actor who they like. Maybe you travel to work along a similar route or take the same train or bus. It doesn’t matter what the common ground is because it is simply a safe and comfortable way to reconnect. You will become more confident as they learn more about you.

People with strong communication skills may copy a posture, gesture, or tone of voice of the person with whom they are talking. This increases empathy in the relationship and suggests that you understand what they are saying and you agree with the seriousness, or otherwise, of the issue under discussion.

Another important approach to overcoming timidity is relevant when you are taking on new responsibilities at work. It is very rare for anyone to excel immediately after they take on their new position. As a result, you may begin to question your professional abilities and feel increasingly anxious. Keeping in mind that this is completely normal, it is wise to make a consistent effort to practice new skills or behaviors required of you and to take careful note of their characteristics. You could even create a checklist or a set of personal reminders to use until you become familiar with the new tasks you have to perform. Eventually, your activities will feel like second nature and any sense of timidity will fade into a distant memory.

132 Thoughtful

After carefully considering a situation at work, you may sense that you have a clear idea about what’s happening, whether you express it or not. Your strong professional and personal insight gives you the best chance of reaching your potential and assisting your organization to perform at its best.


Being thoughtful about your professional duties is all about taking your work seriously. It is likely that you do that quite effectively already. Your comments, insights, and advice will more likely be accepted or even sought out. But there is another important aspect of being thoughtful that can help you directly and can be a powerful driver of team building.

It is important to get this clear. You do not have to demonstrate your thoughtfulness by baking cookies for co-workers, running the office birthday calendar, or taking on the duties for a mysteriously absent staff member. If you are too nice at work you may face a host of potential pitfalls.

Being a professional in an office means interacting in relatively close quarters with potentially stressed-out people thrown together by circumstance. And, that experience is more pleasant and productive when people are thoughtful. But thoughtfulness is about more than being nice. You can be nice without much reflection or consideration. Thoughtful people are those who pay attention to those around them, reflect on situations, and then choose to respond and act in a purposeful way, whether their focus is on a professional or personal issue.

Let’s start by practicing a pause before you react. It’s arguably the most important method to ensure you are more thoughtful in your communication. When hearing others speak, we’re conditioned to react in the moment, especially when faced with a message that is designed to trigger our response. By practicing this self-awareness, you can teach yourself to pause before you react. Holding back, even for a moment, gives you the chance to calm yourself and formulate a thoughtful reaction. A one-breath pause is usually all it takes. You will likely be seen as considerate which builds trust among your workplace colleagues.

You can build your thoughtfulness by asking colleagues what is going on in their lives and make some effort to remember the answers. This is simple, and yet it goes a long way. If you ask them what they’re up to this weekend, and they tell you they are going to the beach. That following Monday, you should ask them how the beach was. People are surprisingly shocked when you do this, but it is an absurdly easy way to make other people feel important and boost your status at the same time.

Do you give yourself the benefit of the doubt? While you may always seem to have good reasons for what you do, sometimes people thoughtlessly ascribe negative motivations and intentions to the actions of others. A person may be facing a difficult situation which caused them to act in a particular way. You never really know what is going on in their mind, or what may be occurring in their personal life. So, keep a positive mindset and give people the benefit of the doubt. No matter how you choose to implement it, thoughtfulness can provide highly valuable returns for your career.

131 Startled 

Someone who is surprised by something or someone can be described as being startled. They are taken aback. They are feeling disconcerted. Possibly, they are even at a loss for words. Whatever their reaction, being startled is often short lived. It may be the right time to rethink and refresh so that they can realign their values with those of their organization.


We’re all different in how much uncertainty we can cope with in our lives. Some people seem to enjoy taking risks and living unpredictably, while others find the randomness of life deeply distressing. But all of us have a limit. If you feel taken aback, it’s important to know that many of us find ourselves feeling the same way at particular times. It’s also important to realize there are steps you can take to deal more effectively with uncontrollable circumstances, to alleviate your anxiety or surprise and to face the unknown with more confidence.

Before you panic or react impulsively when confronted with something new, take a moment to assess the situation. How does it affect your work priorities or larger career goals? What are possible solutions or appropriate reactions? By asking yourself these questions, you can pause for breath and gain some clarity and perspective. The last thing you would want to do is to jump to conclusions or decisions that may prove to be unwise or incorrect.

Communication is key when dealing with work surprises. You need to inform your manager, your co-workers, and even your clients about any new or surprising situations and how you plan to handle them. You also need to listen carefully to feedback, expectations, and suggestions. Communicating effectively can help you to build trust and cooperation. If what happened is irreversible, what good would you gain by becoming overly stressed? It may be more useful to think constructively about what you should do next.

How should you adjust to the new situation? Should you correct it, improve it, or just try to make the most of it? No-one has absolute certainty over what tomorrow will bring, so worrying, micromanaging, or procrastinating only offer the illusion of having some control over a situation when those reactions probably change nothing?

No matter how much you plan and prepare for every possible outcome, life will find a way of surprising you. Every effort toward reaching certainty probably increases worries and deepens anxieties, so it would be wise to stop those behaviors now.

Remember that nasty surprises at work can take a toll on your mental health, so take the time to de-stress and recharge after dealing with them. Strive to restore your sense of equilibrium and return to the true, positive path along which your skills and efforts are guiding you.

Of course, good surprises are always welcome. You may not take so long to recover from them.

130 Superior

A superior person may believe they are better placed to understand a situation than other people. That may be a great feeling to experience and, if they are wise, they will have already thanked those who helped them get to that superior place. Offering a little humility will go a long way to smoothing any ruffled feathers among those who are not so lucky or so talented. Remember, pride comes before a fall.


In its extreme form, a superiority complex leads people to have an exaggerated sense of their self-worth based on their puffed-up sense of self-importance. In some people, it might be seen as obnoxious boastfulness; in others, it might give rise to preposterous, full-blown delusions of grandeur.

Most people agree that it is important that they do not allow this stance to develop into something that can cause trouble, particularly at work.

A good technique to use is to check for any underlying insecurities you may have. It’s possible your feelings arise from a sense of self-esteem that is lower than it should be. That may be caused by a specific issue or a particular event. By knowing what the cause may be, you can take action to remedy that.

This sort of self-examination can help anyone discover some useful insights that they can use more broadly. They could ask themselves, “Am I overusing words like “no,” “but,” and “however?” These responses constantly challenge the validity of other people’s ideas and suggestions. For example, if you are listening to one of your team members outlining a new strategy and you respond with, “That’s a great idea, but…” or “What you’re saying makes sense. However…” This habit automatically suggests a conflict is brewing.

You could make a new start by holding your tongue. Consider whether the criticism or challenge you want to make is important or justified. If it’s not, keep it to yourself and say it in a more positive, supportive way like, “That’s a great idea and if we could do (insert your idea) we can gain (insert a benefit) or avoid (insert a problem).”

It is important to evaluate whether winning a certain situation will actually provide you with any long-term benefits. Is this particular win actually about making tangible progress, such as clinching a sale or improving the result of a project, or is it just about boosting your status? If your success in an interaction actually leads to real benefits for everyone and your organization, your colleagues’ confidence in you will rise as will your reputation. At that point there will clearly be no necessity for anyone to feel superior.

129 Submissive

A submissive person appears to be accepting and agreeable when someone else is in charge. That is normal as long as they trust or acquiesce to their superior’s judgment. Sometimes, it’s helpful for people feeling submissive to distinguish between hostility and disagreement. The first may harm the relationship between them and their manager. The second can strengthen the relationship because it is based on mutual respect.


Whether someone has been working for an organization for years or they are being interviewed for a new role, it’s obviously important that they conform with the corporate culture and not go against the grain. Falling in line to meet professional expectations will do you far more good than harm. There are certain standards of conduct in the workplace, and most people understand their careers can hinge on the interpersonal relationships formed there. There is nothing inherently bad about being submissive in relation to these issues.

If you work in an environment in which you are punished for asserting yourself, submissiveness can be considered a pretty sensible, even admirable, approach to take. However, when feeling submissive contributes to any hint of unhappiness or when it harms your career, it could develop into a problem. You can measure this trait by noticing events like overly confident, even loud-mouth, co-workers receiving pay rises and other benefits before you do.

You may not be anywhere near that level of concern but it is important to keep a sharp eye on appropriate submissive attitudes while ensuring they do you no harm.

If you need to weaken submissive attitudes and behaviors, start noticing the quality of your eye contact during conversations. If you have trouble maintaining eye contact with someone, they may imagine that you lack confidence. Don’t allow that to continue. Practice making eye contact, even if it’s uncomfortable at first.

Are you apologizing too much? Stop doing it. Saying you are sorry too often makes you seem weak and indecisive. Only apologize when you’ve actually done something wrong. Then, you will begin to appear stronger.

Speaking in a hesitant, questioning manner can make you seem uncertain. The last thing you want people to imagine is that you are a pushover. So, speak clearly and decisively from now on.

Do you notice that you sometimes avoid speaking up in group discussions or meetings? Try sharing your thoughts and ideas confidently. Everyone’s input is valuable, including yours, and you have the right to express yourself. In fact, your organization would probably benefit from hearing from you.

Recognizing appropriate and inappropriate submissive behaviors, even if you are not overly prone to them, is a big step towards overcoming or avoiding them and taking more control of your professional future. 

128 Steadfast

Adopting a steady and robust stance can be impressive. People may be convinced by that tone. Steadfast people are unlikely to relent or to change because, usually, they are sure that what they are doing is beneficial for their organization and for themselves. Some steadfast people feel calm and confident because they are sure they have nothing to hide. They sometimes focus on simple and practical ways to achieve organizational goals. Also, they typically express their point of view to their managers and clients because they believe they can overcome any obstacles they meet.


Consistency is key to achieving success in any aspect of life. Embracing steadfastness can help you become more productive, build better habits, and ultimately achieve your professional goals. It’s important to recognize that being steadfast is not just about being rigid or inflexible but it’s about having a sense of purpose and sticking to it. It’s about being patient and persistent in the face of challenges and setbacks.

To maintain or increase this powerful attribute, you could do something that is helpful and perfectly obvious. Make a decision to be steadfast every day this week at work. That gives you an immediate direction before an ounce of work has even begun. It leads you to where you should be, even if there are challenges along the way.

Of course, you have to decide what to be steadfast about. You could focus on your beliefs and knowledge. You could particularly adhere to those values that align with those of your organization. That will put you in an extraordinary position of personal power.

Remember that your mind can visualize something as if it were real. When you imagine being committed at work, you will push hard to do better and to unleash an improved version of yourself. That can drive your determination to follow the same process to boost your career to greater success.

Visualization is a powerful technique, and it can help reprogram your mind to think and “see” what you want to happen.

If you notice that you feel anything less than steadfast, start working on the small things that will elevate your personal strength and do it quickly. Every time you commit to a decision or make your position clear and then follow through, you’ll be increasing your capacity to be a successful steadfast professional.

It is interesting to realize that postponing or ignoring irrelevancies can actually help people, either at work or in their personal life. This approach can help individuals to overcome negatives in their life like bad habits at work or addictive behaviors at home. By telling themselves, “Not now, later,” they can gradually generate the determination to kick any bad influence for ever. This important switch in your mindset is vital to become more steadfast and helps you to achieve more success.

127 Sorrowful

It is very unpleasant for someone to be feeling down about something that they wish had never happened. It may be absolutely right to react in this manner, but this is not a good place to dwell for too long, especially when there is work to be done and goals to be achieved. A time will come when a sorrowful person must decide how long they want this negative mood to continue.


When people feel down or miserable, they often need to remind themselves that they are not alone in feeling this way. Everyone has something (or many things) that they regret or feel guilty about. However, there are ways to heal and move forward, particularly, by showing some understanding.

People who shed their sorrow often begin the process by forgiving themselves. They may not have caused this sadness but may be feeling guilty because they feel so bad. So they start by making amends with themselves.

This may be particularly relevant if you have suffered some loss that cannot be retrieved. In this situation, it is a cliché but it remains true, that time will heal you but your loss may never be forgotten. In some cases, that pain should never be forgotten.

On the other hand, if you believe that you or someone else has made a poor decision, then offering yourself and them some compassion can make a difference. Learning the lesson a mistake has taught you can be an excellent way of forgiving yourself. It may also demonstrate to those who need to know that you recognize and regret a failing. Offering a simple apology or accepting someone else’s can increase the respect all round and is likely to help to lift spirits more quickly than you may imagine.

If you alone have made some error, you may not receive forgiveness immediately, or ever, particularly if you have hurt someone deeply. Apologies don’t always mend a broken trust. But, at least, sincerely apologizing can help you to heal because it offers you the chance to express your feelings and hold yourself accountable.

When people feel sorrowful, it is important that they avoid being swept up in imaginary what-if scenarios. It’s natural to think that if a different decision had been made, the outcome may have been better. But, of course, it may also have been worse. No-one can truly know what alternative outcomes could have been, so it is best not to be caught up in that fantasy.

Remember that, when people feel a little guilty about something, it can serve as a positive alarm that lets them know that they’ve made a choice that potentially conflicts with their personal values. Instead of letting it overwhelm you, try to put its energy to work. When used as a tool, feeling even a little remorse can cast light on areas of ourselves with which we feel dissatisfied. Taking action to address those circumstances can set anyone on a path that’s more in line with their life and career goals. 

Bottom 4 Results

Considering Other Opinions

33 32  31 Great 100% Rising Very Rapidly

It is quite possible that you have made up your mind and you may have made your point to work colleagues. But now you want to know about other perspectives. Your team or your supervisors may well be impressed with your rising openness to hear and consider other people’s opinions. Insisting on testing different facts and conclusions strengthens your understanding and the insight of your work colleagues, which can only help your organization. Judging information against corporate values helps to make decisions strong and long-lasting.

30 29  28 Strong 84% Rising Rapidly

You seem to be clear about your point of view, but you want to hear from others to be sure you are on the right track. Those you work with may focus intensely on your approach and some may applaud it. They may be pleased to have the chance to step forward and provide their insight, particularly if they have relevant experience. Rigorously testing facts and conclusions usually ensures that the truth and the best path forward can be discovered to the benefit of everyone. Your rapidly rising inclination to listen to other opinions may well lead to you being more respected and, potentially, highly valued.

27  26  25 Positive 67% Rising Slowly

No matter how you are feeling, you appear to be increasingly willing to consider the perspectives of your colleagues and, possibly, insights or advice from people who are not directly linked to your professional duties. It may be the case that you want to hear from those who understand and may be in general agreement with your stance. From this support, a fresh, positive resolve may develop that helps you, your team, and your organization.

24  23  22 Moderate 50% Falling Slowly

Although you seem to have a reasonably firm opinion, you have not totally closed your mind to other perspectives. So, you may be near to achieving an acceptable balance that will encourage positive interaction with your manager and co-workers. At the very least, listening to other perspectives will help you to defend your position, if it becomes necessary. If that’s what you want, keep going.

21  20  19 Somewhat limited 34% Falling Rapidly

Your stance seems to be very strongly set at the moment, and you appear to have little inclination to accept other perspectives, even if you state otherwise. Maybe the time for thinking is over. Maybe, a deadline is approaching and, now, decisions and actions need to be taken. So, any new information or insight is unlikely to change your mind. Remember that, even at this stage, at least acknowledging other points of view can increase understanding and encourages people to respect you. If you take the time to do this, you may find people admire you for your firmness of purpose, which is no bad thing.

18  17  18 Slight 17% Falling Very Rapidly

Because you seem to be feeling very sure of your position at the moment, you may believe you are unlikely to give an inch to any differing perspectives. That may well be true and you may be perfectly correct in your stance. The time for debate may be over. The time for decision and action may have arrived. More effort spent on thinking may drain the energy and impetus that is essential for productive progress. Is it time to show that you have a firm resolve that is based on reason? It is important that you avoid any suggestion that you are dismissive of other people or their point of view. It is vital that you do not express yourself using harsh or negative emotions. Afterall, the more your colleagues support you, the better.

Personal Focus

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Making a Decision; Taking Action (Inforce)

It seems you have reached a moment of potential change. You may be wanting to promote a decision or, maybe, you have already done so. It seems that you believe that something has to happen to create a new situation. Only then will the benefits arise or become possible.


At such a pivotal moment, it is often useful to focus on the preparations you have made. You could remind yourself and others of the insight you have had and the work you have done to take advantage of the situation. Some may need to understand the urgency of the circumstances so you can ensure the changes you want to happen actually go ahead. Is it time to make a move? If you are fully prepared and know all the implications, you can give yourself the go-ahead.

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Expressing Your Feelings (Infeel)

It is likely that you have considered ideas, issues, or events and you have made up your mind. It may be that you are feeling happy or unhappy but, either way, your emotions seem to be dominating right now. It is likely that anyone you are dealing with has a pretty good sense of where you stand. If they don’t, they will if they stay in contact with you for any length of time.


You may experience a brief surge of relief after you have expressed your emotions but, as is often the case, it may not be very productive. To use the insight and energy you have generated, it may be wise to take the next step. That is, to make a decision or to take some action. That doesn’t mean you do so without being very aware of the consequences. In fact, you may have deeply considered the implications of doing such a thing. Strong emotions are often a summarized expression of a set of logical processes, whether right or wrong. For the expression to be fully manifested, something needs to change. If you do nothing, your feelings may evaporate into thin air and you may soon start seeing the same ideas, issues, or events occurring once more, driving you to the same point where you experience an emotional outburst.

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Holding To Your Values (Infix)

All of us gather information through our senses. We see, hear, touch, taste, and smell things then we name them, sort them, and prioritize them. So, our brain is absorbing and categorizing incoming information and deciding what it means. Then, our conclusions are filtered through the massive library that we hold in our mind that contains everything that we know and believe. It’s an incredible process. Right now, it seems you are mainly focused on this third step. You are working through the information you have received and the conclusions you have drawn so that you can judge how it all sits with what you know. Some conclusions may fit perfectly into good or bad categories. Others may create uncertainty as your understanding is conflicted with positive and negative knowledge which appears to be equally balanced.


The deeper the insights and breadth of knowledge you apply at this point, the stronger and more influential you will become. However, there is something that happens next that makes all the difference. This is when you shift your focus to the external world. You express yourself through your feelings or actions. That means that people around you will know the product of your internal process. So, to test and strengthen your ability to think, you should make it clear what you feel and demonstrate your position by doing something. The latter, particularly, will create new information that your senses will absorb and the process of gaining deeper and more profound knowledge will continue to grow.

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Deciding What Facts Mean (Infer)

At the heart of your rational processes, you draw conclusions. You see a seagull. You hear crashing waves. You feel warm sand under your bare feet. So, you conclude that you are at the beach. It’s like adding numbers: 1 + 1 + 1 = 3. If you have any doubts, you can always gather more facts through your senses to test your first conclusion. The better you perform this process, the more likely it is that you will survive and thrive in your professional and private life.


Simply by realizing the process you are using will help you to make your rational process stronger. You can collect more information more quickly. You can gather it from more than your senses by using other people’s insights, too. If you know their particular strengths, you can increase the power of your thinking exponentially. But what happens to the conclusions you draw? You allow them to accumulate in a massive library in your mind that is called your knowledge or your beliefs. That’s where you can test your conclusions to see if they fit with what you already understand. From there, you can accept, reject, or hold for further investigation. That’s where your rational process reaches its greatest power. Are you ready to take your next step?

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Gathering Real Information (Info)

One of the most important human activities is to notice things. Through our senses, we see, hear, smell, touch, and taste. We gather millions of pieces of information every waking moment. Sometimes, we absorb too many facts too quickly and we get overwhelmed. We can see that can happen with the deluge of information that the internet and social media provides. However, overall, the more information you can receive, the better you can perform, whether that is in your professional or private life.

Boost Once you are aware of your habits and biases in relation to your senses, you can improve your fact gathering abilities. Maybe you are a strong listener. There is nothing wrong with that because some of the best professionals have powerful listening skills. But, if you add improved observation skills, you will benefit hugely. More than that, what you do with the information you receive is extremely important. The main question you must ask is “What do these facts mean?” When you ask that, you have made the facts become pieces of evidence. And, those pieces of evidence will inevitably lead to a conclusion. So, a set of facts are like loose beads. Once they are threaded together, they become a necklace. So sorting, categorizing, and prioritizing facts helps to create meaning. There is massive power and potential in developing that simple skill.

Offering Time and Effort (Energy)


Minimal 20% Falling Rapidly

It seems that, right now, you are not inclined to put your energy to work for some cause. Maybe your job is already too demanding or maybe you think your efforts will not create a good result or any worthwhile outcome at all. Although some of your colleagues may think you are not pulling your weight, there may be a perfectly sound explanation for your stance. Maybe they should be told. If you put more energy into this, it could possibly make a substantial difference.


Modest 40% Falling Slowly

Sometimes, the intellectual effort applied to a workplace issue can be just as effective as providing time and activity. However, you seem to be, at least, willing to provide a reasonable amount of energy to help your fellow workers or your organization more generally. If everyone puts their shoulder to the wheel, there is a good chance that success would be achieved. Will you make the effort? It may make the difference between success and failure.


Moderate 60% Rising Slowly

It seems you are ready to spend time and work effort to get something done. Most supervisors would be pleased with what you are prepared to give and would like to see that level of participation being offered by staff. Nothing helps a team pull together better than individuals stepping up and giving their professional skills for the greater good. And, that often results in the person receiving a benefit, as well.

Strong 80% Rising Rapidly

Being supportive by offering a great deal of your time and energy can be a tremendous help to ensure that corporate objectives are reached. Usually, those objectives are expressed positively, but they may be expressed negatively, particularly, if situations or people are hindering progress. It seems that you want to be involved and you are ready to make a difference. Your behavior will probably build stronger bonds with your colleagues, and many may be impressed with your dynamic approach. If so, keep it up.


Very Strong 100% Rising Very Rapidly

Whether you bring your energy into play positively or negatively, your activity won’t be missed. It seems you are increasingly ready to commit your time and your strength to push something forward and to clear away anything that may be a hindrance. This is the stuff of leadership which will impress your peers and, more particularly, those who play a more senior role in your organization. Impressive.

Intellectual Engagement


Acceptable 20% Falling Rapidly

Although at a modestly acceptable level, there are very few clear indications of your intellectual engagement. Maybe you are not interested or possibly you are too busy doing productive things. Maybe you have thought about an issue and you don’t need to think about it anymore. Be aware that new information can appear at any time and catch you out. New perspectives and new arguments can trip you up, as well. It is usually wise to keep thinking as you continue to listen and observe. A rapidly falling level of intellectual engagement can be a trap that you set for yourself to tumble into. Do your best to avoid that fate.


Moderate 40% Falling Slowly

There appear to be only a moderate number of signs that you are intellectually engaged at the moment. This is not a dangerous situation to be in but, if you slip into complacency, there will be a rising risk that you will be surprised by new information and, possibly, find yourself unprepared. To maintain or boost your level of engagement, it may be wise to focus on the quality of your interactions with your work colleagues and manager. Make sure you ask them pertinent questions and closely consider their answers. If you have reached a point of certainty, it may be worthwhile to regularly check with others to ensure that certainty is still valid.


Quite Strong 60% Rising Slowly

It is apparent that your level of intellectual engagement is quite strong and rising slowly. If so, it should hold you in good stead. To maintain this, continue asking questions, seeking information, and challenging your own assumptions. Doing so will help you to maintain or boost your level of engagement. This involves quite a mental effort but it is worthwhile because it ensures you avoid falling into a risky state of comfortable complacency. Your intellect is your most potent weapon and most protective shield. Never let either of these assets fall out of your control. Keep going.


High 80% Rising Rapidly

When you are highly intellectually engaged, you make yourself a formidable player in any professional setting. It becomes apparent to your colleagues, managers, and executives, that you have gathered pertinent evidence, drawn conclusions, and probably considered the correct position to take in relation to corporate values. Because you have put in that effort, your engagement is rising rapidly. As a consequence, you will help to shape and guide decisions within your organization and you will be remembered when higher level job vacancies arise and when new opportunities are made available. Whatever you are doing, keep going. You are on the path to success.


Very High 100% Rising Very Rapidly

Some people operate at the highest level of intellectual engagement as a matter of course. Their mind operates like that without any effort or enforced self-discipline. For other people, they have to work very hard to think and argue successfully about complex or far-reaching issues in a professional setting. Either way, you appear to be striving to reach a higher level of intellectual engagement, which means you are likely to gain the most benefit from this approach. Everyone you deal with will notice. Those with an open mind will be highly impressed. However, be aware that some people may react differently. Those who see you as a competitor or as someone with greater abilities may become envious. It may be wise to engage with them in a positive way so that you can work together to achieve the results you both believe are worthwhile. This approach may give you even more strength than you currently enjoy.